Conceiving right after natural MC before AF

[hop]

Hi everyone! New here and after reading every single thread, I wanted to jump in. I could definitely use some buddies and support and advice.

I've literally never tried to get pregnant before. It was a total surprise when I found out I was at the beginning of April and then even more of a shock when I miscarried on April 27th.

The miscarriage was natural, everything went fine...I guess as fine as something like that could go.

The whole thing rocked my world and made me realize that I actually do want a baby. Frustrating that I realize this after a loss...

I'd really like to to conceive quickly. I've seen that quite a few women here have conceived after an MC without having AF first and that sounds like the most ideal scenario to me!

Question is: how? I've never used ovulation tests. I've never paid attention to signs of ovulation. I have no idea how the body works after miscarriage and after reading the threads, it looks like AF could be six weeks or more away?! How will I know when to test? I haven't been testing my HCG levels...I didn't realize I should have been until coming here...

Anyway, anyone please weigh in. Share your experiences and advice. I would love to make some new friends here. I'm already driving myself bananas wondering about every little cramp and headache and wondering when I'll start my period....I'm not sure how I'm going to make it through the next month without losing my mind.

 

[Lauralily]

I had a miscarriage on the 21st March, all natural. Once the bleeding stopped we DTD every other night, I had period app which gave me a rough ovulation day, but every other night was good and it worked! Good luck xx

 

[hop]

Wow that's awesome, congrats.

When did you know to test? When did you start to have symptoms again?

I sort of wish I had waited only because I feel like this is going to be more confusing.

 

[Bushmumma]

Hi hop and welcome here sorry about your loss.
Strange as it is I'm kinda in the same boat DH and fell pregnant in jan and mc end of march a natural mc well a mmc baby stopped growing at 5w6d and 12w scan showed that. 3 days after I began to bleed and did so for a week, we BD'd nearly every night In hope to concieve again before the came.. Infact I did get a faint positive just two days before I spotted again for another week! Not sure if it was a proper af or what but been BD'ing every other night or more since bleeding stopped...

I think I'm now 8-10dpo and positive I'm pregnant... I'll take a test in the morning with FMU and pray while I wait, I hope it's not to early for it to show hcg.. My app says to test in 6 days so I may be jumping the gun a little but I want it soooo bad!

I've never done any of this before the loss so I'm new to it too, I only know a little bit , on the 8th may my I had EWCM and the next day it was creamy so that's why i think I'm between 8-10dpo.... Cm has remained creamy and thick and I have symptoms FXD!!

Perhaps you should every other day and give your self a chance of conceiving before af is due, whenever that may be. By BD'ing every other day you will give yourself the best chance while not knowing your predicted O date.

Best of luck and sticky baby your way xo

 

[hop]

Oh my fingers are crossed so tightly for you! I really hope you get your BFP!

At this point, I'm just really nervous that I'm setting myself up for massive disappointment. I'm already symptom spotting...and I have a good week before I should even start looking for my period!

I keep telling myself that if it doesn't happen right away, that's ok...but deep down, I know I will be really, really bummed if it doesn't work.

We've been pretty often since the MC, but I'm actually trying to be careful not to make my partner feel like I'm trying to drain him of his baby juice. He was a little put off by the MC...seemed hesitant to jump back in the sack because I was so distraught over the whole thing. I don't feel like I'm being deceptive...but is it dishonest of me if I don't share with him this hope I have that we will be able to get pregnant again right away? I just don't want him to feel pressured...that's about as unsexy as it gets. We weren't TTC when we got pregnant, so we've never tried to coordinate baby making...I don't think he'd really appreciate it. I know he would be happy for us to have a baby though, so it's not like he's totally against it and I'm trying to trap him.

 

[Bushmumma]

Bfn this morning , it's only early though so I'll wait a few days.
As for your situation- it's entirely up to you what you do and how you do it, whatever works for you and your DH. By most every other night you will increase your chances ... At this stage of the game it's hit or miss..

My opinion- some men don't want to know all the nitty gritty while others are more than happy to talk about it. My DH is ok with it and I know his limits ... It's easier to have us to talk to it helps... Try to keep the BD'ing fun and then he hopefully won't feel too much pressure... Maybe a talk with him about what he wants and how he is feeling could benignity you both aswell, perhaps talking about what you've learned and that it'll FXD get your BFP faster and the faster you get it the sooner you both will have your LO to snuggle with ..

Again it's up to you darlin ...

 

[kaaylaa123]

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm pretty much in the same exact boat as you! I got my BFP April 15th. We weren't TTC but we weren't NOT trying either...obviously lol. I've always wanted a baby. He never did, until a few years ago. So when we first found out, he was in complete shock & kinda freaked me out, bc I was all filled with joy, & he was scared...but happy. But I ended up miscarrying on May 3rd(started bleeding that day) But on April 30th, the doctors told me I would lose the baby bc my HCG had dropped in half. I stopped bleeding May 9th & we've decided that now we really want a baby together. So we've been doing the dirty...pretty much every night lol. I know you are supposed to every other night. But we're trying to enjoy it & have fun while also TTC.
But that's my story. I've read online that you should wait one cycle after a MC but from my understanding that's just so they can give you an accurate due date. As long as your HCG is back to where it should be & your body is ready & you naturally MC-ed, I think it's okay to try right away. In my opinion, TTC now is the only thing holding me together after the loss. But I wish you the best & I hope you get your BFP this month!!!
PS- I read online 50-60% of first pregnancy's end in MC, that helped me feel a lot knowing that it's very common so I hope that helps put you at ease also.