Do I Tell My Children??

[WackyMumof2]

I've just told hubby that while I am happy to find out the sex of this baby, it's something I want to keep to ourselves because I don't want to tell DS1 and DS2. And MIL has a big mouth so she'll get excited and let the cat out of the bag with DS1. Because I know DS1 has always wanted a little sister, my biggest concern is if he finds out he's got a 3rd brother he won't get over it as well as he did last time. He was a crying mess last time but I'd joked with the boys years earlier and told them if I ever had another boy I was moving out because DS1 and DS2 drive me up the walls. He remembered that so burst into tears begging me not to leave with DS3... And my 7 year old niece has threatened to disown me if it's another boy because she's 'sick of being surrounded by boys'. Lol. Hubby I can face if baby isn't a girl, my niece scares me. No pressure Roxy. No pressure at all.

Other than the fact I would like to keep it a surprise from the boys (I have already arranged with a friend to keep all baby's stuff at hers regardless of sex) I'd rather them meet baby for the first time and bond rather than getting upset about they did/did not get. Has anyone else done this and how did it go?

 

[Foreign Chick]

HI WackyMumof2

This is indeed a tough decision. I can very much relate, my dd1 has also been wanting a brother when I found out baby #3 was yet another girl, dd1 also started to cry. I have already been disappointed without seeing her tears, so that just made it so much worse. But from the day she was born their bond is one of a kind. Shortly after her birth dd1 has told me how happy she is that baby was indeed a girl.

Personally I find it better to deal with potential disappointment prior to birth. I would kill me to see anyone getting upset when looking at my miracle for the first time. But that's just me.

If I get fortunate enough to be blessed with another miracle, and it ends up being yet a girl again ( most likely) I will find a way to gently brake the new as soon as I digest them myself.

Best of luck to you, may you make the right decision that best suits your family.

Congrats on your pregnancy, sending tons of my pink dust your way xx

 

[Talia12]

I agree with Foreign Chick. I do understand the idea of not wanting them to know because once they see the baby they'll love it either way, but realistically there would probably still be a jolt of disappointment even if baby had already been born, and that'd be really sad and could spoil a special moment. That disappointment will never last long so in my opinion it's better to get it out of the way while you're pregnant. But obviously I don't know your sons and if you think it would be best not to tell them then you know best you're their mum! But if your DS is old enough to be aware that you KNOW the sex of the baby, he might think your silence means it's a surprise and it's a girl. When my mum was pregnant with me, my older sister was desperate for a sister and even though my mum knew she was having a girl, she never told her because she wanted it to be an amazing surprise when I was born. But she said if I'd been a boy, she'd have told my sister to prepare her for that beforehand so there was no disappointment on the day I was born.