TennesseeMom
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Okay, so.. when me and DH got together , I had a son from my previous marriage. We got married when my son was 5 years old, then two years later had an "oops" and out came our daughter, who is now 8. I was pretty vocal back then in saying I was done having kids, had my boy and my girl. I was set. Fast forward to now.. I started telling DH I wanted another baby, and he only said "sounds good.. I'm not against having another". My Mom and a few friends have been a bit negative about it thusfar, saying I'm too old (pfft, im 35), our finances will be tighter.. random things like this. I started to worry a bit, and thought maybe theyre right, and maybe DH just doesnt care either way, so I tell him maybe we shouldnt try for another. His face went blank. He got up and walked out, wouldnt talk, wouldnt answer me. It freaked me right out. lol Finally he comes back and pops off with "What the hell? Youre just going to change your mind like that??". I told him I felt like maybe I was making the decision on my own, and that maybe my baby fever was clouding my judgement. Soo.. THEN I find out things about my DH I NEVER knew! As it turns out, he has always dreamed of having a large family (he grew up the youngest of four), but he never told me what he really wanted, because he felt since I'm the one who stays home with them, and I'm the one who does "most" of the hard work with them, he felt it would be selfish to ask me to do it, if I didnt already want to. So.. when I started endlessly talking about a new baby, what I DIDNT know was that he was jumping for joy inside, and now that I'd said maybe we shouldnt.. his world had come crashing down. Then he tells me that he heard me telling a friend of mine that after "this last one" I will have my tubes tied. He asked if that was what I was going to do. I said "probably.. why?". He says he wishes I wouldnt, that hed like to have TWO more babies before its all said and done. My jaw was on THE FLOOR! lol I have lived with this man for ten years. I was CLUELESS. lol I honestly thought all these years he was content with not having more... and apparently the entire time, he felt he was missing out on this huge family hed been dreaming of, and keeping his mouth shut because he didnt want to "push" me into it. Its times like this I remember why I married him. hehe. Anyway.. that just stunned me, so I had to share. lol Just goes to show ya.. even if youve been married for years, it doesnt mean youve figured out everything. lol
to you
He sounds so lovely.
xx
