did i have a miscarriage?

[djh]

ladies,

I started to think about this some more and wanted your thoughts.

Last month at 7dpo i was bleeding...enough to put a panty liner on. (at first i thought it might have been implantation bleeding) I think in all my years of af that has only happened twice. It was a very stressful day though and maybe my body was adjusting to the move we had made (moved from london to toronto) and my dh was training me to do stuff for his business and i have been driving him around due to health issues and i hate driving him around...stresses me out...anyways, i did a hpt on about cd 34 bc af was late but it was negative... i dont remember my period being any different.

any thoughts...? it could have just been spotting bc i was stressed...

 

[DBZ34]

ladies,

I started to think about this some more and wanted your thoughts.

Last month at 7dpo i was bleeding...enough to put a panty liner on. (at first i thought it might have been implantation bleeding) I think in all my years of af that has only happened twice. It was a very stressful day though and maybe my body was adjusting to the move we had made (moved from london to toronto) and my dh was training me to do stuff for his business and i have been driving him around due to health issues and i hate driving him around...stresses me out...anyways, i did a hpt on about cd 34 bc af was late but it was negative... i dont remember my period being any different.

any thoughts...? it could have just been spotting bc i was stressed...

I'm not sure, truthfully.

Mid-cycle bleeding could be due to other things than implantation. It's possible you had the spotting/bleeding because of the stress you were under (It sounds like you had a lot going on!) Your AF could have been late because of the stress too. Do you use anything to track your cycles?

I hope things become clearer for you soon!

 

[djh]

i dont really use anything to track...except for a pocket calendar to mark arrival of af, what day i ovulated, and opks...but nothing else.

 

[Firefly Skies]

It's really hard to say that early unless you have more medical information (like lab tests for HCG done, temps showing ovulation did occur that cycle and possibly conception, etc). I know because I've been wondering the same thing about my past cycle. It just seems weird to me that AF was so late, and I had a lot of symptoms that vanished as soon as AF showed up. And AF was painful on top of that (I rarely get cramps ever), extremely heavy and chunky the first couple days, then light and relatively normal.

I will probably never know, and you may not either. This is how I've personally chosen to look at it... Whether it was or it wasn't, there's nothing I can do for it now. If it wasn't, then it's just another new cycle to try again. If it was, well, that actually gives me hope. It means I can get pregnant, it just didn't work out for whatever reason.

And miscarriages aren't abnormal, either. Having one doesn't make you more likely to have another; early miscarriages typically happen because the genetics in the fertilized egg didn't work out (e.g. chromosomal abnormalities and things like that). And that is why, even though the first couple days of my AF were really depressing for me, I'm staying positive now. If it was that, then it happened once and it can happen again.

Hope that helped.

 

[Moet]

I have bled midcycle once when I was under really bad stress. I didnt stop bleeding for almost 2 weeks. And I wasnt ttc then, so no chance of pregnancy. It does happen. If it was a miscarriage, it doesnt necessarily mean you will have another. It does not do you any good to stress out over the past and questions you cant answer. I would say try and put it out of your mind and keep positive

 

[djh]

It's really hard to say that early unless you have more medical information (like lab tests for HCG done, temps showing ovulation did occur that cycle and possibly conception, etc). I know because I've been wondering the same thing about my past cycle. It just seems weird to me that AF was so late, and I had a lot of symptoms that vanished as soon as AF showed up. And AF was painful on top of that (I rarely get cramps ever), extremely heavy and chunky the first couple days, then light and relatively normal.

I will probably never know, and you may not either. This is how I've personally chosen to look at it... Whether it was or it wasn't, there's nothing I can do for it now. If it wasn't, then it's just another new cycle to try again. If it was, well, that actually gives me hope. It means I can get pregnant, it just didn't work out for whatever reason.

And miscarriages aren't abnormal, either. Having one doesn't make you more likely to have another; early miscarriages typically happen because the genetics in the fertilized egg didn't work out (e.g. chromosomal abnormalities and things like that). And that is why, even though the first couple days of my AF were really depressing for me, I'm staying positive now. If it was that, then it happened once and it can happen again.

Hope that helped.

thanks for responding! and yes your right, i will never know...makes me sad... but your right again..same as you...if it was a miscarriage then that means I can get pregnant...which up until now i have not seen any indications that I could. i totally agree with you...theres nothing i can do about it if it was..and if next week this time i have af..then i will just look forward to the following weeks to try again. it just gets depressing though month after month after month..i try not think so much about it but its hard.. i am sure you can relate. I have a friend who is prego with baby #4...i wish i was as lucky as her..life is not fair sometimes!

good luck to you and baby dust!

 

[HopePeaceJoy]

Hi djh, a couple of cycles ago I was really late and since going off of bc, I've never been that late. I had a lot of possible pregnancy symptoms, which all went away when AF showed up. It was hard because I got so excited and my friend told me that she was pregnant with her second, so we would have be pregnant together. I could have be just late, I'll never know. But it does give me some hope. Now I don't get excited anymore as I wait for AF. I'm still saying positive, but it helps to protect my emotions by assuming I won't be pregnant. So glad there are these forums. None of my friends can relate, so I love having people here to talk about it with.

 

[djh]

Hi djh, a couple of cycles ago I was really late and since going off of bc, I've never been that late. I had a lot of possible pregnancy symptoms, which all went away when AF showed up. It was hard because I got so excited and my friend told me that she was pregnant with her second, so we would have be pregnant together. I could have be just late, I'll never know. But it does give me some hope. Now I don't get excited anymore as I wait for AF. I'm still saying positive, but it helps to protect my emotions by assuming I won't be pregnant. So glad there are these forums. None of my friends can relate, so I love having people here to talk about it with.

I wasnt sure what to think...but a month later i started to wonder if it was implantation bleeding... but like you i will never know either... and i know the feeling...none of my friends can relate.. just one...one of them is a baby machine...and i dont discuss this with her...bc she simply can't relate.

I dont get excited while i wait for af either... after so many months i usually start telling myself that by about 10dpo if i havent noticed any symptoms that it didnt happen...pretty sure it didnt happen this month. I try to stay positive too, after all we are trying again after a 5 month break..but still its so very hard... i assuem each month that it didnt work either.

How old are you and how long have you been trying? where do you live?

I will be 32 in a few months, live in the toronto area.. and on month 17 right now... no known fertility issues (was going to fertility clinic for a few months before i moved) dh is fine in that area too.

I have another friend actually that is about 41, she just found out her dhs sperm is no good at all, i forget what its called...so their ttc journey has ended...so sad for her..she was going to try ivf this summer...so hard.. shes holding up well... i dont think i could be as strong as her...and they dont want to adopt..so no children in their life...

 

[wannabemomy37]

You may never know, unfortunately. Chemical Pregnancies often go un-noticed unless you are specifically paying attention to things.

I've just had my 3rd Chemical yet no doctor has been able to "confirm" it. I feel I don't really need the confirmation though because I know my body and I just FEEL different those cycles that it happened to. Those same cycles my normal 30-day cycles were longer, heavier, more painful and symptoms suddenly eased off shortly after AF was gone.

TMI WARNING:
Each of those times I have also seen some sort of "fetus" matter come out along with AF. I examined them each closely and according to my research it fit along the lines of a 5 week fetus. About the size of a pea (not even), skin colored, etc. But obviously this was because I really LOOKED at what came out (because each of those 3 times I was absolutely SHOCKED that I was bleeding at all as I had known I was pregnant)