depression?

[littlelady]

my health visitor said at my sons 3 month visit she thinks i have post natal depression but i have this huge problem i think it might be post natal still i cant stand people coming round, i get stressed and cry all the time over virtually nothing i have a huge huge problem with people having my son i dont want them to take him away there is no need people keep nagging to take him for the day to help me out but its not its upsetting me if i couldnt cope with my house work and baby i wouldnt have had a baby im fine if i need help i would ask im so doiwn about this i havent let anyone have him over night yet i keep crying and i think i have a huge problem with anxiety i think i need help nim down about everything all the time

 

[TashaAndBump]

Don't really know what to advise but really didn't want to read and run. I think it will get bet better - It can still be postnatal depression at 5 months, and may just pass naturally, however if you really think you are struggling and need some professional help, there is nothing wrong with popping down to your GP, or phoning your health visitor to discuss it with her....

I don't think there is anythin wrong with not wanting anyone to have your baby. I am the same with Anna and I get really funny with people offering to have her for me - If I didn't want a baby and the responsibility that comes with it, I wouldn't have had one! It's not a problem unless you want to leave him but find that you can't - If you don't want to, then don't let people try to bully you into it, or make out that there's something wrong with you. You want to be his mum and look after him yourself - Good on you! Having said that, if you do feel like you're struggling, and want / need a break, there is nothing wrong with accepting help from those around you. I know how annoying / patronising / frustrating it can be when people keep offering to take your son for you, but they really are trying to help and just don't know how... Talk with them and explain how you feel, that you don't want anyone to take him but you - That is your right as his mother.

Really hope you feel better soon x

 

[littlelady]

wow reading that made me cry i really do have a huge problem its been made worse i have a very pushy family and im also young and when he was just 2 weeks old i had people wanting to take him i had a c section so i think thats partly why we didnt bond at first i dont want anyone to take my baby away and my dad kept doind it everyweek i told him i was suffering with postnatal depresion but last night he asked how i was i told him fine when really im not at all fine i just dont like to talk about it especially to my dad so i think hes getting geared up to ask again last nite i sat crying over what he had said even when people are coming round for visits i get cranky because i know there going to hog him and treat him as their own also my dads wife cant have children thats all she wants they sit there like a happy family with my son and i feel left out they ignore anything i say you probably think im being stupid i cant help it im really down about it but i cant even talk to anyone in my family about it i dont have a close relationship with any of them and this is making it worse as i push them all away because they just want to take my baby i dont know what to do anymore i use any excuse so i can keep my son i just want to be a good mum for him and look back in years and say i did it all alone no help from no 1 my family didnt have him 24/7 they think they need to take him out just so i can wash my pots get a life iu hate this i can cope and im sure its all down to me being young i have my own house now and my own son i just want to live my life happy i really hope someone on here understands how i feel ive got so much worry on my mind about it all and i could go on for hours about whats getting me down thanks for listening i really needed to get this out to someone

 

[mickey]

postnatal depression can occur any time after birth up until your child is about 1 year old!

however being depressed and being more sensitive 'cos of lack of sleep and caring for a baby 24/7 are two different things!

sometimes I also cry, just 'cos I feel exhausted!

and I also would not leave Juleika with somebody over night! firstly my times of partying are over, that is why I decided to have a child and I do not need any girl's-nights-out anymore and secondly I am very interested in the well-being of my LO. I think that has absolutely nothing to do with PND!!!

but, if you feel like you loose interests in things around you, e.g. friends, family, partner, you loose motivation to do things around you, e.g. caring for the baby, housework, job and loose interest in leaving the house to go out etc.... then you definately have PND!

sorry to be so straight, but before doc prescribes you some happy pills see whether you REALLY have PND!

you also can PM me, if you want to discuss it further

all the best

 

[mickey]

ps: I also would not allow my father and his wife to take my baby as a replacement for the baby they can't have!!!!!

 

[Moulder86]

I have no idea how you feel at the moment as I'm still waiting for my LO to arrive but I have been very low and I'm seeking professional help as I want my chances of PND to get lower. There is no harm in asking someone for help and i don't mean happy pills I mean just to have someone to talk to and help you sort your head out.

Hope you feel better soon.

xx

 

[littlelady]

yes mickey as you said i have lost interest in everyone and everything around me i dont want to go oujt i dont want family round i just want to be alone at home 24/7

 

[mickey]

that sounds pretty much like PND and you should seek medical advice, possibly go for coucelling before you go on any medication!

all the best, take care

 

[cheeky_carrie]

I had PND with both my boys its awful so for you

mine wasnt spotted until ds was just over 2 tho so it can happen anytime when u have young children depending on your life and things around you, docs think i had it from ds1 and just plodded along and they didnt realise until ds2 was nearly 2 as i started showing my feelings as everything was getting on top of me etc blah i wont bore u with the details , im praying i dont get it this time hopefully wont as my relationship and everything in my life is in a happier place!!

hpoe u feel more like yourself soon xx

 

[littlelady]

thanks girls well i have my contraceptive injection on wednsday do you think doc will do a double appointment and help me for pnd too i no i have it just wanted advice anyone else here feel like me

 

[mickey]

I would ask him, when you are in, can't imagine he tells you he won't have time to listen to you.

important for you now, is to get a referal for councelling!

surely, he can do this for you when you are in!

keep us updated!

all the best

 

[Ratty]

Tell them if they really want to help, they can wash your pots etc so that you can relax and spent time with YOUR child.

I can't say I know what you are going through as I have the opposite problem. I cry because sometimes I just wish I could hand my little one over for an hour just so I can relax with a cup of tea and something to eat and not worry about him 24/7.

i really hope you manage to make your family understand how you feel!

 

[littlelady]

yeah i see what you mean hopefully they help they cant expect to send me away to suffer?

 

[littlelady]

ok i went he gave me some sertraline tablets anyone had them