Did I steal your "thunder"? Get over it B**tch

[Nina83]

At almost 16 weeks, most people are out in the open! Shine on, Nina and do what makes you comfortable! Also, petty comment, but six months IS NOT a long time to try. I know it's hard and stressful and scary when you are in it, but as someone who tried nearly two years, people who whined after only 4,5,6 months about "at least you know you can get pregnant," (said to me a lot after my ectopic), or how difficult TTC is seriously annoyed me at the time when I was personally in the trenches. Trying for six months is normal.

I know 6 months is pretty normal.
They started trying for 3 months, and then took about 3 months break and then after 3 months they got it.
I was really upset when she would say how it isn't going for them when it took us 8 months to get pregnant the first time, and then we had 2 back to back miscarriages, and then it took us another 9 months.
But you can't really tell a woman who is TTC that 3,4,5 months isn't a long time. You can just hope she is sympathetic and knows that others have tried for much longer.

 

[staceymxxx]

She just wants all the attention on her, i get that but she doesn't think long term, she now has someone to share her experience with and both of your children can be playmates

 

[Nina83]

She just wants all the attention on her, i get that but she doesn't think long term, she now has someone to share her experience with and both of your children can be playmates

I am so happy I'll have someone I actually know on maternity leave with me!

 

[pinkribbon]

I think she just wants the attention on her. I have someone on Fb who is pregnant, she's having her first baby. When she announced I commented very excitedly saying congratulations to her, have shared in her pregnancy statuses etc. my announcement - nothing gotta laugh. In her head she is the only one in the world that will ever have a baby. If someone suggests something because she is moaning about tiredness/sickness etc she is very snappy almost as if that opinion is stupid and invalid.

Someone commented asking has her partner felt movement yet, so exciting. She replied snappily saying oh is it not important for the mother to feel movement... The comment obviously wasn't meant nastily by the poster.

I just let her get on with it

 

[TryinFor1]

Yours probably beats mine but my sister did this too. I got pregnant first and miscarried. she got pregnant two months later because I was pregnant (she told me that) and told me in a text saying "guess what? You're gonna be an aunt!" We were on our way to Texas for a trip to get.away from the negative miscarriage emotions for a bit so I just got to hysterically cry for about six hours on our way there. I wanted to text back and say, "guess what? I already am an aunt." She wasn't trying to hurt me, I don't think, but she knew she was being insensitive. Then when I finally got pregnant, she didn't care. She rubbed it in my face that she was having a girl (that is what my family wanted, though I didn't care. And my son is amazing), she stole my sons name (mine is Rylan, hers is Rylie), she stole the fact he had two middle names and gave her daughter two middle names, she made my baby shower about her since she was due like a week later. She just didn't want.to share in my joy at all but wanted me to revel in hers. Were closer now since our kids are born and I let it slide. Her daughter is just my niece while my son is my son. My amazing, gorgeous, wonderful, smart, beautiful baby boy who I love more than anything I ever have. It does suck cause now she is constantly showing off what her daughter can do. she is way advanced in language skills, and I get showing your kids off but its me. She doesn't have to show off in front of me.