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sweetlullaby
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Not sure on that one hun but 
what a complete prick!!
what a complete prick!!
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Oh hun. Big hugs.
My FOB quit his job and now works cash in hand to bloody avoid csa! But I've told him he cannot see Lily until he sorts it out.
In my eyes, parental responsability also includes financial aspects and if he refuses to pay and be a child about it by running from his duties then sod him. Lily needs a parent, and he's proven he is anything but.
As far as avoiding calls, they will send a letter and if he ignores that as well they will contact HM revenue and go straight through his work and wages and he will have no say in the matter.
Hope everything works out for you hun. x
My FOB quit his job and now works cash in hand to bloody avoid csa! But I've told him he cannot see Lily until he sorts it out.
In my eyes, parental responsability also includes financial aspects and if he refuses to pay and be a child about it by running from his duties then sod him. Lily needs a parent, and he's proven he is anything but.
As far as avoiding calls, they will send a letter and if he ignores that as well they will contact HM revenue and go straight through his work and wages and he will have no say in the matter.
Hope everything works out for you hun. x
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Can I gatecrash the thread quickly? What happens if you don't have the FOB's address? I have his phone number, his date of birth, I know where he works and I know the Uni he went to. Will that be enough to locate him if he's being difficult about paying?
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My FOB has been doing this from day 1! But 7 months down the line they finally got him. Not from any help from him but by getting his work details and taking payments directly from his pay cheque! And it only took that only because he changed jobs half way through and it takes about 3 months for his work details to register. So they usually give the FOBs up to 12 weeks to do it themselves and if they dont they go through the employer and find out his details themselves x
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Yes hun, they have ways of finding things like that out x
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Sorry I dont have a 'good' outcome! I contacted csa 6 years ago when my youngest was born, they called me back about a month later and said they finally got in touch with FOB, but he was denying beign the father, so I told them taht he'd put his name on the birth certificate, so he must have thought he was then! They said they would get back in touch with him and if I'm happy wth it, tell him that he'll have to pay for a dna test.
So 6 months later, still heard nothing back, so I called them.. asked what was happeneding with my claim, they said they couldn't find any information, and would pass me to another department, after being on hold for an hour, someone answered, said they also couldn't find any information, and said they would have to pass me onto head office. Another hour on hold, and head office appear on the line, saying that all they can see is that my application was closed, but couldn't find the reason for this! I dont know about now, but back then they weren't allowed to close an applicatio without informing you of the reason, in writing, which they didn't do. So this head office lady said she's have a search for the reason, put me on hold for half an hour, then came back saying she would have to go to an even higher department to find a reason for it being closed, and that she would call me back in half an hour.
I'm STILL waiting for her to call me back, 6 years later. I spent the next year calling them up every now and again, asking why no one had called me back.. but just kept going through the same thing, getting passed up to higher and higher departments, put on hold, and saying again, someone will call me back. In the end I gave up, and didn't know who/where could go to with help dealing with them!
Basically I think FOB refused to pay for a dna test, and they just couldn't be bothered to push the matter. I hope things with csa have changed now, coz im about to go through it all over again
I hope you finally have more luck than I did!
So 6 months later, still heard nothing back, so I called them.. asked what was happeneding with my claim, they said they couldn't find any information, and would pass me to another department, after being on hold for an hour, someone answered, said they also couldn't find any information, and said they would have to pass me onto head office. Another hour on hold, and head office appear on the line, saying that all they can see is that my application was closed, but couldn't find the reason for this! I dont know about now, but back then they weren't allowed to close an applicatio without informing you of the reason, in writing, which they didn't do. So this head office lady said she's have a search for the reason, put me on hold for half an hour, then came back saying she would have to go to an even higher department to find a reason for it being closed, and that she would call me back in half an hour.
I'm STILL waiting for her to call me back, 6 years later. I spent the next year calling them up every now and again, asking why no one had called me back.. but just kept going through the same thing, getting passed up to higher and higher departments, put on hold, and saying again, someone will call me back. In the end I gave up, and didn't know who/where could go to with help dealing with them!
Basically I think FOB refused to pay for a dna test, and they just couldn't be bothered to push the matter. I hope things with csa have changed now, coz im about to go through it all over again
I hope you finally have more luck than I did!
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My FOB has now working cash in hand to avoid paying, hes not denyed her but just told them ehs unemployed, they checked if he signed on and he hadnt, hes also now on holiday, they said themselves a single man claiming to be unemployed but has a flat etc, must be getting cash. im furious tho i had to ask my mum to take me to do a big food shop on sunday, and hes swanning off to spain??
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my fob is trying to avoid the call from the csa! so angry about it. they have his work number and now parent's house number. but everytime the csa call they say he's not available just now and to call back at a different time. and when they do he's still not available
i thought he had had the call but now realised he has avoided it any call from csa. argghhh!!!
now i am so worried he will get away with not having to take on financial responsibilty by continuing to avoid the csa and that just makes me so angry
has anyone got any advice or similar experiences hopefully positive ones.
sorry bit of a rant! hate fob today!
as far as im aware. he can avoid them all he wants. they try and phone him, write to him, etc. but if they know where he works they can go there and start taking the money anyway im sure.
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I was worried about this because I wasn't sure where Lucas's dad is living, but I spoke to my auntie who went through the same thing a couple of years ago and she said the CSA just went straight through FOB's work and started a deduction from earnings order when he tried avoiding them. As far as I'm aware it just takes a little longer.
Hope you sort it
Hope you sort it
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he doesnt need to be on bc babe,
they'll ask him if hes the dad. if he says no they will do a dna test which if shows he is the dad then he will then need to pay for.
then maintenance will start and he'll be hundreds out of pocket for test too.
i hope he doesnt pull something stupid.
guys leave their job and get cash in hand and everything just to avoid paying for their child
they'll ask him if hes the dad. if he says no they will do a dna test which if shows he is the dad then he will then need to pay for.
then maintenance will start and he'll be hundreds out of pocket for test too.
i hope he doesnt pull something stupid.
guys leave their job and get cash in hand and everything just to avoid paying for their child
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yup. its a win win situation for you 
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Oh that's brilliant, should get the ball rolling now 
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Thats brilliant hopefully everything will go smoothly from now on!
