Adanma
Mom to 2 lovely boys
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Okay, I just need to get a few things off my chest. I am currently ttc #3 so I read a lot on the forums for that. I also have a 5.5 year old son who has Asperger's and a neurotypical 3 year old son. I understand that people hope and dream for perfect children. I understand that, and I felt that my first pregnancies, and I feel it now ttc #3. However, it makes my blood boil when people say things like they are actively trying to have a girl because there are more boys with autism. That goes beyond hoping for a healthy baby and into the realm of designer babies and eugenics. When I was pregnant with Ian (AS) did I touch my belly and think of how great it would be when he wouldn't make eye contact with me? No. Did I dream of the day we would be stopped in the mall because he was having a meltdown that was so bad it looked like we were kidnapping him? No. But I can tell you this: I knew as soon as I knew I was pregnant that no matter what condition my child was in when he was born, I wanted him. And he is my pride and joy. And it's hurtful when people are terrified they'll have a child like yours.
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