Deflated after First hospital appointment please help

[girlydreamer]

Hi, Girls please can you advice me i have no one else to confide in be patient with me its a long story im getting everything out thats been weighing me down.

Im 23 and have been trying for a baby for 2 years i always had a thought at the back of my head something was wrong with me. after testing was advised low progesterone and right tube blocked i was gutted but also relieved because i thought if i get clomid prob will get pregnant. Then another shock came my partner had low sperm less than 2 million 2% motility all genetic work came back fine partner had a torsion when he was really young and also smokes cannabis.

I know he may sound irresponsible smoking this but please dont judge he is a very good man works long shifts treats me like a princess and doesnt drink or go partying we are a very mature couple we work to keep a lovely little flat and both dont drink.

I had my first appointment at assisted conception unit i just had a chat with a consultant she took all our details i felt like she didnt take me that serious because i was only 23 she adviced low change getting pregnant naturally wouldnt let me have iui. She said icsi would be our best chance but three years waiting list she said that i should wait as would still be young after three years i was mad what does age have anything to do with it i feel empty i want a baby so bad everyone i know has kids and i want my own and i choose now im still a woman and know what im ready for im getting married next year and want my family whats wrong with that??.

Anyway cant wait three years icsi is 4000 cant afford this either.

Hope your still reading.

Doctor then advised the only other way is to try egg sharing with another woman i feel pressured by myself that this is only option but not sure if im strong enough to do that as i wouldnt like someone to contact me 18 years later and not sure if i could deal with knowing my child could be out there somewhere. My partner is totally against this but is not being very helpful as has went into depression thinking he cant conceive naturally and is in denial.


I left the appointment feeling even worse after getting excited about finally getting some help. Havent got another appointement think we re now on three year waiting list.

Sorry for rambling on girls but please can anyone advice me what to do.



Baby dust to all

 

[jessandaj]

Im sorry your having so much trouble. If your husband is very worried about not concieving he does need to stop smoking weed and if your going to be parents he should not smoke weed because you would not want anything to happen and police find out that drug use is going on with a baby or child in the house and get your baby taken when you finally get one. I dont know if i could do the egg thing either.its such a big decision to make but when you want children four years is a long time to wait for someone to still say your to young im very sorry that they treated you that way to cause your not to young to have a baby, and btw does your husband take a vitamin or zinc pill? my husband started taking a daily vitamin and ive noticed a increase in semen since so try that if you havint and babydust and good luck

 

[lovie]

I think it is rubbish that people are not taken seriously because of age, but did you say your on the waiting list? Thats probably what they do for anyone regardless of the age. Maybe she was just trying to give you some hope by talking about how young you are?

As for the smoking weed if he's serious about improving his sperm he just has to stop... How often does he smoke it? Also small children pick up on moods so easily, i grew up around people smoking weed and I resent it so much! I think he owes it to you and your future kids to give it up.

I'd recommend pills to improve his sa.. Also does he have a varied diet? My oh's sa is so much better now since he has started eating vege and salad and nuts.. I make him.. if I'm going through ivf it's the least he can do!

 

[SLH]

My husband smokes weed, and his sperm count and motility is normal. I don't think it's the weed that is causing your DH's low sperm count. My husband smokes A LOT of it and has for years. I'm the problem not him.

Have they given you progesterone for your low progesterone? I have low progesterone, at 7dpo it was 2.2, and they gave me suppositories to take. They have helped my progesterone problem.