I haven't dealt with this myself, but as someone who grew up no where close to extended family and who now has my mom in town... Family has benefits long past the new baby stage (though it's certainly helpful then!)
These are the questions we'd ask ourselves in your position:
- How are the employment opportunities compared to your current location?
- Do you both get along well with the family members?
- Does the political atmosphere / culture align with your leanings?
- Would you ever consider living in the area without family being there?
- Is this a town your husband grew up in? If yes, how does he feel about it from that perspective?
- Are you trying to find a spot to settle down in for your child's full childhood? Can you see yourself there long term?
-Have you or would you talk openly with family about their level of participation in your life? Would they be providing day care? Would you live very close or just close enough for visits? Would there expect to come over frequently and be very active in your life or just doting grandparents during the occasional visit? Do they have similar or different parenting techniques? Etc...
I've moved A LOT and I am DONE. I finally found a town that I love and can see myself in for the long term, and it feels great to be settled. I've lived in some great places and places that just did not work for me. It's a big decision, but family is great! My mom moved to our town before my son arrived. She usually visits twice per week. She works full time, but she will play with my son for an hour or so once per week and another day come for the evening so we can go on a date night. She's great!
Good luck!
