Creepy belly touches.. Pregnancy rant!

[Pheonixsmummy]

So, at this rate I just need to vent... Everything's been going well except for my psychopathic mother, and the fact I've probably caught my millionth cold. My mom's never been a part of my life, although she acts like she was.. And she's taking my pregnancy way out of hand!

I went to go see my little sister perform during this weekend, and I cannot begin to tell you how many of my mothers friends kept touching my belly. I was surprised I didn't smack them to begin with, or even her for that matter! She's been telling all her friends about my pregnancy, and she's been telling me what I can and can't do. So according to her this baby is being raised "her way". She's been trying to make all the decisions I should be making! Also, on top of that, my older sister was over for dinner at her house one night and I guess my mother told her that as soon as I give birth to the baby, she wants it for her own... (what on earth?!)

She's been acting like this baby is hers! Now she wants me to go to an ultrasound with her so she can see her baby. I think it's some crazy mind set she has considering her bf of 9 years won't marry her or doesn't want kids... I'm just terrified for when the baby is born and he/she is going to have some lunatic grandma who's acting like rumpelstiltskin from that old fairytale... Even my older sisters fear she's going to use this baby against me

 

[teenmommy15]

i can feel you on the cold because i caught the flu, pneumonia and then bronchitis. with the whole mom thing you need to let her know how your feeling and tell her this baby is yours and only yours and if she doesnt get it the first time you'll have to get bold and make sure she understands you. this is your baby and no one can take that away from you.

 

[jozylynn896]

I know what you mean completely.
I think maybe your mom just feels as though she wasn't there for you and now she wants to show you she cares by showing you she loves your baby, and shes just going a little too over board?
I'm sorry your'e going through this, my mom was the same way for a while, but now since I moved out she realizes that she raised a responsible young lady, who found a good man and will raised child just fine with him and that I don't need her.

 

[xforuiholdonx]

Do you live with your mother?
If not, I'd tell her where to go. Actually, I'd tell her where to go right now. If you don't start standing your ground immediately, all hell is going to break lose one LO is here. My mother also thought she could control certain things... In return, though I was greatfull for very thing she had done, I still didn't call her when I went into labour. The only person I wanted in that room was my now DH.
This is YOUR child. Not HERS. Distance yourself of you have to.

 

[ClairAye]

Someone I barely speak to and had't spoken to in years out her head on my bump in the shops.. Weeeeird haha, with your mum, I'd tell her straight how you feel, don't be really harsh though as she might just be excited to become a granny