Did you just not bother......?

[vintage67]

ohhhh i got asked this when i had DD and the woman got a mouthful she was basically told "you get rushed to hosp when you lo is 5days old with a weight loss of over 15% of there birth weight and wont wake up, no wet or dirty nappies and basically told you get to hosp now or thats it.... all due to me trying to bf and not producing... so you want me to keep trying and let my baby get sicker and sicker???".... she quickly ran away from a very hormonal me!!!

with ds i got asked if i was bf him (another stranger) when i said no, she tutted at me so she got the same response...

really bugs me, its personal choice, and why should we have to justify how we feed our children!!

xx

Glad you let them have it!

Unfortunately for some very passionate breastfeeders, all it takes is the sight of a bottle and they leap to all kinds of assumptions about the mother. It's very sad really. No one knows what journety led that person to formula. Feeding your baby is a very personal thing. People really shouldn't be asking questions like that.

 

[dizz]

ohhhh i got asked this when i had DD and the woman got a mouthful she was basically told "you get rushed to hosp when you lo is 5days old with a weight loss of over 15% of there birth weight and wont wake up, no wet or dirty nappies and basically told you get to hosp now or thats it.... all due to me trying to bf and not producing... so you want me to keep trying and let my baby get sicker and sicker???".... she quickly ran away from a very hormonal me!!!

with ds i got asked if i was bf him (another stranger) when i said no, she tutted at me so she got the same response...

really bugs me, its personal choice, and why should we have to justify how we feed our children!!

xx

Glad you let them have it!

Unfortunately for some very passionate breastfeeders, all it takes is the sight of a bottle and they leap to all kinds of assumptions about the mother. It's very sad really. No one knows what journety led that person to formula. Feeding your baby is a very personal thing. People really shouldn't be asking questions like that.

You're making one massive mistake there - you're assuming they actually give a shit about the journey that led you to a bottle.

They don't. Even if you give the most honest, heartbreaking, valid reason in the world - they'll possibly put you in that mental box of "the acceptable 2%" and carry on harrassing everyone else... they're never going to listen or be convinced to show a degree of empathy or compassion.

They just want to bang on and make themselves feel good, give themselves that little strut in their step as they walk away, feeling like they've completed their crusade for the day.

What gets me is quite why they choose to do this on babies who are ALREADY being formula fed, whose mothers have already LOST their milk supply. Surely if they actually WANTED to increase breastfeeding they'd be out there targetting support at those wavering from the good and honest path of righteousness? Nah - they just wanted to big themselves up a bit and bully another mother.

 

[vintage67]

It's one of those days for me too Dizz and if you're lighting torches to storm the castle, I'm with you.

 

[eulmh82]

It is like you are Satan isn't it!!!!! I don;t tell aomebody else how to colour their hair or dress or do their make up so why should they tell me how to feed my baby. I was formula fed - and I turned ouit ok (ish )

 

[Mummythree]

how annoying, everyone assumes because you bottlefeed you just didnt bother with breastfeeding if only they knew! nothing wrong with just choosing to bottlefeed. ive done both i like bottlefeeding.

 

[avellana]

ohhhh i got asked this when i had DD and the woman got a mouthful she was basically told "you get rushed to hosp when you lo is 5days old with a weight loss of over 15% of there birth weight and wont wake up, no wet or dirty nappies and basically told you get to hosp now or thats it.... all due to me trying to bf and not producing... so you want me to keep trying and let my baby get sicker and sicker???".... she quickly ran away from a very hormonal me!!!
xx

No one knows what someone else has been through. We all need to remember that when judging other moms. I also went through my baby not waking up, and really, it was such a nightmare, it's still heartbreaking to remember. Good on you for letting them know!!

 

[HellBunny]

I've done both, i preferred bottlefeeding, less stressful and i have two happy and healthy kids (and i'm sick to death of those who knock us who say "i was bottlefed and i'm fine" well yes most people who were bottlefed are fine, so what? my nephews were breastfed and are ill every 5 minutes, they passed 2 viruses on to me and i ended up in hospital.
The ones who are always putting us down clearly mustn't be happy in their parenting, otherwise they wouldn't bother lol

 

[vintage67]

Great line Hellbunny! Works in both directions, eh?

 

[HellBunny]

It sure does! xx

 

[.rollinn.]

Those comment's really bother me,it wasn't my choice not to bf. I'm on 2 different medication's that leave me no choice but to ff. I'd also like say the way you choose to feed YOUR CHILD not THEIRS does not make anyone better than anybody. The babies getting fed something so they need to sdfu.