Curvy ladies

[Tarkwa]

Ah chick, at least it wasn't because you are preggers and they were going to do it anyway - that must be a bit of a relief. Unfair that you are being assessed all over again just because of a new manager, but if you're not going back then it's not too much of a problem (I hope). I think I might work until end of Oct before going on mat leave, but not sure about how long I will take off - probably one year tbh. Luckily DH has a good job and can support us financially so there is no pressure to go back, but I think I might want to just to keep me busy (other than baby busy!). I don't need to decide yet though which is good. I do feel for my employers though, I only started in Nov!
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[Blue12]

Thanks for the welcome. I know my 15 lbs isn't so bad so far, but I was kind of hoping to only gain 15 lbs for the entire pregnancy and I still have quite a ways to go. Dh has gained some weight too while I have been pg lol - so he has asked me to help him follow weight watchers lol - so I am going to follow it a bit too - see how that goes.

I know it is so hard to not worry about scans. Although the chances are so slim of their being a problem, it is hard not to worry, and that is understandable. I think we all worry. Sending you tons of

 

[Tizy]

Thanks Cherry, Tarkwa it is a long story but I've copied and pasted this from my other post....(see below) On a more positive note and in relation to this thread.....I lost 1lb this week, the first in 10 weeks. I'm still 10lb up on my pre weight tho!! Xxx

Redundancy....My boss is NOW trying to make me redundant! I've gone from having verbal assurances of a pay rise and a new position a couple of months ago, to telling her I'm pregnant on the 19th April to being declined for the new position and pay rise on 28th April to now being made redundant, she started the process last week on 6th May!

Isn't it funny that all this has come about following my disclosure of pregnancy! Of course its blamed on the economic crisis but there was no talk of any problems in the business up until the last couple of weeks!

I feel so let down, after being her only employee for 4 years and having a very good relationship! and putting in so much effort to help her business expand and grow she is now just leaving me in the lurch!!

My partner and I will really struggle now. If my work had continued I would have been eligible for TWO lots of SMP due to being paid from two of her different businesses, now to only one lot of Maternity Allowance, which means after really wanting to take a year off with the baby, I will now have to go back to work...I feel so depressed, finding hard to pick myself up!

Just thought it was important to pre-warn everyone, I've read alot on the internet about boss's using the economic downturn as an excuse to get rid of pregnant employees - blatently flouting the Sex Descrimination Act! but it seems there is little that can be done, Employment Tribunal....don't know if I can stomach it! and will this have an effect on my reference and future employment with other employers?

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[Tarkwa]

Oh Tiz, that's awful, but I think it probably will happen alot. Hope my company don't pull that crap with me.

Getting back to the weight thing, when I weighed myself this morning I was 93kg, up only 1kg from my pre bfp weight. Quite happy with that tbh, though I still reckon I will be huge and will put on loads, but it's going ok for now.
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[Cherrybinky]

Hi girls. I weighed this morning and Ive now put on 9lb and thats NOT good lol. Its all gone in a circle round my waist so when I sit down I have my very own blubber ring!

Tiz Im so sorry about your job. Its horrid that employers can be so mean. Ive taken employees in the past to tribunals, Ive claimed for accidents (£2500) and Ive been in touch with ACAS, DWP etc. I dont take no crap lol. I will be pleased to tell this lot I wont be going back and although OH has a good wage, once my SMP stops we might be a bit stuck. x

 

[Blue12]

Just wondered how everyone is doing

 

[Cherrybinky]

Hi Blue.

Im feeling crap today actually. I have bunged up nose, I have headache and feel so tired. Ive just had a weeks holiday from work and have done absolutely nothing and the last day Im off I feel poorly. I cant stop eating crap and am worrying about it!

Hows you?
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[Blue12]

Awe sorry to hear you are feeling like crap cherry. I am feeling so-so. I don't feel like going to work tomorrow either - I wasted away most of today too sleeping as I wasn't feeling well. Frustrating!

I hope that going back to work goes well. xo

 

[Tizy]

Hi Rachel and Blue,

I forgot to weigh myself this morning - oooops, its probably a good thing tho, although I did loose 1lb last week BUT after my mishap with the Dark Chocolate Mikados yesterday I doubt very much I will have lost anything! I'll update you tomorrow.

Rachel I'm sorry your not feeling great, I'm suffering from the stuffy nose and morning sneezes syndrome too. Hope work goes ok for you, I know we're both in a similar situation at work (as in we don't wanna be there anymore) and its hard to keep up the motivation. I've got another redundancy meeting today, I asked my boss to consider keeping me on until my qualifying week for SMP and then I would resign instead of being made redundant, but my boss has scheduled the meeting for 4.30pm so I have a feeling its bad news and she will be making me redundant earlier than that!!

Fingers crossed for good news, but at the end of the day its out of my control.....we are going to really struggle but there's nothing I can do about it so i'm trying to be positive.

Speak soon girlies. Xxx

 

[Tizy]

Hello Girls,

Just thought I'd post - after forgetting to weigh myself yesterday I did weigh myself this morning and OH MY! I've put on 3lbs!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That makes the running total 14lbs in 12 weeks!

How is this possible? I lost one lb last week and yes I ate a packet of Dark Choc Mikados this week but I didn't think I'd been that bad! Its not like I can even blame it on the empty calories in booze! Just don't know what to do!

Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Maybe what with all the stress with work....i've over eaten without realising

Han XXX

 

[Cherrybinky]

Hey Han,

Ive put 9lb on in 12 weeks and I know why lol. Considering what Ive eaten I dont think Ive done badly really. Im addicted to fruit and always cook fresh veg a few times a week but all Ive been fancying is crap, crisps, chocolate, burgers etc. I havent done any exercise apart from walking and fear it will get worse now Ive lost my job

Strangely, it could be not eating enough and regularly that has put the weight on? When I was on WW, if I didnt eat breakfast or didnt eat good size varied meals I never lost anything or would put 1lb on but once I got into the swing I lost 15lb in about 6 weeks which was steady.

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[Tizy]

Thanks Rachel,

Yeh I've heard that advice too at WW and SW - about not eating enough - but now on reflection I think I have probably been over doing it. I'm just hungry tho!

For example, I had left over pasta and risotto for lunch (like having an evening meal) when before I may have had a sandwich and cuppa soup and sometimes in the morning I have 3 pieces of toast, when I know i should only have 2!

Need to kick start portion size control I think! I'm happy with the types of food i'm eating (well most of the time) generally its all homemade, lots of fresh fruit and veg, olive oil and fish but the quantity has probably got a bit out of control.

Thanks hunni, this thread is great for reassurance. Xxx

 

[Cherrybinky]

Youre welcome You sound like me. Even on WW I loved pasta and rice and I still do. Id live on it. Today Ive had:
2 crumpets with marmite and low fat cheese.
Risotto for lunch with 2 pieces of marscapone cheese bread
3 thorntons chocolates
Dinner was fish with broccoli, carrots and new potatoes with gravy and cheese grated on it (gross I know, but its what I HAD to have lol)
Ive had 3 pints of water all day, 3 decaf coffee, 1 tea and 1 glass of caffeine free, diet coke.

Some days, I eat like a pig and others Im super healthy. today, wasnt one of those days lol
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[Tarkwa]

Going hungry and not drinking enough water send your body into a 'starvation' type mode and when it does that it's SUPER difficult to lose weight, and in fact your body retains water so you can end up weighing more ! I'm up 2kg which is just under 9lb in 14 weeks and being my BMI I'm only meant to put on something like 11-20lb over the whole pregnancy! Oh dear, that's not gonna happen with all the sweets and crap I've been eating .
CherryB - I didn't realise you lost your job chick? Or did I miss something?
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[Cherrybinky]

Hey Tarkwa, Im the same I can only put on 11-20lb so I think Im going to go way over!
My ex colleague put on 4 and a half stone with her first child and that scared me!!

Yeah I lost my job yesterday sadly. They sacked all of us for not keeping up to standard with the cafe and its food. Not in a health way but just things we were doing wrong and complaints etc. We saw it coming and its been ongoing and the company we work for are arseholes! Im gutted but relieved as I hated the place. However, now I lose my maternity benefits and have to go on job seekers which I wont manage on
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[Tarkwa]

Oh hun, I'm sorry, that is sooooo shit. I'm sure you will find something, but yeah, I think you do lose SMP now as you need to be working for a company before you fall pregnant . Tossers - their loss.
GL with the job hunt.
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[Cherrybinky]

Update: well thankfully you dont lose Maternity Pay Its just called maternity allowance instead and you can still claim from 29 weeks. I just wont get the 90% of my wages for the first 6 weeks which is crap
Spoke to Job Seekers and although its not much money at all, I am eligible and they even gave me a nice local job in an office to apply for which I probably wont get but it gave me hope!
AND, I got my doppler today and found the heartbeat straight away. Im now craving beans on toast and shall go stuff my face!
Hope youre all ok
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[Cherrybinky]

Just a thought but do any of you ladies on here have MSN as I never used to use it but do miss a live chat to share things on.

Im [email protected]

 

[Tizy]

Hi Rachel (Cherry) and Tarkwa (whats your name?), where are the other girls gone?

Think we must all be in the same boat, I'm only meant to put on 11-20lbs too but since I'd put on 14lbs or dare I say it 1 stone till now I'm not gonna make that target either.

I know its cheating a bit but are you guys going off your midwife booking in weight or your pre- weight?

Becuase if I go off my midwife weigh in weight then I've only put on 9lbs - which is a bit more respectable. I know i'm only cheating myself tho! I did manage to get down to 13stone 2lbs before I got pregnant, but i put on 6lbs in the first 2 weeks!!

You girls ok tho? Rachel how's not working? Glad to hear about the MA, I didn't realise that you didn't know you were eligible for that!

Han Xxx

 

[Cherrybinky]

Morning Han, I dont know where the others have gone, Strange eh

Im going from my weigh in at the Drs when I was 4 weeks pregnant. I was 13st 6lb then.

Not working is horrid. I feel lazy and useless. Im still in my pjs and watching Jezza Kyle, is this what life has come to lol. I have applied for 1 job as the job centre said everything else was qualification specific Im at job centre on Monday so will see what they say.

Hope youre ok
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