Curvy ladies

[pink sparkle]

YAY for team blue...boys are just great...i love my lil man so much and hes such a mummy's boy...which i love xxx

 

[pink sparkle]

The wedding sounds great...unfortunately because of the weather over here cant really have outdoor weddings can never guarantee it wont be awful! Obviously gonna be a lil tough on you not being able to join in and being stuck in the heat...try and have a nice time though xxx

 

[Cherrybinky]

I am seriously going to have a nervous breakdown. Why the fuck am I having a child. My step son it doing my f*cking head in. He's been awkward and just plain stupid since he got up. Hes been sneakily rude to his sister thinking we cant hear him and just hasnt used his head today and has been selfish as hell. Hes only 6 but Xander is very intelligent and craves constant attention from people grown up of child. He cant play on his own and is very very nosey. Isobel for a change has been very good today, sharing and being nice to her brother but he has driven me insane.
I freaked out and shouldnt have done when I asked him to hang his clean shirt in the wardrobe only to find it screwed up in a ball and I flipped my nut, it was the last straw today. Ive just told him hes caused me nothing but stress and upset today (I was sobbing too) and if anything happens to me or baby I shall blame him, I feel horrid now but it just came out. I tried taking deep breaths but he infurates me. Hes been on the step and in his room like a yo yo today
*sob*

 

[cranberry987]

Gosh I have no advice at all tbh regarding the kid as I'm totally clueless

Here's a big hug tho

 

[Cherrybinky]

Thank you Helen. Ive had it with them today. We do rule an iron fist here and it normally works but I dont know whats got into him today. They get smacked bottoms at their Mums but we dont do that here albeit tempting! He is now on the sofa in complete silence until tea time and after he will be in pjs and going to bed at 7 on the dot! Ive calmed myself down but am still fuming inside. Petes played on Tony Hawk Skateboarding all day and has hardly said a word!
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[pink sparkle]

aww hugs hun i know how testing children can be...dd can be an angel but also a monster! Only advice i can offer is to try and stay calm but i know how hard that is at times! xxx

 

[Cherrybinky]

Oh it just got worse Jayne. I was on the loo and he was in his room singing I hate you Rachel and something about dying and that we didnt love him etc. I went in and Pete got super cross with him and Xander admitted what he said which just made me cry and Pete scream at him. Were just at our wits end today. Normally Id be singing the praises of our excellent steel rules and how good the kids are but Xander is just getting worse

Ive tried calm, cross, punishments, alternatives etc and its not working today.

Im very sad.

 

[cranberry987]

Have you tried also rewarding good behaviour? Make sure theres plenty of praise when something is done right/well? I just think of that just because I had to interpret some psychologists talk about how to discipline kids in school. His view was that punishment doesnt change the attitude, it just changes the behaviour (ie, they might stop being rude to you and flounce off instead, the thought behind it is still the same). But if you instantly praise/reward good behaviour that reinforces goodness, so the badness is less likely to occur iykwim. He said its like kids/adults have a list of possible reactions and if you reinforce the good options then theyre more likely to occur.

No idea if its claptrap or not. Lots in the room disagreed with it. Im not sure I could do it like that, just some food for thought

x

 

[Cherrybinky]

lol are you kidding? These children are praised, played with we have a star chart for good behaviour for which they earn treats, rewards, gifts, tv time and games. They are constantly told when theyve done something good. Theyve had a full day spent with them yesterday getting their lunch bought, a nice day out in town and lots of laughs.
Ive played games with them today, Petes read the caterpillar story with them etc. Punishment in this house does normally work but on the other side we've also tried playing TO the bad behaviour so when theres a paddy, instead of them doing time out, we calm them down right with us and talk it through then give them alternatives to what the origin of the paddy was. Today was a total exception and I have no idea why hes been the way he has. Theyve had a tough couple of years I guess and some things come out in the long term wash
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[cranberry987]

yeah youre probably right. we all have shitty days and i suppose kids are no exception. its nearly 7pm tho, bedtime!

 

[pink sparkle]

aww massive massive hugs huni its horrible when they start saying horrible things like that ive had it too im the worst mum in the world i dont love her she wishes that she was dead because no one loves her etc etc etc.. I honestly dont know how i get through it a lot of screaming and then i calm down and try and talk to her. Sometimes its just hard to know what is going through their minds. id maybe talk to him about it when hes calm and just check that theres not some underlying issue maybe from his mums house. I bet is nothing to do with you and pete and you find that they lash out at the person they feel most secure with huni x

Dd is a lil older than Xander but a few weeks ago we started a system of rewarding her good behaviour with pocket money, i get maintenance off her dad so we can afford it. If she gets told three times or more she doesnt get her pound a day and so far it has worked brilliantly it only runs monday to friday. hopefully will teach her the value of money as she has to save up for nice things shes not allowed to spend it at the sweet shop etc. She was getting really stroppy and throwing massive tantrums and talking to me like crap but now things are much much better...just hope it lasts x

 

[pink sparkle]

Yay im 3rd Tri today! x

Hope everyone is having a great weekend ...hubby spent yesterday building me a wardrobe, hes gotta finish it today by making doors to hang on it...very happy...hanging space for baby clothes and ds's too...hubby is a clever boy! xxx

 

[cranberry987]

Yey

I'm gonna paint a rainforest in the nursery today (or start thinking about it at least). Monkeys and birds and big trees. Was gonna get a decal off etsy but theyre like £70. I can do that easy peasy for like £20 probably.

 

[pink sparkle]

Hey helen, I had a jungle theme in ds's room but i got stickers from Ikea and bedding and curtains, really cheap though all came to under £30.00, obviously wont be as good or as individual as your own artwork...im pants at stuff like that!

Did you go shopping at all yesterday? buy anything boyish online? x

 

[cranberry987]

no, ive had a look at some stuff on ebay but we've got like 7 baby grows and 3 snowsuits already just from bargain hunting. have some white underneath babygrow things and gonna print stuff out on them today to make em pretty. have like 5 cotton hats (every free nappy box we get from asda has one) and will make some wool ones, some cardis, made some booties but tbh everything winter has feet in so i dont think ill need em.have scratch mits. cant think of any more Ill need atm. This is all 0-3, waiting to see how big baby is.

Need a sleep pod thingy I know, but not sure what else.

Can you think of anything more Id need? Maybe special proper clothes for bit family things, but for everyday stuff.

apart from a batman outfit, need one of those! Rich also wants a pirate outfit. I hope this child likes dressing up cos hes gonna!

 

[pink sparkle]

Sounds like fun the dressing up! i have brought a few smaller baby things up to 7.5lb because ive had small ones before but i wouldnt advise anyone to go out buy them specially when ds was born had to go out and buy them as all the newborn things were massive on him. It is nice to get a few lil outfits i didnt have many i stuck with babygrows mainly too. I never really put ds in shoes either always had matching tops and socks lol!

If i were you i would probably get a few newborn bits and bobs (think they go up to about 10lb) and most things dont necessarily stop fitting once baby reaches that weight. Is 0-3 up to around 14lb? I think once you have all the essentials its nice to just pick the odd thing up here and there when you see something you like. I got good use out of the outfits i got ds as he only had a few and they are still immaculate...so you could keep anything for the next one too x

 

[cranberry987]

I was thinking that we'd probably get proper clothes as presents. Will get a few things if not tho.

There's some stuff I've been given that I rly don't like. Can't take it back as it's from Belgium. Think it's rude to sell it lol?

 

[Rees]

Chris - Your mum sounds like a piece of work I hope the meal went fine last night!

Jayne - there's nothing humble about Ian Holloway! (Blackpool's manager) He's a nasty piece of work, used to be manager of Plymouth Argyle, was on the local news one night saying he wasn't going to leave Argyle, next day he'd pissing signed to be Leicester's manager! Plymouth then ended up relegated and are now in league 2 I think (Given up following what they're doing now, they were Championship when I was there at uni and looked like Holloway could get them to Prem, the *******!)

I wouldn't say anything to SIL, just leave them to it I'd be annoyed if they were shoving material things in my face too!

Rach - I watched Transformers 2 when I was pregnant with Tegs, and she did NOTHING! I was gutted, I was even drinking a slush puppy and still she was content to sleep through it!

This baby is gonna have the new Planet of the Apes film to sit through, and then towards the end it'll be Breaking Dawn part 1

 

[Rees]

I so hit the reply button too early! :doh:

Helen - I can't believe you dreamed true A lovely blue bump

Rach - kids love to try it on ALL the time, my cousin's kids are constantly doing it, is he getting bored, because that's usually why my cousin's kids act up?

Tegan has already had her bum smacked for being a little tyke one day, she's not been too bad since! It definately has an effect on their behaviour, my mum used to do the same to us, if she got our dad to do it then we KNEW we'd been bad as he'd smack harder, at night we'd get the slipper My brother mostly got that though for annoying me at bedtime when I was trying to read or he wouldn't go to sleep and was misbehaving

Helen - we only bought the bare essentials for Tegs, most of her newborn/0-3 months clothes were bought by family and friends I think we bought 1 outfit, her yellow winnie the pooh coming home outfit We also bought 1 set of sleepsuits in blue and pink and stuck the blue ones on when she went to bed

So long as I can find out the sex I think I'll be doing the same this time, but maybe buy 2 or 3 outfits (January sales, yay! )



Today is a Grand Prix day But I also have work Sucks, but my train isn't until 3:25, so it's not too bad, have had some lovely snuggles with Tegs and now she's looking at what I'm doing oh and pointing at the smilies She's so nosey!

Luke looked at the 2nd house yesterday, apparently it's lush, there's a bath with a seperate shower cubicle! I have already said that the first bath is mine!

Needless to say, we're going for it! The bedroom's are a nice size, the back yard is double the size of ours and the front room is also nice, I'm hoping to go and see it in the week, we have to give our landlord a months notice so we'll be moving in September Gives us a month to get shit sorted and pack and sort this house out (we've got so much to do!)

Hope you all have good Sundays Rach, I hope Xander isn't too bad today xx

 

[Cherrybinky]

Morning girls

Wooo Jayne, 3rd Tri !

Helen, my friend has dressed her little boy Kit up quite a lot since he was born. His name is Kit PIRATE Stephen Steel! So, hes been a pirate a lot and was a pumpkin on Halloween and a dinosaur and he looked so cute.

I shall be dressing Kitty up as a Kitty at some point and she will have Kitty buttons on her cardigan and Im sure we will get Hello Kitty comments!

I to be fair, despite buying LOTS of stuff most of it is 3m onwards as otherwise she wont be in it 5 mins. Mums bringing a load on Weds but its mostly 6m on too although she has got her a baby dressing gown and soft slippers for 0-3 !

Well. Xander and Isobel were both in bed for 7 last night and Xander had a good talking to. I was very upset but went in to speak to him and he was told despite losing his nice things he would have a fresh start today!
I got up with them this morning and did breakfast, theyve also both earned 50p by hoovering and dusting (I do this now and again, Im not into child labour LOL) Xander is now sat watching Pete on the Playstation as hes not allowed on it and Isobel is creeping around sulking as she lost her sticker off her nightie lol.

I fear I shall be sick of hearing the Red Hot Chili Peppers soon as its Petes fave band and now hes booked tickets to see them and ordered the new album, we seem to have them on 24/7!

I cleaned up and shall spend the day doing absolutely nothing now!

Hope you all have a good day
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