opticalillus5
Mummy to two princesses.
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My daughter has just turned 5, and every time I tell her off for something, she starts crying. I never shout at her, but I do have a stern voice which I use to let her know that something is unacceptable.
For example, how she treats the dog. No matter how many times I tell her, she keeps pulling the dog's tail. Or putting it under her covers in her bed (she's allowed to have it sit on her bed until she goes to sleep, but not under the covers).
I'll say to her 'Emma, you know you're not allowed to pull Tilly's tail', and she immediately starts crying. I don't raise my voice, but when I ask her why she's crying, she says it's because i have 'shouted' at her. Which I haven't... I never need to, because she's not actually that naughty at all. It's just little things.
I don't know whether she's crying because she's been caught doing something she shouldn't, or because she's upset that i'm unhappy with her.
Sometimes, she makes herself cry too, but that tends to be more to get her own way. I do cuddle her when she cries, but now i'm trying not to as I think this might be making things worse - I.e. she's still pulling the dog's tail, and seems only to be upset that she's getting caught, not that she's doing it in the first place!
Is this normal?
For example, how she treats the dog. No matter how many times I tell her, she keeps pulling the dog's tail. Or putting it under her covers in her bed (she's allowed to have it sit on her bed until she goes to sleep, but not under the covers).
I'll say to her 'Emma, you know you're not allowed to pull Tilly's tail', and she immediately starts crying. I don't raise my voice, but when I ask her why she's crying, she says it's because i have 'shouted' at her. Which I haven't... I never need to, because she's not actually that naughty at all. It's just little things.
I don't know whether she's crying because she's been caught doing something she shouldn't, or because she's upset that i'm unhappy with her.
Sometimes, she makes herself cry too, but that tends to be more to get her own way. I do cuddle her when she cries, but now i'm trying not to as I think this might be making things worse - I.e. she's still pulling the dog's tail, and seems only to be upset that she's getting caught, not that she's doing it in the first place!
Is this normal?