Do many women have just one m/c ...

[colsy]

... and then go on to have completely normal pgs and babies?

I am terrified of getting a BFP and then having a second m/c. Like, really really scared. I realise it's quite normal to feel like this, and that I'm not being some kind of psycho woman, but I think a bit of moral support would help me overcome it.

So, after one m/c, do most women then get pg and have a totally normal pg the next time?

Thanks to anybody who can put my mind at rest a little!

 

[honey08]

hiya hun, sry for ur loss i mmc my first pregnancy in march last yr, and i was the same, but when i got a again in nov08 i was terrified even more so, mmc/mc are awfully common and plenty go on to have "normal"pregnancys,but if its a chrom's defect it cud happen a lot,till u av tests etc x
im now 18wk and still as scared,but i have to get on with it cos its something i want more than ever ,,,,,,,,i wish u all the best in the future hun and healthy pregnancys, when i mmc the mw said "try not let this mmc worry u" xxxx

 

[charliesmom]

I've had 1 mmc, and then a m/c straight after. No children yet. I probably make you feel worst than better, but.... m/cs are very very common.

Happy news is my sister in law has had 1 m/c, then had a successful pregnancy (beautiful boy), and is now 17 weeks pregnant with her second.

 

[Pyrrhic]

I had one mmc (found out the baby had gone at my 12 week scan). I went on to have a happy healthy pregnancy the next time. It's a shame we don't know more about why this happens, as it would potentially help us feel a bit more secure.

hun. I hope you go on to have a happy, healthy pregnancy.

 

[Kota]

I can't answer for the success stories, but just wanted to say that I feel exactly the same way, I'm soooo wanting to see that BFP again, but at the same time, sooooo scared to as I don't think I could cope with the emotional rollercoaster from MC again.

 

[Las78]

Hun sorry for your loss, sending you big hugs.

I had 2 normal pregnancies and births and then m/c at 17+5, I'm told if I try again there is no reason why I should have any problems which is reassuring but yes I will be terrified if I get a BFP, I think once you've had a m/c you are more aware that sadly life doesn't always go as planned.

My friend on the other hand had 5 m/c and now has a beautiful little girl.

Best of luck with ttc hun, fingers crossed for you that all goes well x

 

[susan_1981]

I know loads of people who have had just one miscarriage. My mum had 4 kids and then miscarried the 5th (although she didn't even realise she was pregnant so it was a very early miscarriage - think she was probably about 5-6 weeks), my MIL miscarried her second child but had 3 children - the last of which was my husband, a girl at work had a miscarriage with her first pregnancy and then went on to have 2 children and another girl at my work also had miscarriage with first but now has 2 boys. My SIL had 2 kids, miscarriage and then another child. My boss's wife had 4 miscarriages but 3 children. Another friend from work had 1 miscarriage and now has a daughter and my friend's SIL had one baby, miscarriage and then another baby. So I think lots and lots of people have 1 miscarriage and then go on to have perfectly healthy babies in the future. I'm hoping to be one of them x

 

[honey08]

yeh the mw told me, if its just one of those things, plenty av normal pregnancies ........ still very scary tho

 

[susan_1981]

Just wanted to add, the 2 girl I worked with who had 1 miscarriage and then 2 children both got pregnant again pretty quickly after their miscarriage. I can't remember exactly how long it was as back then, I wasn't paying any attention to pregnancies as I had no intentions of any time soon trying myself but what I remember is them telling me they had a miscarriage and then hearing they were 3 months pregnant in no time at all.

 

[Smiler]

I had a mmc in April last year, it took me about 5/6 months to get a BFP but am now 28 weeks. I was absolutely terrified of trying again let alone actually getting a BFP. I dont think that worry ever leaves you as I still worry continually that something is going to go wrong. I was lucky that I was given an early scan and then scanned again at the time that my previous baby would have died, and also had 12 and 20 week scans as normal. Hopefully when you get your BFP your hospital will look after you as well, and there is no harm in asking for reassurance scans. Good luck

 

[cybermum]

Sorry for your loss hun.
I had a M/C after having my first son,six months later I had an eptopic and thought I would never give my son a brother or sister.

It was a very very bad time for me.
However eight months after the eptopic I fell pregnant,was so so scared until about week 20 when I let myself relax a bit.

My DR told me that many women have a M/C then go on to have normal pregnancies.

 

[Orange lady]

It's such a worry isn't it?
Well, after my mmc in December I have gathered pretty much all the info I can muster.
My MIL had one m/c before each of her children. My aunt m/c twins before going on to have 4 healthy pregnancies. My neighbour had 5 yes 5 m/d before going on to have 2 successful pregnancies and lastly my friend had 2 miscarriages and now is about to give birth anyday!
There's hope for us all. I take comfort in knowing that we were actually able to make a baby in the first place. Just gotta try again and keep everything crossed for a sticky bean
xxx

 

[toby2]

it seems to work out in lots of different ways,depending on indivual circumstances but i know lots of people who have had one m/c and then gone on to have healthy pregnancies, my sister,my nan and a close work firend to name but a few-some people take a little longer and some have more losses but most of us get there eventually, i know its not the same at all but i think lots of pregnant ladies worry the whole time wether they have had a m/c or not-hope you get you bfp with a sticky bean soon

 

[chanel]

I think there are probably a lot women out there who now have children but have had previous m/cs. Thing is that because most women don't chose to tell the world until the 12wk scan then we never hear about the times that things go wrong.

I'm sure next time we will have sticky beans, good luck to you x

 

[Rumpskin]

You dont realise how common miscarriages are until you have had one yourself.

My great grandmother had a series of miscarriages but had 3 children, my mum had one after she had me, then went on to have my sister, my sister had one and went on to have 2 more children.

I have had 2 and waiting for my prayers to be answered.

Good luck sweety and dont let your miscarriage put you off fore filling your dream xxx

 

[susan_1981]

I think there are probably a lot women out there who now have children but have had previous m/cs. Thing is that because most women don't chose to tell the world until the 12wk scan then we never hear about the times that things go wrong.

I'm sure next time we will have sticky beans, good luck to you x

So true. When people found out about my miscarriage, I had few people I know tell me about previous miscarriages which I'd never known about. I think when people have 1 early miscarriage, a lot of them don't tell anyone so you don't hear about it, until you suffer one yourself and then they confide in you. Good luck x

 

[bklove]

I think there is a thread on here about happy stories after m/c, and there were good posts on there. I'm still in the multiple m/c boat, so yes it can happen again, but from what I understand its a small percentage of women who have repeat m/c. At this point i'm still excited about the prospects of TTC and the baby holding on. I was nervous for the last loss, but I realized my own fears hindered my progress (I waited to long to tell my gyn and could've had more blood work done to see what was going on) and now i'm just ready for this thing to happen and i'm hoping this month will be it...if not, there is next month Be good to yourself and try not to be discouraged, that baby CAN happen.

 

[mrstapster]

wow!!! I love this site!! I feel sooo much better now. Positive mental attitude ... here I Come xxx

 

[Kiddo]

I had a mc in December 2007. We decided to wait a while before ttc again as I had the same fears and I wasn't ready to put myself in the position where it might happen again. However, after a while the desire to ttc came back and I fell pg on our third cycle of trying. I'm now 16 weeks and everything seems fine.

Just make sure you give yourself enough time to come to terms with the mc before you jump straight back in to ttc. There is no right amount of time for that though - some women are ready pretty much straight away, others take a while.

Good luck to you!

 

[LeaArr]

I just want to say first off, I am sorry for your loss. This is my first pregnancy and loss, so I can't speak for myself, but my mother had one m/c before me, and one after. I am her only living child. It's totally random. Try not to worry too much about it. I know, I REALLY know, easier said than done.