Dating..

[xAmiixLouisex]

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[cherry_pie]

Hmmm. I am also curious about this although Im not sure if the situation is different because it was my husband who left and I am still technically married. He left before christmas. My first big night out a few weeks ago I got really excited at the prospect of meeting someone and spent a lot of time getting ready and thinking i wanted to meet or at least snog someone. However when I got out and a few men made moves I was totally not ready and realised I will not be any time soon. I thought I was. Yeah. I think it is weird that I would be dating someone while still married. Though Im not sure I want to start divorces proceedings yet even though theres no chance of getting back together. I won't let any man meet my son unless its seriously serious. I want to keep my private life and home life totally separate, he wont be invited over etc unless LO is staying with his dad. It will make dating a lot more difficult I guess.

 

[xAmiixLouisex]

Hmmm. I am also curious about this although Im not sure if the situation is different because it was my husband who left and I am still technically married. He left before christmas. My first big night out a few weeks ago I got really excited at the prospect of meeting someone and spent a lot of time getting ready and thinking i wanted to meet or at least snog someone. However when I got out and a few men made moves I was totally not ready and realised I will not be any time soon. I thought I was. Yeah. I think it is weird that I would be dating someone while still married. Though Im not sure I want to start divorces proceedings yet even though theres no chance of getting back together. I won't let any man meet my son unless its seriously serious. I want to keep my private life and home life totally separate, he wont be invited over etc unless LO is staying with his dad. It will make dating a lot more difficult I guess.

I think the same! I'm still at home with my parents and I plan to be until next year (I want to save up for a year for furniture, deposit, etc) and FOB isn't involved. So if I go out, it would be my mother that has LO. So it's abit awkward because when dating, you do eventually let them come round and you can watch a film or something. But, I can't do that because my son would still be here even if my mom was looking after him for the night. Yet I can't see a guy being happy with having to have an actual outing everytime we meet.

 

[Laura2919]

I suppose when it happens it happens.. You never know when someone you like is going to come along.
As for introducing them to your child you have to be sure for yourself that its something you want long term and then you'll be ready. Some people wait months and others don't. Problem us mums have is we are with our children more than their dad which means we have no choice but to seperate our lives.

 

[george83]

i can not imagine dating somebody else at the minute, my husband only left last month but our relationship had been falling apart for over a year, he's actually been seeing somebody else for a while behind my back. I can not imagine even talking to another man i know my husband doesn't want me anymore but i just feel like i would be betraying him still. I still wear my wedding ring when i go out so i guess that will keep most men away for now. my husband waited a long time before introducing me to his older son but as a pp said we spend so much more time with our children it would be hard to keep them separate, i suppose once your in that situation you'll be able to tell if it's the right man to introduce to your child and you'll know the right time. I still can't believe i'm in this situation thinking about my husband introducing his new girlfriend to my child, i thought we would be married forever

 

[amelietm]

i think all ur attention must go to the baby...

 

[Cazamatazaaa]

Im 23, have 2 children, aged nearly 4 and nearly 1, I havent dated as such, I have only been split up with my partner for a month, but I will know when the time is right.

all my attention cant go on my children as i work, so as much as id love it too, it doesnt xx

 

[Laura2919]

i think all ur attention must go to the baby...

Are you for real?

Just because we became parents does not mean that we all have to give up dating because things didn't work out with their dad...

 

[leoniebabey]

i feel the same i keep getting offers (not announced this pregnancy yet) so people just assume i'm back on the single scence and i keep declining cause i just think it's awkward um hi, oh just a sidenote im actually pregnant. ahh i dunno i'm really put of dating for the moment tbf! If i meet someone great but i dont think i'll be going out of my way to meet anyone right now

 

[Cazamatazaaa]

it does get easier as they get older, i was a single mum with my daughter, i naivly thought my sons dad was the one, but he had other ideas. it does get easier though, you will find everything just fits into place. i do go out and have fun still, my kids dont think any less of me for this, and i love being a mummy just the same

 

[Laura2919]

Someone will come along and you'll know why it never worked with anyone else before but until then be happy because unless your happy with your life your not gonna find someone right

 

[ZombieQueen]

Before I met my soon to be ex husband, I wasn't much interested in dating, blew his advances off quite a few times before I gave him a chance lol. So for me, I don't plan to date for at least 2-3 years, but with that being said, I won't turn down someone if I feel they are truly worth giving a chance.. But I'm more about being friends first, building trust (especially after my husband and his sick and twisted lies), getting to know each other..

On the other hand, I do cry sometimes, feeling like I'll be alone forever.. I can just see myself always using my daughter as an excuse to avoid the dating scene and the next thing I know I'll be 85, single with 15 cats

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

i think all ur attention must go to the baby...

what a ridiculous remark

 

[louloubelle76]

In all the years ive dated, I am really not interested in men and a relationship, dont get me wrong still fancy men but been hurt too many times to even think about men.

defo go out once a month, its my 1st time out this weekend im so nervous so used to the comfort of my home lol

If I did meet someone and he has to be pretty different for me to start a relationship with, I think I would be the same 6 months then he can meet her, i dont want her meeting different men if im not going to be with them long

 

[MommaAlexis]

I have a little weirder situation as I'm bisexual but usually only date women. After OH and I broke up I wasn't at all interested in dating, and thought it was weird because I'm pregnant. Then a girl hit on me haha! All weirdness was gone for women, only weirds me out to date guys. We go out every second weekend, and a night or two a week but I work 9 hours a day six days a week and need my sleep so not always easy and it's only been two weeks ish. BUT she is moving away right before I'm due, so if we decide to get a little more serious she still won't be meeting LO right away or living with me, as she'll be in a different town. Sperm Donour hasn't made any effort in contacting me, which is fine. I'm over it now. But it does mean it will be difficult if she decides to visit past September. I don't want her to get attached or anything, but I don't want to get a babysitter, and will not be able to because I'll hopefully be BFing. So, I haven't quite figured it out, but as it is now it seems to be just a little summer fling, and if it goes further I'll figure it out then. I wouldn't let my LO get attached to them though at first, if it means waiting until they sleep through the night for her to stay over then so be it. Still almost five months away, but it is good to plan ahead.

 

[matheu899]

Its not necessary to think like this. Afterall its your , you can definitely opt how to live it.