Controlled crying??

[kateqpr]

Has anyone tried this? I was half attempting it this evening, as i wanted to start a night time routine for Poppy. After a first attempt earlier this evening, which went well, she is now upstairs crying her little heart out. So finding it hard, and wondering A) if it works and B) if it's the right thing to do....

Anyone tried it? Or have any other suggestions for helping their LO to settle at night?? (she tends to sleep on my breast or cries when i put her in her moses basket, and only really sleeps if i sleep with her in my arms)

Just finding her crying hard to listen to tonight. May try this when my OH is around to help us both and support me.

 

[emma_27]

I tried with Ellie but she was 4 months and it didnt work. 4 weeks i dont think she'll understand. She just wants cuddles and reassurance.

 

[Mervs Mum]

I havent tried it and TBH I wouldnt. I think it works for some people though. I know some say that you are making a rod for your own back etc but I dont mind cuddling to sleep etc. It doesnt last for ever. My first is 14 now and I wish I could have her fall asleep in my arms just one more time....

 

[freckleonear]

All the information I've heard about controlled crying says it shouldn't be used before 6 months, so maybe leave it until she's a bit older? To be honest we didn't have a proper bedtime routine for Aaron until he was a few months, I just used to breastfeed him until he was almost asleep and then put him down. It sometimes took several attempts until he would go in his carrycot without waking up and screaming though! Have you tried putting a piece of your clothing in her moses basket so it smells of you?

 

[ColtonsMom]

I have done it. But personally, wouldn't do it at four weeks old. I'm sure lots of people have, but they are still tiny at that age and I dont think they know any better..

I did it when Colton was alittle over 11 months. He coslept until then. It took about a week until he wasn't crying at all (although the last couple days he was only crying for 2-5 minutes).

 

[AppleBlossom]

I think maybe at such a young age you should just enjoy all your cuddles, she is a little young to understand. But I started doing it when Grace was around 5 months-ish and it definately works, hard but worth it

 

[MoonMuffin]

When they are so young they don't understand, you can't spoil them or create habits yet. When they cry at this age it's because they need something (food, cuddles, etc.) and if you just answer the cries it builds trust. We don't do CIO, but if she's tired and crying we just pat her back untill she falls asleep, nothing else we can do really (she's 6 months though).

 

[mommyof3co]

I personally don't agree with controlled crying or cio at all. I think it can actually be dangerous and there is research proving that point. But even experts that DO say it's ok recommend not doing it that young, she's too young to understand any of it

 

[kateqpr]

I think i'll give it a miss then - for a few more months at least anyway. I'll just stick to trying to create a strong night time routine to get her drowsy and hopefully sleep better...funnily enough she goes down find at 7pm - it's just when she wakes at 9.30 and has her feed, she then stays awake for 2 hours crying. I guess i just need to make that time boring so she gets less alert then and learns it's night time.

 

[Mervs Mum]

We stuck to the same (ish) bath and bed time routine from fairly early on and she's naturally started to settle earlier. She used to go to bed at 11pm but I didnt mind as she slept till 8/9am. As time's gone by it's just got a bit earlier until we are now getting her in bed about 8.30 - 9pm ish and she doesnt take much settling at all.

Give it time - she's only teeny

 

[sparkswillfly]

Meadows not ready for bed till about 11pm at the moment. Shes wide awake in the late evenings.