CSA Enforcement - anyone gone through this?

[Dezireey]

FOB is just continuing to ignore CSA and their requests for child support. They have contacted me today to update me and say he now only has one week to comply, they have given him lots of time and chances to pay his arrears and child support but, of course he just ignores everyone. They say that sometimes the shock of telling them they are going to have debt enforced very soon ( bailiffs etc) can make them take action. Meh, not holding out for that.

Has anyone gone through this or got any advice on what happened? How long does it take etc. I have always expected it to be a slow process with a person that just ignores a debt. He has got away with not paying a thing for this other kid for so long, I think he just thinks he is untouchable and nothing will happen. I hope what I am doing is a different procedure than what he has experienced before.

This asshole really needs a harsh lesson in life about how you should treat people IMHO as he has done this before to a woman ( I had no idea he had a child, the 3 years we were together)

 

[KayBea]

i went to csa about fob & it got as far as them taking the money striaight out his wages... so he quit his job!

im not sure what happens now though? ive not been in contact with them for 2-3 weeks as been so busy. xx

 

[Dezireey]

I'm feeling a bit despondent now to be honest as searching on the internet for info it basically says that CSA can go on for years and years trying to get money off an FOB. On websites that are pro deadbeat dads, it's basically telling these men to just refuse to pay / ignore CSA ( like my FOB is doing) and that's it, in most cases they avoid child support just by refusing to pay it and making it difficult for everyone.

Sigh.....I don't think I will ever get anything off that loser, looks like he will go to hell and back before he pays anything. I just hope CSA do their job and chase his ass forever. At least there is that, CSA hounding him and the debt hanging over his head. What an idiot.

 

[KayBea]

my ex owes nearly £3000 now.

my boss is getting payments for her kids now, they are 22,23 & 25..
their dad has only just started paying, they split up when the youngest was 3. xx

 

[Dezireey]

So silly isn't it? They do themselves no favours. I suppose it all ties in with the true characters of these types of men - people who just avoid any kind of responsibility ( financial or otherwise) at all costs because, well because they just don't want to pay money to anyone for anything ever.

Not the way I would want to live my life..constantly ducking and weaving through life and flitting jobs to avoid a debt that is just to pay for your own child? Weirdos.

 

[KayBea]

what makes it worse is hes got no bills to pay etc as lives with his mum..and has just got a new phone too :/

just angers me how men can just walk away & get away with it! xx

 

[Dezireey]

It can happen to anyone to be honest. I have two friends in similar positions now, both women in their 30's, one married (he has left her for someone else and won't pay child support) and the other was in a 10 year relationship, planned their child and now he has walked away because he has changed his mind about having kids ( uh bit late to change your mind mate when she is 9 months pregnant!) my friend is a mess and we lament the terrible behaviour of men who do this, it's just something society and governments should crack down on much harder, especially in circumstances like my friends.