Did any watch a C4 Program about women who wanted a girl and they kept having boys?

[ZJ2009]

This program made me so so angry and upset.

i'm having my treatment in the next few months and it is so hard wanting a child and not being able to without having to go through treatment and the not knowing if it will work or not...feeling like i may never experience pregnancy or never hold my husbands child in my arms.

The main woman in the program that upset me was one who had three or four boys and was pregnant again, she was desperate for a girl...she went for her scan and was so distraught to be having another boy..... she was behaving like she'd just been told something was terribly wrong with the baby.

myself and many women would love to know what it's like to be a mother...what it's like to feel their child move inside them.... to hold their baby for the first time...and to generally experience motherhood.. made me so upset at how much she was taking it for granted. let alone how that child will feel if it sees that program when it growns up...going to make it feel really wanted.. Her poor husband was getting very fed up with her behaviour.

ok rant over x ..just wish i could say this to her face

 

[Chloe1]

yeah i seen it. I couldn't believe the woman who burst out crying when she found out she was having another boy. She didnt even ask if the baby was healthy or did everything look ok she just kept saying can you see what it is? The midwife actually said to her just give me a minute while i check all the measurements etc. Unbelievable.

The woman who i was most shocked at was the one who said "I would describe not being able to have a girl like not being able to ever have children" I was totally shocked. How the hell does she know? I am surprised that there havent been loads of complaints.

 

[ZJ2009]

i forgot about that comment....that made me want to cry and scream at her

 

[Mummytofour]

I didn't see the programme but a friend of mine who had 4 girls finally had her 5th and it was a boy.
Her inlaws were over the moon saying, " well now your DH can name his business **** and Son"!
She went mental saying "why, are my girls not good enough?"!!!!!

She has been through so much, one with downs, one with a brain abnormality, so this was the final straw for her!!!
Needless to say she no longer speaks to her inlaws!

So, although she already has the blessing of children, she finds the crying if its not the sex you want absolutely appalling too.

The women on this programme need to meet some of the LTTTC ladies especially those who have been blessed and lost, then maybe they would realise just how sodding blessed they really are!!!

Sorry rant over!

 

[BigFoot1980]

I agree. I could hardly believe it.

 

[Nise]

I watched this show on catch up coz I'd heard so much about it - I've tried to view it with an open mind, although I share many of the same sentiments as the rest of you in so far as, I would be extremely happy to have just one child of any sex, that would be the best thing in the world.

I also work in TV and I am very aware of how things work both in the shoot and later in the edit suite - the sweetest person can be portrayed as a monster just by some simple cuts, and monsters can be well hidden. And let's face it CH4 are well know for diverse programme making that thrives on shock tactics.

I have come to the conclusion that the woman who likened not being able to have a boy to not being able to have a baby at all, was perhaps just trying to summaries her feelings by likening them to something, that to her would be the most painful and unconceivable thing she could imagine (though I confess I did not warm to her). And as for the lady that burst into tears at her scan, well in all truthfulness I think she simply reacted to the disappointment in the way that many humans react to disappointment - She cried. crying is often completely involuntary, she wasn't sobbing and shouting 'I don't want this baby' or anything along those lines, and we as the viewer did not get to see the whole of her scan process. so I actually think people are being a little hard on her. She wasn't the wicked witch from hell, mistreating her children, she was merely someone who had built her hopes up and had them dashed.

There we go, just another view on the whole thing.

 

[jojoD]

I heard about it. What a joke!!!

Friends and family watched it and were glad I didn't see it. Some people just don't know when they're living!!!!

At least we know our future children will all receive unconditional love regardless of their sex, academic ability or whatever!! Let them be ignorant, poor children growing up and feeling unwanted. Again, we all know we'll never make a child feel like that and will be stronger and better parents for it

 

[Aphrodite]

what was the programme called? I want to watch it now. Still, though, Nise to be actually disappointed over your childs sex is pretty appalling. She should be grateful for the miracle of life. Does make you wonder why she's so desperate for a girl though. I mean, being a parent is about nurturing another life, not dressing it up like a doll, which sounds like this is what this woman wants, why else would she be so desperate for a girl??

 

[obe]

Yes I saw it, and I could of cried!! These women dont know how lucky they are to be able to have children at all!!
On a plus side, with us having ICSI I got to see a little bit of the procedure. I got a little upset when that women at the end took the preg test and it was negitive, im just praying that wont happen to me!!
x

 

[BabyChristie]

I saw about 30 seconds of it when we flipped channels and I told DH to turn it off immediately before I threw something heavy at his beloved plasma! In just a few seconds I got the gist of it and it made me so angry, my blood was boiling.

With so many women struggling to conceive or to carry a healthy baby full term, I couldn't believe that the women felt hard done by because they already had several healthy children, but of the 'wrong' sex. I just wanted her to spend 5 minutes reading some of the posts here to get a glimpse of the desperation and heartache we are all going through to make her appreciate what she does have, rather than what she doesn't. Grrrrrrr. Rant over.

 

[lady blush]

well ive been trying to concieve for nearly 6 years and i did watch this program and tbh i was very disgusted that this would even have the oportunity to be aired as there is alot more important issues that needs to be adressed other than this(i do know that this is an ilness but surely this has rubbed salt in open wounds.eg infertility/m/c etc.

it digustes me that these women were dissapointed because there children were not the desired sex.if only they knew the heart break of not being able to have children naturaly,if only they knew what it was like to have countless blood test,scans,operations,invasive treaments,countless BFN.only to be told there was no answers as to why they cant concieve.these women do not understand the pain of having to go through infertility and for one of them to even compare it to not being able to have children makes me feel sick.

they will never know the heartbreak of not knowing if we are ever going to hold our babys in our arms.

im sorry but this program was unfair for thousands of women like us trying desperatly to concieve our miracles.

girl or boy i would die for either

they should be greatful that god has blessed them with children regardless of their sex they are healthy and beautiful children. every child is a blessing from god and should be cherished.

 

[lululala]

i know the way.. u can got your girl .. 100% natural way

 

[DragonMummy]

I watched it and I had to turn it off. I agree with Nise insomuch as a lot of it was probably clever editing for shock, but you have to wonder if anyone else is as shocked or if it is just us who are sensitive.

The bit where the woman burst into tears at the sight of that perfect little boy was the point where I had to turn over. I felt just so sick and sad because he's disappointed his mummy already and he's not born for another 4 months.... what chance does he have?

 

[muncho]

this lady lives on the same estate as my SIL and knows her!!

 

[Trying4ever]

just imagine they did a programme on infertile women/couples...like you and me.....and we were having a moan on the programme saying that it is the end of the world becuase we cannot have children. And then people start saying to you .....well YOU have your health, you have your family around you, you don't live in a war-torn country, arent starving and have a roof over your head. You have lots to be grateful for so stop moping about not being able to have children....what if someone said that to you? You would be shocked. So I think we just need to cut abit of slack as I believed the woman who said that it was likened to her not ever being able to have kids. She felt dead and I too feel dead in the same way. Although I have to agree I didnt agree on selecting gender through IVF but then someone else might believe that IVF is wrong full stop and if you arent meant to have kids then let it be. I did notice though that all the women had so much money and were so rich to be able to go through these private treatments in america and not the ones in the uk! But her twin girls were well spoilt....I am dreading for her when they reach teenage years!

 

[CurlySue]

Sometimes I'd like to take such women into a small room and scream out every last frustration I have ever had at them.