CSA

[suzanne108]

I sent off my CSA application form 2 weeks ago.

Says on the website I should hear something within 4 weeks...so I just wondered what they actually do? Will they have rung/wrote to FOB by now? What do they say to him? X

 

[lauramarie]

hey after 4 weeks they contacted me to confirm the details on my application, then they contact FOB. They try phoning them first, if no response, they write to them etc.

If you don't hear from them within 4 weeks call them. I called them every week after the 4 weeks to get an update. Whoe process for me took about 3 months to sort, my ex didn't deny paternity, if they request DNA test it will take a lot longer.

 

[DizzyMoo]

Dont bank on the 4wk mark hun, Csa are pretty well known not to rush things. I contacted them for Jax 18th november 2009 & they finally dealt with it in january this year!
Apparently they couldn't get hold of him, & until they did they wouldn't date the payments . So they wont backdate them til when i got in touch, but only from when they make contact with him.

Im with them for my 1st son too & so far 4 yrs down the line they are still shit at helping me, They are now telling me they wont be able to claim the last 4yrs worth of csa from his dad as its to much money & apparently is unrecoverable GRR

 

[MyFirstNoodle]

Hey my OH has a daughter with his ex. He received a letter in Jan and didnt reply (he can be an arsehole) he hasnt paid a penny since Jan through CSA but they sent a letter this morning saying £308 will be taken out of his wages on the 27th of Feb (back dated payments) they still backdated the payments even though OH hasnt contacted them.

What they did was sent a letter to OH employer and told him to deduct the amount from OH wages when they deduct tax ect. If the employer fails to do this then thy will be taken to court. Oh ex contacted the CSA in December.

The only way OH or any man gets away with it is if his employer tells the CSA FOB doesnt work their...CSA can't prove he works!!! It helps if you have FOB national insurance number because then he can ALWAYS be traced! OH is being an arse to his ex because she has already admitted the money she receives from him will be used for nappies/milk ect for her 9 day old baby she just had with another man who she has no contact with! OH is trying to get his daughter to live with us!!

But good luck they will contact FOB soon...basically saying

"a sum of "£££££" needs to be paid too "miss********" for the daughter/son "childs name" Please contact the CSA on -------"

Hope it works out for you, they have been pretty quick on OH!!


BTW my dad got away with it for years because his employer told the CSA he didnt work their....CSA couldnt prove he did.....Good luck! xxxx

 

[suzanne108]

Thanks

I am kind of expecting FOB not to reply to them straight away if its a letter, he will do anything to delay it because he is so tight with his money. So its good to know that they would just contact his work anyway I don't think his work will deny he works there...if they do I'll have something to say about it!!!

 

[MyFirstNoodle]

Thanks

I am kind of expecting FOB not to reply to them straight away if its a letter, he will do anything to delay it because he is so tight with his money. So its good to know that they would just contact his work anyway I don't think his work will deny he works there...if they do I'll have something to say about it!!!

Yeah OH is soooooooo tight!! Like so tight he haggles for things its so shameful!!

Yeah but you will have to PROVE he works their....plus if he is getting paid cash etc. he wont be getting taxed etc. Men are sneaky buggers look at how many of them have got away with it. Most of the women on here have had their FOB get away with it....so DO NOT rely on the money.....they WILL mess you about and wriggle out of it...!! Good luck hun I hope it works for you xxx

 

[suzanne108]

He pays taxes so I should be OK...his SIL and stepmum are pushing me to get it sorted so I think if he tried to worm his way out of it they would sort him out!

I'm not desperate for the money...in fact I'd much rather he wasn't involved then I wouldn't even want his money. But he's adament about being involved (well, he's all talk no action but thats a diff story) so its only fair he pays maintenance. We tried to come to a private agreement but no luck...I'm expecting £25-£30 a week....he offered me £50 a MONTH

 

[MyFirstNoodle]

He pays taxes so I should be OK...his SIL and stepmum are pushing me to get it sorted so I think if he tried to worm his way out of it they would sort him out!

I'm not desperate for the money...in fact I'd much rather he wasn't involved then I wouldn't even want his money. But he's adament about being involved (well, he's all talk no action but thats a diff story) so its only fair he pays maintenance. We tried to come to a private agreement but no luck...I'm expecting £25-£30 a week....he offered me £50 a MONTH

A MONTH!!! is this man bonkers? Your being really fair with the £25 etc. Chances are he will have to pay like £44 a month....thats what OH pays for his 4year old (well not all the time)

DON'T think his mum and sis will go against him because they are his family and will always stick by him....especially the mums (mummys boys like my OH mum) she tells my OH ex (baby mum) that she is doing her best to get OH to see his daughter and pay money when infact she isnt and she's telling her son to get full rights for the child - I'm not saying thats what your MIL & SIL are doing but thats what has happening in OH situation at the min and in alot of situations I know of. The MIL usually only "keeps the baby mum sweet" so she can see the child herself.....so just be careful because THEY WILL COVER FOR FOB IF THEY NEED TOO!!

But I hope this isnt the case for you hun!! Good luck xxxxx

 

[suzanne108]

Oh no I wouldn't trust his mum as far as I could throw her!! She played a big part in us splitting up because her precious son couldn't possibly have his life "ruined" by a baby...grrrr!

Its his stepmum I'm talking about...she's lovely. She is totally ashamed of FOB and has been in a similar situation herself. And she hates his mum so will be very willing to help me piss her off!

His mum actually rushed him into buying a house because she thinks csa look at outgoings as well as earnings. He was going to buy a house but in a year or so....she made him do it earlier. Stupid cow!

And in case you're wondering....no he doesnt have a mind of his own!!!!

 

[sweetlullaby]

I think quite a lot of FOB's are geared and led by their mothers! Good on you suzanne for going for child maintance etc!

Agree with the comment on keeping the baby's mum sweet so she can see the child herself. FOB mum was nice as pie to my face and then called me every name under the sun to my mother etc when i was pregnant.

Dont have a clue on how long it takes but I would guess and say a couple of months for them to chase him up, get into contact with his work etc and work out his earnings and how much you should get. But I would keep hassaling them ...if you can afford the phone call costs lol xx

 

[MyFirstNoodle]

Oh no I wouldn't trust his mum as far as I could throw her!! She played a big part in us splitting up because her precious son couldn't possibly have his life "ruined" by a baby...grrrr!

Its his stepmum I'm talking about...she's lovely. She is totally ashamed of FOB and has been in a similar situation herself. And she hates his mum so will be very willing to help me piss her off!

His mum actually rushed him into buying a house because she thinks csa look at outgoings as well as earnings. He was going to buy a house but in a year or so....she made him do it earlier. Stupid cow!

And in case you're wondering....no he doesnt have a mind of his own!!!!

Well I hate to burst your MIL bubble and she clearly hasn't got a clue about maintenance etc. but the CSA take into account this house he has bought! That goes against him....i.e he will never be able to say he cant afford to pay you because he isnt working because CSA would (I dont know if this is the right word to use but) make him sell his house.....like someone else said their FOB was in uni and CSA made him take out a student loan to pay what he owes.....so if anything MIL has helped you out !!!!!

Good on your FOB stepmom! I really hope you get this sorted and get the money YOU are owed!! xxx

 

[suzanne108]

Thanks

And yes, MIL always was a bit dim xx