Congrats Rainbow Moms! :) When did you get your first AF and re-conceive?

[LucyLake]

Hi everyone! Congrats on your rainbows

I need some reassurance about TTC my rainbow! I found out my baby son had no HB at 8 weeks Feb 13 and miscarried 2 weeks later on Feb 27 via misoprostol. He came out Feb 28 and I got to hold him and bury him! So blessed! I have stopped bleeding and will wait one full cycle and see AF before trying again just to accurately date things and be prepared physically and emotionally.

I just wondered....how long did it take to see your first AF? Was it like clockwork, one month to the day of your D&C, natural MC? Did you temp, use soft cups, ovulation tests, or do any exercise, diet changes that you think helped? Did you go for it before the first AF and how did that work out?

I've been worried that maybe my first few cycles might be wacky and produce no eggs/ovulation. Just wanted some reassurance about how long these journey's post-MC REALLY take Thank you

 

[lxb]

so sorry to hear about your loss hun~

I got a BFP on April 2012 after 8 months TTC. MMC at 8 weeks measuring 6. It took a month after I first found out about the MMC until D&C.

7/09/12 - 2nd appointment 10 weeks measuring 6 weeks
7/10/12 - Medication Round #1
7/12/12 - Severe cramps & passed gestational sac
7/24/12 - Follow up appt, Medication Round #2 (Only had side affect)
7/30/12 - Follow up appt, stil see retaining product
7/31/12 - D&C

8/11/12 - First AF - a bit longer and heavier than normal.

I was pretty lucky that I got my first AF ~2 weeks after d&c. Doc recommended me to wait 3 regular cycles to start ttc again. I waited for one cycle just to see if my cycle is back to ~30 days (and it did). So I started TTC again in Sept 2012.

5 months after first cycle back to TTC, Decided to make appointment in Feb 2013 with Fertility specialist to see if my DH and I are physically okay. Did some blood test along with HSG and things came back normal. Waiting for my follow up appointment with the specialist in April 3rd 2013...but got a BFP today!

But anyways, I know a fellow bnb buddy who got their BFP before their first AF and is now well into her third trimester with a healthy baby boy. And a few others that tried and succeeded after 1st AF and now got their rainbow babies~

Good luck hun

 

[anchor08]

The biggest thing I've learned from these forums is that everyone's recovery is different, so there's a huge range of what's "normal".

I miscarried in early Jan. (started naturally, then took cytotec to speed it along) at 9+4, but it was a blighted ovum so measuring way less than that. Our doctor said we could try again right away, and we did that first cycle before AF, not successfully. I charted my temp and O'd 19 days after the bleeding had started, then AF came 14 days later, so a 32-day cycle (normal for me was 28 with O on day 13). Next cycle I O'd on day 15 and got a bfp yesterday, 13dpo.

If you decide to try before AF comes, I would recommend taking a more relaxed approach than I did, bd every second day or so and see what happens. You can chart to see what's going on, but try not to stress about it (I did!). Once you see what happens that first cycle, you'll have an idea of how long it might take your body to return to normal. Good luck!

 

[amjon]

Our MMC was 8 weeks later. I conceived the next cycle, but it was a chemical. Two months after that conceived the twins.

 

[LucyLake]

Thank you so much ladies. I can't tell you how invaluable this has been for me. My doctor is just terrible and didn't think I'd see a baby, placenta, figured I'd just have a heavy period with the MC. (she was wrong about all 3) As you can imagine, I'm not getting much help in what to expect with that first AF because of how inept she is.

This was SO invaluable to me, because my research has told me it's when the placenta breaks from the wall that you start counting to your next AF, NOT when you have the actual D&C:

7/12/12 - Severe cramps & passed gestational sac
7/24/12 - Follow up appt, Medication Round #2 (Only had side affect)
7/30/12 - Follow up appt, stil see retaining product
7/31/12 - D&C

8/11/12 - First AF - a bit longer and heavier than normal.

I cannot tell you how much I appreciate it. I look forward to being with you rainbowing very soon Congrats on your !!!!

 

[anchor08]

I'm so sorry your doctor wasn't helpful, losses are hard enough as it is! Glad you're finding out what you need to know, and I can't wait to see your bfp announcement! Good luck!

 

[LucyLake]

Thank you again Anchor8. I'm SO happy for you Congrats on your !

I had intercourse yesterday and despite a week of no bleeding post-MC, a few spots of blood when I wiped for a few hours. I'll definitely wait for my AF and am glad he pulled out

My HGC levels have been tested the past two weeks, but I'm not sure what the results are yet....doctors been a bit callous about it all.....but I'm waiting for them to hit 0.

Thank you again and congrats Hope to rainbow and be with you shortly

 

[anchor08]

Argh, that doctor sounds like a pain. Keep pushing for your results, it's not just about when to try again, it's also an indicator of whether the miscarriage is complete, which is a serious medical concern that they need to get right! Good luck, I hope AF comes soon for you!

 

[MandaAnda]

Sorry for your loss. Here's my timeline, in case it helps.

6th Nov - Scan at 12+1 showed a heartbeat and wiggly baby but also a 8cm nuchal fold and fluid in the tummy and chest and a bright bowel. I decided to wait to see what the next scan showed.
15th Nov - Scan showed no heartbeat. I knew it would. I'd felt a sort of disconnect on the 11th. Given Misoprostol.
17th Nov - Induced with pessaries (x2). Waters broke, delivered my angel and then the placenta. No D&C or ERPC needed. I bled, mostly lightly, for about 3 weeks.
26th Dec - First period. Had not TTC, as hubby has been deployed since day before BFP in August. He returned 2nd Jan, and we TTC with charting, OPKs and Pre-Seed.
27th Jan - Second period. We decided to try the SMEP method this cycle.
23rd Feb - BFP at 10DPO. EDD by ovulation: 6th Nov.

Best of luck!

 

[Emma93]

Hello hun, my timeline if it helps..

19th Dec - Found out I was pregnant (4 weeks exactly)

2Oth Dec - Had doctors appointment. Nothing done, not even a urine test

6th Jan - (6w + 4d) Woke up bleeding, went to hospital, urine test, bloods. Told to go back if things got worse, they did. Spent the night

7th Jan - Vaginal ultrasound. Told everything was fine, not to worry. Went back that night with extreme bleeding, such pain I almost couldn't breathe. Told it was too they would re-scan me in the morning.

8th Jan - (6w + 6d) Passed two very large clots in the morning, went back to hospital, had another vaginal ultrasound. 95% of that was there had passed, no more baby.

5th Feb - Period came exactly 28 days after the MC.

3rd March - Found out I was pregnant again

Currently 5 weeks and 5 days pregnant

xxx

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[ready4family]

My timeline, we started TTC in April 2012
9/18/12-BFP
10/11/12-first ultrasound, empty gestational sac
10/18/12-small yolk sac seen
10/25/12-sac breaking down, hcg levels plummeting
10/31/12-MC started, bled for 3 solid weeks
12/21/12-had D&C after bleeding off and on and passing tissue even 7 weeks later
1/15/13-first AF (did ovulate this cycle)
2/7/13-very faint BFP
2/9/13-started very heavy period, chemical pregnancy
Dr started me on progesterone suppositories from O day to AF (my luteal phases are short and I spot a lot from O to AF-thinking that could be why the eggs weren't staying implanted). Got BFP next cycle and am 6 weeks tomorrow!
I'm lucky that I know when I ovulate-I did OPK for a few months and know now when it happens during all the symptoms I experience. I timed BD perfectly both times! DH is none the wiser as he was very weird with Trying for a baby... LOL I wish you the best of luck! Try to be relaxed about it

 

[LucyLake]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart everyone, this has been so helpful and healing for me

I'm 24 days post placenta tearing off wall Feb 28 and waiting for that first AF. My HGC Levels were 11 not this Thursday, but the Thursday before. I'm not sure if it will be a month from hitting 0 to see the AF or if it will happen like clockwork in the next 4 days on the 27 Thank you everyone

 

[chelsealynnb]

I found out at my 12 week scan that the baby had passed at 7+3 days. I had a D&C on Jan 21st and got my first period Feb 26th. I used OPKs and ovulated CD15 in March, and received my BFP at 8DPO

 

[elleff]

Hi Lucy,

I found threads like this kept me going for the past few weeks and I am blessed to be able to tell you how long its taken me to conceive my rainbow, I hope you are right behind me.

Mc naturally at 8 weeks on 29th December 2012, bled from 26th dec - 5th Jan. decided to start trying as soon as the bleeding stopped, I now wouldn't recommend this as the mental torture I had a couple of weeks later still seeing a faint line on an hpt and thinking it was a new pregnancy was just so painful.
AF arrived 5 weeks later. Next cycle I temped, opk etc but on reflection pretty sure we didn't bd on the day we really needed to as I was a bit confused as to when I did ovulate. Af arrived as normal.
Next cycle we bd 6 times with ovulation day right in the middle and I got my beautiful BFP this week
Just prepare yourself though, I am so excited but my anxiety levels are through the roof.
Big hugs