Dealing with exes meeting other women

[Jennifurball]

At first I was ok and realised I had done the right thing by leaving but now I can't get it out of my head that he could be flirting right now, or worse, with someone else.

How do I stop thinking like this? It is really getting me down, especially as there is zero chance of me meeting anyone.

 

[fl00b]

i'm like this. it's like 'i can find someone else. however you can't' kind of thing!

all i can say is time's a great healer. i know dating someone else is probably the last thing you want to do right now, but i found finding another guy to talk to and take a liking to has really helped. try to shut him out - no matter how hard it is. whether he's flirting with other girls or not - you don't need to know as it will probably upset you even more.
sending big hugs, it's such a crappy feeling. it does get better though, you're at the hardest point. everything can only go up.

 

[whatwillbe]

Same hun, the thought of him with another woman makes me insanely jelous i just try not to think about it but i still have days where it gets me down, like today but i cant change it he doesnt want me so i have to try and accept it, i agree i think it does get better with time x

 

[Dezireey]

Yeah even now I keep thinking is he seeing someone, he must be, it's been a year. Like a silly sap about 3 months ago I lost my cool facade and asked him if he had a new girlfriend yet, he said no. I could have kicked myself, he would say no, even if he was, so what was the point in that?

Sigh. Never been in this situation before. Breaks my heart thinking about the father of my child with another woman. Ah well, just gotta push it out of my mind and MAKE myself not care if he does or doesn't have anyone.

 

[Ersurgeongirl]

Mine left me somewhere around 8-10 weeks along... He already had another woman and started dating her days after I got my bfp (and we planned our baby!!!) and she "lost" her job and moved up here sometime in June.

Sucks. I hate it so much. The only thing that's going to keep my son away from her is a her criminal background/no job/no education.... Or else the two of them can play happy family with my child.

Oh, and he hasn't been around or cared about the baby until 4-5 weeks ago

 

[krissy1984]

It is really hard, My FOB and hb walked out 2 days after christmas. 3 months later, after we'd been going out as a family I discovered he was living with the girl from work. They're still together and recently I discovered they got together 5 days after he left.

Couldn't believe he didn't even wait a week. But this proves the level of class of both of them tbh. I can honestly say she is welcome to him, I would never take someone like that back as I know both my LO and I deserve a hell of a lot better.

As they say time is a great healer

xx

 

[Jennifurball]

That is horrible.

I just want to get to that point of no return where even if I saw him with someone, it wouldn't hurt me. When I think how badly he treated me though, there is no reason to be jealous, I should feel sorry for her. Men never change.

 

[Dezireey]

That is horrible.

I just want to get to that point of no return where even if I saw him with someone, it wouldn't hurt me. When I think how badly he treated me though, there is no reason to be jealous, I should feel sorry for her. Men never change.

That's the thing isn't it. We keep forgetting on here that most of these FOBs are not worth our jealousy anyway. And what makes us think that a personality that is capable of doing what they did to another human being and an innocent baby is going to be nice to someone else? Like you said, we should feel sorry for these other women. We were like them once probably and in love and moving in with these guys etc, they haven't a clue what they have let themselves in for getting involved with these men, they duped us and they will dupe them too, quite sad.

 

[ZombieQueen]

My FOB is definitely taking girls out to movies and dinner and stuff.. It still makes me horribly sick to my stomach.. I ripped him a new one the other day after taking some girl shopping and spending almost as much as it would cost to come MEET his fucking daughter. I try to tell myself that instead of feeling jealous, I should pity the poor woman who gets sucked into his fucked up lying bullshit.. (being angry helps comfort my pain at this point)

It'll take time, but someday you'll feel better.. There is a reason you split, try to think of that when you're feeling jealous.

 

[Jennifurball]

You are right, we all need to write down the bad things and keep reading them over.

I have to remind myself also it was me who left, and I would not have done that if things weren't at breaking point. He made me depressed and bullied me, making me believe no one else would have me, calling me fat etc.