Coping with LTTTC, IUIs, 35+ and step-kids

[Northern Jane]

I'm new to this and wasn't sure where to post as my husband and I have been TTC since June 2012, we've now tried Serophene & Femera & 2 IUIs and I'm over 35... Never been pregnant, not even for a second (that I'm aware of). Still trying to hold out hope for a baby. The doctors haven't found any obvious reason for me not conceiving, but I have had some hormonal imbalances (high estrogen, high FSH) and cysts that come and go.

I'm just looking for support from some TTC sisters since my social circle is full of new moms and others who just don't understand the emotional challenges that all this has brought about. Been trying to fight off the nosy co-workers and friends who want to know if I'm pregnant yet and what to say to them when they say to me "just don't worry so much and it will happen". Does "ARGH" sound familiar?

My husband is a wonderful man whom I love deeply and I know he loves me, but he has 2 kids from his previous marriage so I know his experience in all this differs a lot from mine. Is there anyone else out there in a similar place? Dealing with infertility but under a roof where your husband or partner already has kids who adore him? Or constantly wondering how far he is willing to try for another baby over 10 years later? Any advice or support on any of the above will help. Thanks for reading

 

[Swtshae]

Hey! Though I can't relate to what you're dealing with personally I have a friend who is married to a man who already has 2 kids from a previous marriage. He had a vasectomy (that was unsuccessful at reversing) and she has PCOS. They are both teachers and Christians so IVF wasn't an option due to moral and financial reasons. They tried for years and finally decided to give IUI's a try. The first two cycles they tried unmedicated IUI's because again financial reasons. Those resulted in BFNs. Finally on the third IUI cycle with medication they got pregnant. It was so nice to see that they had a chance at having their own family because for a long time it was really just his family (because of the two kids). I say all that to say don't give up but maybe come to an agreement of what you will try to conceive and when you will come to terms with your situation and move forward. Often times they say don't think about it and it will happen but I'm to sure that works for everyone.

I've been TTC to conceive for a little over 2 and a half years and it has been very difficult. I can't imagine what you must be feeling as you watch your husband interact with his own children and though you may love them like your own the fact or the matter is they're not. However it will work out one way or the other. Just have faith, stay positive, and try to relax if possible.

Good luck to you!!