Count Yourself Lucky!

[bloodbinds]

URGH! People are sooooo annoying when they complain about their OHs! Whether it's my sister, my friends, or people on here!

I can't stand it when they complain that 'ohhh, my OH didn't get up to do the night feed last night' and 'i've changed more nappies than him' or even 'he only plays with LO for 30 minutes!'

Well at least you have someone!! At least you have those 30 minutes to yourself, or at least he does at least one feed in the night, or changes some nappies. Think of us single girls who don't get that!!

Sometimes i just want to shake my sister when she complains about her husband, she does it right to my face and i feel like shouting back at her ' I HAVE NO ONE! COUNT YOURSELF LUCKY!'

I know how difficult it can be when your OH doesn't pick up the slack. It was bad enough when i was living with my FOB when i was pregnant, and it felt like i did everything. Would be even more annoying if i did most things with the baby as well. But at least he would be there, at least i would be getting some help.

People don't know how lucky they are sometimes. But i can't say that to my sister as she would just have a go at me, or people on here when they complain as i don't know their situations and it might be really difficult for them. But i can't help thinking they are a little self centred and selfish for being sooooo upset that their OH doesn't do as much as they want them to. I feel sorry for them if they ever found themselves single, what a big slap in the face that would be!

Ok, Rant over! Lol.

 

[littlekitten8]

Totally agree hun!

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

I know it must be hard sometimes hun

But sometimes when you are in a realtionship that is becoming a little tough or they arnt pulling their weight some people need to vent

For example I have complained on here about my OH not pulling his weight with aidan. It's annoying because sometimes I fee like a single mum and I'm not and he should pull his weight. Thats why ladies moan hun.

xx

 

[suzib76]

i totally understand your rant, buti do agree that if people are in a relationship that is not all that good and their ohs dont pull their weight it is frustrating - what i mean is that just becasue they have someone it doesnt mean they are happier or any better off than you hun x

i take my bloody hat off to you single mums, i dont know how you guys do it alone - i have a brilliant dh who has been at home with me since before Lana was born (he goes back to work on tueesday ) and i dont know how i would have done it without him, i am very anxious about being 'left' when he goes back to work to organise 2 kids to school coz sometimes depending on when Lana is fed overnight i dont get up till after 9 (like if she is fed at 6am or whatever) and i was thinking earlier how you guys all do it
you take a lot of stick for being single, especially those on benefits and dont get told enough how well you are doing

so i am here to tell you all i think you are fab x

 

[bloodbinds]

I understand people need to vent (like i did i guess! lol) Guess mostly im jealous i dont have a OH to rant about!! lol.

 

[toonlagoon]

i think it is parshaly jelousy and i feel excly the same as you how can they no see how luky they are but then you think back to when you were fob and think yh i use to bitch and mone about him all the time so no matter how much people shoudl think befroe they say somthing i gess were just as to balime lol and i never admit im wrong haha

 

[jenniferannex]

i bet its so hard for u hun i cant imagine! i really have respect for all u single mums cos theres no way i could do this alone. i say to my OH how greatful i am he's here.
but as said above sometimes it can be hard with your OH aswell.
but i cant stress enough what a great job all you single mummies are doing!
well done girls xxxxx

 

[Abz1982]

I know it must be hard sometimes hun

But sometimes when you are in a realtionship that is becoming a little tough or they arnt pulling their weight some people need to vent

For example I have complained on here about my OH not pulling his weight with aidan. It's annoying because sometimes I fee like a single mum and I'm not and he should pull his weight. Thats why ladies moan hun.

xx

In defence of us with the USELESS OH's - I mean the ones that regularly do SFA - Its like being single, but having to look after a baby AND a grown up!

I do EVERYTHING, and I mean everything. OH goes to work, comes home, eats, sleeps, plays the frikking Xbox. He will change nappies once in a blue moon - I mean like Emma is 8 months and he may have done about 30 in that time! He has done 3 loads of laundry since we moved in last April, and hovered only when I broke glass and couldn't move in the kitchen as he needed to clear up the broken glass. He has prob washed up 10 times in that time frame to.

I did almost ALL the decorating - and of course its not finished as well, I had a baby.

I do the grocery shopping, which either involves walking to the Supermarket, carrying it back in a back pack then hauling it up the stairs, or my dad will drive me.

I do sometimes think that I would be better off single as I would have LESS mess to clean up, Emma would get more into a routine (she gets all excited when he gets home at like 6pm, so is a pain to get to bed now), and I would be able to do what I wanted when I want - like days when he goes out and forgets his keys so I cant go out if it means I wont be home till after 6pm as he cant get in.
Also I wouldnt have his Bro and sil coming down and sleeping over, or his mum coming to stay for 4 days at a time every 3 weeks!

Fancy a swap?

 

[wispa86]

i agree with Abz1982!!!

my circumstances are slightly different as OH is in the Navy so away a lot and its MUCH MUCH easier without him there!! He totally gets in the way and plays with Ben but thats all, no feeding, no nappies - nothing.

It does annoy me when people are going on and on about how rubbish their OH is because id give anything for Darren to be around every day or to be able to leave the baby with him while i go for a wee! Those precious minutes would be much appreciated!

Bloodbines, id look on it as your lucky not to have someone making a mess and getting under your feet!

 

[purpledahlia]

yeah but its also very lonely, all we do is talk bbay talk. Id give anything to be able to snuggle someone on the sofa on a rainy sunday and laze about the 3 of us. People rant about OH's and they may well do nothing etc, but they must do SOMETHING or you wouldnt be with them? right? even if its for you and not for the LO.. comfort you, advise you, take you on holiday? things like that. its not all about nappies and cleaning up sick etc.. just the very fact you can talk to someone is lucky.

 

[ladyjayne]

Everyone needs to vent now and again. I can Imagine how the ladies who are TTC or have lost a child think the same when the see people complaining about how hard it is to take care of the LO's! Count yourself lucky that you have a gorgeous LO!

 

[AppleBlossom]

Agree lol even when I was with my ex he did never once did a night feed or any other feed for that matter... anything to do with Grace was a no go for him unless I nagged him to do it so to me I have technically been a single mum the whole time. It is hard when you don't get a break. I see people with babies on my facebook all the time who have partners so they are able to arrange nights out and stuff because they have their OH there to look after the baby.

But look on the bright side... less washing and no fighting over the tv

 

[purpledahlia]

or arguing about the toilet seat being left up!

 

[Linz88]

totally agree.. i seen a lady who was angry that her 0h told people she ws pregnant cause he was soo excited.. OMG.. i would do anything for fob to jus acknowledge my child in a positive way

 

[bloodbinds]

I know it must be hard sometimes hun

But sometimes when you are in a realtionship that is becoming a little tough or they arnt pulling their weight some people need to vent

For example I have complained on here about my OH not pulling his weight with aidan. It's annoying because sometimes I fee like a single mum and I'm not and he should pull his weight. Thats why ladies moan hun.

xx

In defence of us with the USELESS OH's - I mean the ones that regularly do SFA - Its like being single, but having to look after a baby AND a grown up!

I do EVERYTHING, and I mean everything. OH goes to work, comes home, eats, sleeps, plays the frikking Xbox. He will change nappies once in a blue moon - I mean like Emma is 8 months and he may have done about 30 in that time! He has done 3 loads of laundry since we moved in last April, and hovered only when I broke glass and couldn't move in the kitchen as he needed to clear up the broken glass. He has prob washed up 10 times in that time frame to.

I did almost ALL the decorating - and of course its not finished as well, I had a baby.

I do the grocery shopping, which either involves walking to the Supermarket, carrying it back in a back pack then hauling it up the stairs, or my dad will drive me.

I do sometimes think that I would be better off single as I would have LESS mess to clean up, Emma would get more into a routine (she gets all excited when he gets home at like 6pm, so is a pain to get to bed now), and I would be able to do what I wanted when I want - like days when he goes out and forgets his keys so I cant go out if it means I wont be home till after 6pm as he cant get in.
Also I wouldnt have his Bro and sil coming down and sleeping over, or his mum coming to stay for 4 days at a time every 3 weeks!

Fancy a swap?

Yes please!

Someone there to hold LO while you get the chance to have a bath would be nice! I have to have a bath with LO in her bouncy chair so she can see me, and more times than not i have to get out the bath half way through as she starts crying like crazy.

Nice to have someone to talk to other than a baby - a decent conversation, someone to discuss your day with, discuss your baby with who cares as much as you as they are part of them!

When your LO is sick and your not sure what to do, you have someone there you can discuss it with if you want. Doctors? Calpol? More cuddles? Beats being on your own to worry :-/

And best of all your LO gets to have a father! Someone else that loves her like you do, someone she gets to play with and grow up with and you can all be a family together. You really are very lucky.

I have to do EVERYTHING as well. Only i get the added fun of having a FOB who sends abusive emails, doesn't pay a PENNY towards his child and generally wishes me dead every other day. Fun times. Also Bella will never get a chance to know her father, or any of his side of the family, because most of them are twats.

So yeah, let's swap - better than being alone, skint and stressed as most single mums are!

 

[expecting09]

Yes please!

Someone there to hold LO while you get the chance to have a bath would be nice! I have to have a bath with LO in her bouncy chair so she can see me, and more times than not i have to get out the bath half way through as she starts crying like crazy.

Nice to have someone to talk to other than a baby - a decent conversation, someone to discuss your day with, discuss your baby with who cares as much as you as they are part of them!

When your LO is sick and your not sure what to do, you have someone there you can discuss it with if you want. Doctors? Calpol? More cuddles? Beats being on your own to worry :-/

And best of all your LO gets to have a father! Someone else that loves her like you do, someone she gets to play with and grow up with and you can all be a family together. You really are very lucky.

I have to do EVERYTHING as well. Only i get the added fun of having a FOB who sends abusive emails, doesn't pay a PENNY towards his child and generally wishes me dead every other day. Fun times. Also Bella will never get a chance to know her father, or any of his side of the family, because most of them are twats.

So yeah, let's swap - better than being alone, skint and stressed as most single mums are!

Agree 110% with all this

 

[purpledahlia]

me too. Id love someone to even help carry the shopping in! not to mention to get a hug from.

im feeling very lonely just now, can you tell?

 

[nievesmama]

me too. Id love someone to even help carry the shopping in! not to mention to get a hug from.

im feeling very lonely just now, can you tell?

I agree with the above to. Its the silly things i miss. I hate feeling lonely, when the kids are in bed its the worse. I love getting cuddles with my children, but its not the same as having a partner to hug.
Id love someone to help when the kids are playing up, and ive a million things that need doing.
I could go on x

 

[bloodbinds]

I realised last night how lonely i am. Really lonely. I would so love just someone to share my day with, discuss things with, even just sit and watch tv with! :-/ have agreed to go out to lunch with an old 'sex buddy' next week just so i have someone to talk to! Lol. Ahh, so ashamed. But everyone needs company at least once in a while. There is only so much baby talk i can do.

 

[littlekitten8]

I know it must be hard sometimes hun

But sometimes when you are in a realtionship that is becoming a little tough or they arnt pulling their weight some people need to vent

For example I have complained on here about my OH not pulling his weight with aidan. It's annoying because sometimes I fee like a single mum and I'm not and he should pull his weight. Thats why ladies moan hun.

xx

In defence of us with the USELESS OH's - I mean the ones that regularly do SFA - Its like being single, but having to look after a baby AND a grown up!

I do EVERYTHING, and I mean everything. OH goes to work, comes home, eats, sleeps, plays the frikking Xbox. He will change nappies once in a blue moon - I mean like Emma is 8 months and he may have done about 30 in that time! He has done 3 loads of laundry since we moved in last April, and hovered only when I broke glass and couldn't move in the kitchen as he needed to clear up the broken glass. He has prob washed up 10 times in that time frame to.

I did almost ALL the decorating - and of course its not finished as well, I had a baby.

I do the grocery shopping, which either involves walking to the Supermarket, carrying it back in a back pack then hauling it up the stairs, or my dad will drive me.

I do sometimes think that I would be better off single as I would have LESS mess to clean up, Emma would get more into a routine (she gets all excited when he gets home at like 6pm, so is a pain to get to bed now), and I would be able to do what I wanted when I want - like days when he goes out and forgets his keys so I cant go out if it means I wont be home till after 6pm as he cant get in.
Also I wouldnt have his Bro and sil coming down and sleeping over, or his mum coming to stay for 4 days at a time every 3 weeks!

Fancy a swap?

Yes please!

Someone there to hold LO while you get the chance to have a bath would be nice! I have to have a bath with LO in her bouncy chair so she can see me, and more times than not i have to get out the bath half way through as she starts crying like crazy.

Nice to have someone to talk to other than a baby - a decent conversation, someone to discuss your day with, discuss your baby with who cares as much as you as they are part of them!

When your LO is sick and your not sure what to do, you have someone there you can discuss it with if you want. Doctors? Calpol? More cuddles? Beats being on your own to worry :-/

And best of all your LO gets to have a father! Someone else that loves her like you do, someone she gets to play with and grow up with and you can all be a family together. You really are very lucky.

I have to do EVERYTHING as well. Only i get the added fun of having a FOB who sends abusive emails, doesn't pay a PENNY towards his child and generally wishes me dead every other day. Fun times. Also Bella will never get a chance to know her father, or any of his side of the family, because most of them are twats.

So yeah, let's swap - better than being alone, skint and stressed as most single mums are!

OMG I totally agree! When I was with FOB he did precicely dick to help with LO. I did everything as well as having to make sure the house was spotless and the dinner was cooked! And god forbid if LO was still up when he got home from work so he didn't get my full attention! So actually I am better off without him! And yeah I would love to have somebody to share LO with, who loves him as much as I do and values all the little things he does as much as I do. Yes fine it is hard being in a relationship with someone who doesn't do a great deal but believe me its a damn sight harder being totally alone.

Bloodbinds and purpledahlia - I know what you mean about being lonely. I feel exceptionally lonely tonight. Just would love someone to cuddle up to on the sofa and watch a film. Think its just the time of year lol.