Decision Making

[Stephielou]

Hi Ladies,

I am new to this site and joined because of how much support goes out for any kind of situation a mother or father is in.

I am 31 weeks pregnant with my Little girl Lily Rose. Her father and I were on and off for the past 6 yrs. He has alot of problems with work and also has severe anxiety and was stressing about not being able to be a good dad to Lily.

I made the decision lastnight that I think its best he stays out of her life to start with, just to get his life sorted so he can be the father he wants to be. I dont want him in and out of her life all the time like my father was (and I now have no relationship with him because of this). I will be sending him photos and updating him on her and helping him through his problems as much as I can so he can start a life with her asap.

I would just love to get peoples opinion on my decision making or know of anyone who has had to make similar choices. I know some people wont agree with it but I believe I was doing what is best for my daughter.

Thank you

 

[kirst1805]

I personally think its a good idea, as you said its better if he doesn't keep coming in and out of her life. It'd just confuse her in the end.

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

personally i would of let him be there to start with then told him not to bother if he didn't do it. He's still going to be in & out in my opinion as he will be away from your daughter till he thinks he can be a good dad, then he will be in your daughters life & if he thinks he can't do it again, no doubt he will leave again. Every parent worries about being a good parent, thats something every new parent feels but us mothers don't get a few weeks off to go away & work on how to be a good mam, we have a job to do & we have to learn as we go along. I'm not for one second having a go, i just think he's taking advantage x x