Confused! please help

[milky_baby]

Hello guys!

I've been with my boyfriend three years, and I am supposed to be going a uni in London to do Journalism. Its really difficult to get in and totally slaved over my application.

However, I have desperately wanted a baby for the last year and I am just not sure what to do. I am from a family where it is just not the done thing to have children young - you go to university, you progress in your career and then you have babies in your early thirties. I would go as far to say I am pretty mature in my own opinion - i have been through major life events and I am very determined.

I am currently working in an office and on a fair wage, and a contract that includes maternity.

I would love to hear from other mums who have had babies young or studied with children - whether it was positive or negative.

Lots of love xxx

 

[leeanne]

Quite truthfully, I would follow your dreams and get your education and career sorted out first before trying for a baby.

I was in my 30's when I started having children and even then, it's tough day-to-day to get what you need to get done.

But it's entirely your decision.

Best wishes!

 

[ella170]

im 17 and pregnant and about to start yr 13 after the summer holidays. i still want to go uni and i know that i can, but if i had a choice i would have waited for at least 10 more years. however, i guess being pregnant has definetly made me more motivated at school, because it makes me want to show that even though i'm pregnant, i'm still capable of getting good grades. i would say start your course first and then start thinking about having a baby.

 

[Sophie1205]

Im 18 and i am 3 months pregnant. My pregnancy wasnt planned but im so glad it happened. Im just sitting my final exams for my A-Levels and i have a place in Uni for this september. now obviously i cant go this year as im due in december, but i can defer my entry to next year and go then and theres all sorts of help with going to uni and having a baby. I think you should do what makes you happy you CAN have an education and a baby xx

 

[nikky0907]

I'll be 19 in a couple of weeks and I'm attending college.I'm just about to finish my first year of it and then I have a deal with my counselor at college to only atend exams for my second year(that starts in September) and come back normally for my third so I'll be able to graduate on time...

It was also very hard for me to get into this college,so I have no intention to give up on it,but I have to tell you that the schoolwork and pregnancy is very hard to deal with...just overwhelming...

this pregnancy was an accident for me even though i wouldn't change my little girl for anything.

I would recommend you to wait,just my recommendation.I mean,if you are in love and you believe that you and your bf will be together forever then you don't mind waiting till you guys are all settled in and have your careers...

Good luck!

 

[armychicmkm]

Ditto what Amy (Nikky0907) said.
Uni and pregnacy/baby can be done but it is not easy. Hindsight 20/20 if I would have realized how much harder it is to keep up with school work during pregnancy I would have waited to TTC. I naively didn't think it would affect that aspect of my life because my classes are all online.

You certainly don't have to wait till you're in your 30s but getting through the 4 year degree (if that's what it is) is probably a good idea. And if you do decide to TTC - try to get it so you're not in class during the first trimester!

 

[mommytashaX2]

Hello guys!

I've been with my boyfriend three years, and I am supposed to be going a uni in London to do Journalism. Its really difficult to get in and totally slaved over my application.

However, I have desperately wanted a baby for the last year and I am just not sure what to do. I am from a family where it is just not the done thing to have children young - you go to university, you progress in your career and then you have babies in your early thirties. I would go as far to say I am pretty mature in my own opinion - i have been through major life events and I am very determined.

I am currently working in an office and on a fair wage, and a contract that includes maternity.

I would love to hear from other mums who have had babies young or studied with children - whether it was positive or negative.

Lots of love xxx

Well my situation was/is similar to yours. I had baby girl at 15 and I still managed to finish high school early too, but I had a lot of help from my mom. I'm not going to say that its easy because its not. Even with help. But I managed to move out and found a great job and now that I'm expecting my second, I have gone on Mat. leave and I am receiving Mat. benefits. I would say that if you think that you will be able to handle it that you should go for it, especially if you know you're going to have the support from your other half. Just make sure that you plan things out before you decide to make the decision so you have an idea of how things are going to be during pregnancy and when baby gets here. School will always be there, but if you have a good opportunity now to go to school and you're not pregnant yet most ppl would say to just go to school because you can always have a baby as well. Its really up to you in the end. It's possible to study and raise a child but its just harder than it would be trying to study with little one here. And you want to make sure that you have the time to cater to the needs of this being. I have decided to study online during my time off and when I go back to work. There's a lot to think about but you sound like you are mature enough to make the decision that is right for you. Just remember that there are never mistakes, only the paths we choose which shape our future. Children are the greatest gifts in the world and will always be worth it no matter how hard it is. Good luck with your decision and feel free to let me know if you ever need to talk

 

[polo_princess]

Quite truthfully, I would follow your dreams and get your education and career sorted out first before trying for a baby.

I agree ...

But you must do what you feel is right for you