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Jinty
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I have no idea how it goes but if i was in your position i wouldn't do anything differently personally. It's not your responsibility to make him do something. If he wants a bond with LO he needs to make the effort. Not you. He can make the effort when your there, like you said you don't say no. It's up to him to stand up and do it.
My opinion anyway... x
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Mammy2Joojx
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i wouldn't of done anything different hun. If he's showing no interest you can't exactlyy sit back & let him do what needs doing as he will probably just sit there & do nothing .. I'd carry on as you are & maybe have a word with him?
P.s have you got a new account hun? Your posts have gone down haven't they? X x x/color]
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i wouldn't of done anything different hun. If he's showing no interest you can't exactlyy sit back & let him do what needs doing as he will probably just sit there & do nothing .. I'd carry on as you are & maybe have a word with him?
P.s have you got a new account hun? Your posts have gone down haven't they? X x x/color]
P.s have you got a new account hun? Your posts have gone down haven't they? X x x/color]
Jinty
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You can't force him to do anything. I'm talking from experience, might be different for him but i don't know. Me, FOB's parents have all tried to get FOB to be a better dad. Do what hes meant to do but its just impossible. He needs to want to do it himself.
Maybe let him know how you feel about it. Let him know that he needs to make the effort rather than you make him do it.
Maybe let him know how you feel about it. Let him know that he needs to make the effort rather than you make him do it.
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You can't not care for LO while he's there. It sounds like he would just leave her crying. Carry on as is hun. Sod what his parents think. He's not being a good dad at all. If he wanted to bond with her he would. You can't force him.
to you & your LO
to you & your LO
BrokenfoREVer
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I know. But you can't change it. Think of it this way... Your the only one she relies on. Your the constant in her world. & as she grows up she'll have that special bond with you & he will have missed out on that.
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I personally leaves DD with him in my room/ living room I go do house work and check in every 20 mins to see if he needs anything or if DD needs something 6 months is young but the only way you can really tell if he will be responsible is if you give him the opportunity to be dad he might not ask you out right to do these things because as mothers we are protective so they are weary of treading on your toes.
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When LO was little and FOB used to come over to see her (up until she was about 7 months and could go for a few hours without needing a feed from me) he'd come for 3 or 4 hours and at first he was a bit like this. I got a bit hacked off when sometimes he'd bring his laptop with him and do work/go on facebook 
He needed some gentle nudging to kind of open up with LO. Like, I'd try and save bathtime for when he was there so he could do it, say I needed to do some work/housework so he'd have to take her etc and gradually he'd start taking a more proactive role. Then it got to the point where I'd pop to the shops and stuff whilst he was there and it just built up like that. Then he spent maybe another 9 months having the same sort of access at his house without me there. Now he has her at weekends and stuff and I'm completely confident in his parenting skills.
Is he shy? Was it an uncomfortable breakup? Maybe he just needs some gentle nudging because he feels unsure. Dads in a relationship can find it awkward to just start being fatherly straight away.
He needed some gentle nudging to kind of open up with LO. Like, I'd try and save bathtime for when he was there so he could do it, say I needed to do some work/housework so he'd have to take her etc and gradually he'd start taking a more proactive role. Then it got to the point where I'd pop to the shops and stuff whilst he was there and it just built up like that. Then he spent maybe another 9 months having the same sort of access at his house without me there. Now he has her at weekends and stuff and I'm completely confident in his parenting skills.
Is he shy? Was it an uncomfortable breakup? Maybe he just needs some gentle nudging because he feels unsure. Dads in a relationship can find it awkward to just start being fatherly straight away.
