CSA Advice!!! pls help

[stevon111]

Hello All

been a good while since ive posted on here but was just looking for some general advice and help on CSA

My X partner and i have had an agreement in the past of 20.00 per week to be payed to her into her bank account which has been fine for the past 12 months approx but now since my X gf has moved into her own place im getting nasty text messages from her asking for more money and she says that the CSA will take more money off myself than what she is looking for..
when i go onto the CSA calculator this comes out with approx 26.00 Per week based on my wage from work and i have faye 2 nights a week (sat and sunday)

my question is that.... how can this effect myself and i would agree to pay this legaly without any problems but i need to ask you guys when my X says i will be worse off by going through the CSA what do you think she means about all that...

i get angry about this when she is emotionally blackmailing me when she gets all her benifits plus 80.00 per month from myself when there are people out there in a worst position who would get less than her.
and when my X can afford to go out and buy cigarettes and afford a large tattoo which she says was 60.00 when it is that big it looks like double that!

im not tight i do buy everything i need for faye myself and provide for faye when she is at my house and provide my X with an amount she has not complained about for over 12 months...

can someone advise me of anything important with CSA and she says she has been in contact with someone else who is working out an acceptable amount of money i should be paying per week and they will be getting back to her tomorow (i thought only the CSA was the legal terms)..she doesnt want to go through the CSA becouse she feels they will take more money from me...

 

[dustbunny]

CSA are notoriously a bitch. When she says you'll be worse off she means you will end up paying more but it does make it a legally binding contract which is hard to back out of. So... if you quit your job for no reason you will still be expected to pay what you owe but they will backdate it the minute you start your new job. However if she is using it as a threat then maybe it would be best to contact CSA yourself and set the ball rolling, call her bluff so to speak. Her friend working out an 'acceptable' amount of money implies she will come back with some randomly high amount.

However £20 a week is not earth shattering in the scheme of things. She may be having her benefits etc but I am sure she is spending more than that herself on child related things. And whether she buys cigarettes or tattoos is irrelevant if she has bought everything she needs for the child first, she has to have money for herself too. I am sure that you spend some money on yourself.