difficulty sleeping?

[babytots]

anyone else found they couldnt/cant sleep since their loss.

its been 4 weeks since i found out jessica had grown her wings and havent had a decents night sleep since. each night i tell myself right early night tonight and yet i just cant switch off.

i was given tablets to help me sleep when i had jessica but only used 2 as they dont work.

am hoping when jessicas results are through i might be able to sleep a little easier and if not i am going to go back to my g.p.

i honestly feel like a walking zombie x

 

[roadrunner]

I had a very difficult time sleeping. And often when I did sleep I had horrible dreams. I think if you continue to have trouble it is perfectly fine to see the doctor about it again. I don't know if my situation is all that comparable but my experience has been that my sleep is all messed up. It is certainly worse when something big is freshly going on, like a loss. But I think my work/school schedule has me all turned around. The only decent sleep I ever get is with lunesta or ambien. I have struggled with whether or not it is a good idea for me to take something on a nightly basis, but I have found that I am far more functional when I do. I am not taking anything right now (in surgery everyday, so have to get up at 4AM) and I half wonder if that is part of why I am struggling so much emotionally right now, too.
Anyway...I am so sorry. I know it is miserable. I hope you find relief soon. (((((many hugs))))

 

[babytots]

thanks hun glad i'm not the only one. i think my sleep pattern doesnt help either. my partner works 4 days on 4 days off so on his days off i get lie ins which in turn make me stay up late then when hes working i have to get up early but as i am used to staying up late i just cant switch off and losing jessica really doesnt help this. x

 

[AlwaysPraying]

It's part of the coping process, that I do know. Your mind is overwhelmed with emotions and that causes all sorts of things with your sleep, your ability to relax and all that. Also, sleeping and dreams help us to get through and deal with daily emotions, so if those daily emotions are so extreme, then the mind is having a hard time figuring that process out.

The only thing I would say is to keep talking to your dr and be aware of depression, that could cause sleep problems as well.

I'm sorry its bugging you, but it will get back to normal, just like everything else will (a new normal).

 

[Shelby2007]

Well put AlwaysPraying..

thinking of you babytots.

 

[babytots]

thanks hunni that does make sense as i am worrying far to much over jessicas results but i cant help it as i know she was poorly i just dont know why and what caused it and i'm fretting so much especially at night time when i dont have my girls taking my mind off things.

thanks for the hugs shelby some coming your way too x

 

[todteach]

I would just like to repeat what the other girls have told you: this is completely normal and part of your grieving. I know that I have never been through as much as you're going through right now , but after my second miscarriage, I requested to be put on something to help me cope, as the struggle with my first m/c was unreal. The doctor put me on ativan (lorazepam is the generic name) to take before bedtime for a short period of time and it really helped me to relax. Is that what you were prescribed, or was it something else hun? I find that nights are the loneliest times, and that's when you think the most. Sending you hugs hun. xox We're all here for you if you need us.

 

[hayley x]

I'm sorry your finding it hard to sleep!! The tablets do nothing for me either!! They just make me think more and have the awful images of finding my son dead!! Maybe talk with your doctor maybe theres some different tablets you can have?? Im going to ask my doctor when I see her on Thursday. I know my situations different to yours but I try not to focus on getting Alex's post mortem results as the chances are we will NEVER know why our baby died I find it helps going up to the cemmetary sitting with my son come rain or shine and blow him lots of bubbles dont know why, it just comforts me. Take care sending you lots of xxxxxxxxxxxxxx