Death in the family during Pregnancy?

[jozylynn896]

He wasn't blood related to me, but he was family.
He was like a big brother, or cousin
He was my cousins (19) best friend!
His name was Javi and we were really close.
In September he got shot 5 times in his chest, stomach, buttocks, and leg.
He died in late October.

I just feel really weird.
You know how when you miss somebody there's just this emptiness type pain in your chest?

Its been bothering me soooo much!
I just hate that to everyone else in the world we're just numbers. All we are is a social security number.
All I am right now is a f*cking statistic.
And all he was was Chicago 2012 449th homicide.
Ugh. :/
No one will ever know him as what I knew him as. Just as a sad news story of a boy shot and killed.
It just really breaks my heart.
There's really no point in this thread, just I have no one to talk to about this.
Blah:/

 

[haydenmummy]

I know hun my mum died last year I wasn't pregnant but I fell pregnant the month after and lost it at 9 weeks then 5 months later fell pregnant with aleia I know that emptyness feeling I still have it and I always will it hurts me to think she will never meet her only granddaughter and that my son was only 2 when she passed x

 

[jozylynn896]

I'm so sorry for your loss.
It just really sucks, especially because he lost his life to gang violence.
This big city is so scary.
He wasn't even in a gang!


It sucks losing family, especially when you're pregnant.

 

[Supa]

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's crazy that I saw this post because my aunt just called not even 15 minutes ago to tell me my uncle who has been battling cancer since 2005 just passed away.

 

[Supa]

And I know how you feel sweetie when I was pregnant with my daughter in high school my friend Rashawn was shot 9 times. We all thought he was going to be just fine because he was doing a lot better and he was a fighter. But my principal came on the announcements and told us, the whole school went crazy everyone was being sent home because they couldn't handle it, including me.

 

[jozylynn896]

Javi was getting better too! I forgot to say they shot him in his face too.
Took his bottom lip right off, and most of his cheek.
And he was starting to talk again! Like wtf?! Then it became obvious he was gonna be alright!
While he was in the hospital he caught a fungus in his blood. That's what killed him.
I'm so sorry about your friend.

And I'm sorry about your uncle. My Aunt recently passed away from cancer. :/

 

[bsd]

I'm sorry for everyone's losses. Death is the hardest thing for me to deal with.
I too lost a loved one during this pregnancy.. literally the day I found out I was pregnant we also found out my OH's grandmother had pancreatic cancer, which is a fast killing cancer (life expectancy is 6 months max).
We lived with her at the time and we were very close with her. She is such an awesome person she supported us so much. September 6th she lost her battle after an extremely courageous fight and it was so hard on OH and I. I still cry when I think about it I wanted her to meet my son so bad. But she will be looking down upon us from heaven and my little man will be the post protected child!

Its so confusing to have a new life growing inside of you as you lose another, mind boggling opposites.

 

[jozylynn896]

I'm so sorry for your loss.
Its really does suck.
It hurts so bad. I've always dealt with death really well.
Something that's amazing is that right before he died, he said that a man named Pedro was talking to him and telling him its okay. He described how Pedro looked .. Pedro was my grandfather! My grandfather died when I was 5 (we were bedt friends). And I didn't meet Javi til I was 13! Javi never knew my grandfather.
He said somebody named Mela was looking out for my 19 year old cousin and his newborn! Mela is my aunt who passed away when we were kids! He also said somebody was looking out for me and my son. Get this.. He didn't KNOW I was pregnant. He said this while he was in the freaking hospital. He had no idea that I was pregnant. :"")

 

[bsd]

Holy shit!! That's really weird! I definitely believe in miracles and he held on long enough to tell you that which is incredible. I'm sorry you're going through only time will make it better

 

[jozylynn896]

Thank you
I know!
And idk if you ever heard of Stroger hospital in Chicago but its amazing!
He got shot about 2 centimeters underneath the heart and lived for a whole month! What an amazing hospital! And what a miracle! He held on for so long and in the end he was ready. That makes me so comfortable. That he was ready!
Man I miss him his smile! But all we can ask is that they're happy in the end!

 

[bsd]

Exactly and I'm sure he is the happiest he has ever been now