Did anyone find out the sex for one pregnancy and keep it a secret for another?

[Kmx]

How did the pregnancy and bond compare when you found out compared to when you kept a secret?

With my son I found out as soon as I could that he was a boy as I just couldn't wait to find out. throughout my pregnancy I imagined my son and all the things I would do with him. I thought about names and bought all his clothes and decorated his nursery.

I have just found out I'm pregnant again and I would love a surprise as I think it would make the birth a magical and exciting experience. But I worry about how it might affect my bond with the baby. I can't imagine myself with a girl and if I found out I was having a girl it would take a while to Get my head around it as I just cannot imagine it.

So anyone found out with one and kept the other a secret and how did it compare. Did you enjoy your pregnancy more with either one?

Thanks x

 

[emyandpotato]

Our first was a surprise, though I was convinced he was a boy, and my second we found out (another boy). I actually felt more bonded the second time around.

 

[hanni]

Stalking this! Hope you don't mind.

 

[LoraLoo]

The only one we kept a surprise was Eve (third baby) - I was convinced she was a boy. It was a lovely surprise when she was born to see she was in fact a girl.
But when she died I felt robbed - I could have had an extra 20 weeks+ bonding with her as a girl and picking out nice girly things for her to wear. We had no pink things for her. She had no name until she died, so for me- I don't think I'd do the surprise thing again.

 

[Bevziibubble]

I was team yellow first time and we found out this time. I think both times were exciting in their own way. Team yellow it was exciting with all the suspense and guessing, and this time it's exciting because we can plan exactly what to buy etc

 

[SpringCrane]

I found out as soon as possible with my son, but I plan to keep it a surprise this time for the same reason... I want there to be another level of excitement and suspense around the birth. I already know labor hurts, so having the baby's gender about to be revealed might be a nice thing to focus on I'm also thinking finding out I'm having a girl would be a little disappointing, but if she's in my arms when I find out, there will be zero questioning how perfect she is for us, you know?

 

[Becky1987]

I've done both was team yellow first time round and found out the second time but kept it to ourselves! I much preferred being team yellow. I now have one of each so when we get pregnant again I defiantly will be team yellow! I do think it's a personal choice tho so go with your heart. X

 

[Gym knickers]

We found out at 17 weeks first time and were team yellow for the second one. I much preferred knowing and felt much more bonded with my first when she was in my tummy so we're going to find out if we have a third. Also as I now have 2 girls I'd like to be prepared either way for the sex of the third baby.

 

[Itsychik]

For my first two babies, I wanted to know the gender, because I wanted to be able to decorate for either a 'boy' or a 'girl' and I wanted to have pink or blue clothing, etc, before they were born. We ended up having a boy and a girl, and said that if we ever had a 3rd we would stay team yellow, because then we'd already have the clothing, etc, for both genders so it wouldn't matter.

Just found out recently that we're expecting #3, and I'm looking forward to keeping it a secret. But again, I'm only 'prepared' to do this because I have one of each already. To each their own though!

 

[rwhite]

I found out with my first, but didn't with my second (only because we couldn't - her legs were crossed!)

I much preferred knowing, personally, but most people seem to say they preferred the surprise. But if we ever had a third I would most definitely find out!

 

[Taurus8484]

Found out with first but not second. Much prefer not knowing. Loved that feeling of looking between the legs and seeing myself what he was.

 

[bumblebeexo]

With my first we found out the gender, with my second we kept it a surprise. If we have any more I will definitely stay team yellow, finding out at the birth was amazing!

 

[Dolly84]

We found out with our 1st (boy) and kept our 2nd a surprise (girl). I felt I bonded with my son a lot more than with my daughter. I didn't feel the surprise had been robbed at birth like some people describe. In fact once I gave birth to my daughter (10lb 4oz)! I was just so relieved the pain was over I didn't even check her gender for a few minuites 😂. I didn't have a chance to "get used to" having a girl, or buy girly clothes, she is now 4 months old and other than clothes that people have bought for her after she was born I still havnt had the pleasure of buying her some girly clothes. As and when we have a 3rd we will DEFINATLY be finding out 😬👍😊xxx

 

[ZooMa]

I found out for #1 (girl) but did not for #2 (boy). For me, it was perfect that way - the excitement of planning for #1, and the excitement of discovery for #2. I, too, was worried about bonding if I had one with opposite gender than #1, since I knew about girls and what to expect. However, I had a sense early on with both about gender and I was right. I'm happy to say that bonding fears were unfounded. I was slightly and briefly disappointed to have a boy just because this fear of the unknown. However. Early on you realize a newborn is just a newborn, they need you the same and the love you the same. And you bond with them the same and in a few weeks couldn't imagine having having anything else, now having fallen completely in love with this little being.