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[Meganmae]

Oh dear, I can see your point, my inlaws bug me too even though I love them, you need to be firm , from my experience if you don't nip it in the bud now it will get worse, they don't understand what your babys routine is so yeh that's frustrating for you, my mil is thick when it comes to her dog, she lets its go right up to my babys face, the dog is lovely and it's fine for them to play but the woman needs her head banging against the wall! Chin up! Xx

 

[ThinkPositiv]

I hear ya!!! Stand your ground. But you and hubby gotta chat and be a united front. At least they visit. My parents and in laws live close and never visit or call. My mom works 2 mins away and only once stopped over to see us. My in laws are retired. This is the first grand baby on both sides. I can understand you, and I feel your frustration ( when I have seen my in laws I always feel judged and their comments and suggestions really annoy me) but I think if you and hubby can get on same page, I'd rather fend their visits off them have them never visit. And the other parents of their other grand kids prob parent different than you and that's ok - we all do what's best for our kids and our family. I always say to my hubby it's gonna be real interesting when his brothers baby is born cuz I think there will be worlds of difference in our parenting and it will be interesting to see how inlaws respond.

Your doing a good job momma. Get hubby on board to have some chats with them and I'm sure they are reasonable people and should understand. Afterall they are the parents of your hubby and you love him.

 

[Katy Bug]

Why do you want her to be called something else? Half the,time our kids call people what they want. My mom is Mimi, that's what my nephew calls her so that'll end up being what my son says since he hears it a lot.

Not trying to be mean at all, but I'm sure your in laws are just as annoyed with you. I'd let my son see my husbands parents more if I could, but they sometimes act like they don't want to. Your husband loves his family too, no doubt he feels like you're just treating them as an obligation.

 

[AC1987]

I think that'd drive me crazy too! I mean my in laws drove me crazy when LO was born with ALWAYS wanting to come over. Even now its like we see them so much I've put my foot down a couple times and have said ENOUGH! So thankfully now its only maybe twice a month, but it ends up being us staying the weekend at their house (they only live an hour and a bit away)

 

[LegoHouse]

My OH's sister told me I didn't want our children to know her because she came round every day for a week after my son was born then I asked her not to come round for a week. She used to complain if we didn't see her every couple of days!! Now she's lucky if I see her every couple of months because she drove me bonkers!!

You need to explain to your OH that if you don't get the space you need it's probably going to blow up :/

 

[LDC]

I agree that every weekend would be a little too much, for me more because a Sunday is the only day the three of us get together. Could you not discuss this with oh and say that you'd like some more time just your little family?

I do agree with Katy bug though, I'd let them call your in laws whatever they want to be called; I'd be a bit miffed if it was the other way around and my mil referred to me as mum rather than mummy for example with my lo (whilst she's young).

My mum for example always said that she'd never want to be called granny and would rather be nanny as she thinks granny/grandma is old sounding. I'd never have known that unless she hadnt randomly said it (she's passed away now, but I'd have always called her nan as it was her preference).

Plus, lo might just call her Grammy or whatever you want her to be referred as when she's old enough to talk. Either that or Debbie (the doo isn't going to stick) but that's her preference.

Xx

 

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