Do any of you feel lilke....

[sophieee18]

Although we haven't technically spilt up yet, I'd still like some advice...


When I was pregnant with DS I split up with his dad. I have brought him up single handed. Alfie has no contact with his father at all. I then met my current partner. He is amazing! He has 2 boys of his own & he has welcomed us both into his home & calls Alfie his own son. If anyone asks how many kids he has, it's always 3 without hesitation. Alfie also calls him daddy.

When I announced to my family that we are having a baby together, everyone's reaction was, 'You're stupid', 'the same thing is going to happen again' etc etc. I stuck up for us, saying how strong we are and how I know he is going to be there for us (unlike the last wan**r)

But now we are going through a really tough patch. I walked out on him yesterday and have been ignoring his calls and texts. Im staying at a friends and he has no idea where I am. I told him I no longer wanted to be with him and I would call him once the baby was born.

Im not sure how I REALLY feel at the moment. My hormones are absolutely everywhere!!! I don't want to be in a relationship because I don't feel happy with him like I used to. I feel constantly down, I hate my life, I am always flipping out at him over the smallest things!!!

But I feel like if I do split up with him, everyone is going to say 'I told you so'.. I want to be with him just to prove everyone wrong!!!

Im not sure if this is a hormonal phase.. And deep down I do really love him still... or if the only reason I want to be with his is to prove everyone wrong!!! Anyone else feel this???

 

[davidjoemum]

Hi is he done something bad to you to have reason to treat him like that?if no and it's just the hormones you really should think if you want to split up this relationship and as you said he is good to you and Alfie.i know hormones are evil sometimes lol but you have his baby inside you and he is male role model for Alfie which I think love him to bits.if there is no reason for split and your hormones tells you there is one maybe its worth to talk to your midwife!i hope all work out for you and congratulations on your pregnancy!

 

[gracexxx]

You haven't said what he's done wrong, Im assuming it must be something quite bad for you to say that youre not going to contact him once the baby's born. I understand that you're very hormonal ATM and hormones can be evil, making you sometimes completely not yourself but please don't just completely ignore him! He obviously wants to be part of yours and your baby's life, you've explained that he's a good dad and treats your son like his own, and he sounds like a good honest guy.ci know how it feels to be ignored in a situation
Ike this as my FOB decided to cut me out when I was 7 months pregnant. I tried to call and text him over and over but he just ignored them All, it was the worst feeling ever! And I got really depressed and could not stop crying! Your FOB may also be beside himself with worry! Sit down with him and tell him exactly how you feel, he deserves an explanation and I don't think it's fair on him to just run away. I understand you're worried scared etc, but a good talk and getting things out in the open can help soo much.
And just to let you know don't worry about what people are gonna say follow your heart do what makes you happy.
Good luck

 

[Danie1stbaby]

congrats on your bundle of love Is he trying to contact you after you left? How is he handling your outburst? Main question : If you were not pregnant by him,would you be with him still...you think?

I think your main issue is definitely hormones...but also FEAR.Fear of what you think is failing at this relationship.You are preparing yourself to take care of 2 babies single with niether of their fathers.What you don't know is that relationships go through cycles and it's a rollercoaster ride.No one loves their spouse every single day.No relationship is peaches and cream.Real relationships take work and the worst thing you can do with a person that you love and that loves you,is take a break without communication.If that man is a honestly good man,then fight for it.You are afraid of being hurt so you have built the same wall that most of us broken hearted women have done.Plus being pregnant,yes you are all in your feelings right now.My child's father abandoned us while I was pregnant and was in and out until he decided to walk away again and I cut him off for good.If you have a man that is doing right by you,try to work things out.If he has done something unforgiveable,then let it go..no need to torture one another in misery.

Before you make that decision,you have some real questions to ask yourself.