Did you tell your HV or midwife that you bed share?

[pinklightbulb]

I did. She wasn't impressed but I didn't care lol.

 

[Sovereign]

No but only cos I cant be bothered with the lecture x

 

[babydust1990]

I occasionally bed share but cba with the lecture and just say he sleeps in his crib... Which he does... Sometimes...

 

[special_kala]

I have mentioned ita few times, they have never said anything to me about it. I don't think they are brave enough

 

[deafgal]

nope, never discussed her sleeping arrangement with her pediatrician.

 

[babybrums]

I told my midwife. She actually recommends it, as long as the proper precautions are taken and you're not a drunk/druggie. At my 6 week check up she could tell it was helping us because I looked a lot more rested than a lot of the other moms coming in

 

[ktod]

HV never asked me but told me never to do it. It's a shame they make people feel uncomfortable with sharing the truth. It would be so much better if we could talk openly and honestly without judgement. That goes for other things as well not just bed sharing.

 

[babyjan]

I didn't but when I was in hospital with LO on Friday night I told the nurse he doesn't sleep in a cot and only sleeps in a bed with me she was really understanding and brought us a patient bed to sleep on together x

 

[AP]

HV never asked and if she did I'd lie because I guarantee mine would be a nightmare about it.

Hospital were quite supportive tbh!

 

[AngelofTroy]

Yeah that's what I found, the hospital were all for it and gave us info on safe co-sleeping but the community mw and hv basically forbade it, so I didn't feel comfortable telling them.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I did. She said well, I can't tell you not to cause I did too, lol!

 

[libbylou]

Didn't read all the replies, but yes I did.

I was really nervous about it because I always said I wouldn't do it as I felt it was risky, until I gave birth to a high needs sensitive baby who was attached to me 24/7 and wouldn't sleep unless she was on me
My midwife was awesome, she calmed my fears, told me it wasn't as bad as it was made out to be and to make sure I was doing it safely

I've told a number of public health nurses that we bed share as well and they either don't comment or make supportive comments like "you gotta do what you gotta do!"

 

[MariaSoton]

The midwife that did my home visits after Theo's birth and my HV both recommend bed sharing and said they did it with their own children. HV would say things like its good for nursing, always keep them higher than you in the bed etc.
Despite their recommendations I sleep easier when he's in his crib with the angelcare breathing monitor on. I think I'm a bit too paranoid to regularly co-sleep. I have been known to do it on occasion though when Theo doesn't settle in his crib.