Do men just not get excited or show emotion until they see bfp??! or is it just mine?

[josephine3]

Ok so yes its a bit of a rant sorry. but are all men like this???
I held off telling my oh about my feelings and symptoms for the month as he always dismisses them.
However earlier i was doing some stretches (which i now regret) and after where i had previously felt a dull, heavy pain in my abdomen, i felt like i was about to come on.. i freaked out, got upset and explained the situation as i couldnt keep it in any longer. He dismissed it again and said 'just dont worry about it either way its fine. you take everything too seriously' He didnt acknowledge the pain or emotion i was feeling at all.

He better buck his ideas up when i get that bfp!!
Are men generally useless until its truly real??

 

[trulybl3ssed]

I know my DH shows he's concerned. Like if I move furniture around in the 2ww he freaks out. He starts yelling at me lol. But not all guys are like that. Some don't think of what could happen. Some don't worry about it.

 

[Emma11511]

mine gets really worried/excited/generally emotive

 

[josephine3]

Well he's not a very emotional person it takes a lot to get anything out of him really. I just hoped that something this serious he would take seriously. I mean, I know he will be a good dad I'm just starting to worry he wont be sensitive to my needs during the pregnancy...

 

[TexasRider]

Well so far mine has been crushed when AF comes. Last time she came I tried to not make a huge deal out of it but he took it so hard. Then I started to cry and then it just seemed to make it worse. Its like he gets to be upset but I cant cry and be upset.. lol

 

[readyformore]

Mine is not at all affected.
He is very relaxed anyway and he tends to think I'm making a mountain out of a mole-hill.

Does he get excited when he sees a bfp? Not really. He's never been the 'belly rubbing, talk to the belly' type of spouse either.

Honestly, it doesn't really sink in for him until he's holding the baby. I was upset about that at first, but now that I've had a chance to see him parent and love on his kids, I know it all works out in the end.

And it's probably better that way. Can you imagine having two parents that make a big deal out of everything? We balance each other out.

It will be fine.

 

[Aliciatm]

lol mine hasnt been excited at all. he says he will be excited when it happens but until then he aint got nothing to be excited about (thats exactly his words) so yeah lol.

 

[josephine3]

I do hope it sinks in during pregnancy though...would be nice I might like my belly rubbed!!

 

[ceejie]

My DH doesn't really get too excited by it all. But he does get upset if I am all negative about it, or say it's not going to happen.

When I got my BFP last time he was really excited for a couple days, then he got awfully quiet about it. On occasion he would get excited, but then not really talk about it. I finally got mad at him one day and asked him what the deal was. He explained that he was nervous that something would happen and he didn't want to get too excited til he knew everything was okay. But, when I lost the baby, he was crushed.

I think it's kind of different for guys. We can feel all these changes in our body every month, which lets us prepare gradually, but for them there is nothing really. I think a lot of men need things to be "real" in order to react to it.

 

[readyformore]

I do hope it sinks in during pregnancy though...would be nice I might like my belly rubbed!!

And if it doesn't, don't panic. He'll still love the baby!

My DH has never been the touchy feely type at all, so I'm not sure why I was expecting him to be in 'awe' of my pregnant belly. I was a little disappointed and worried about how he would feel about the baby when he was born. I wish someone would have told me not to fret as much. He's a good person, loves me and provides for me. I just expected him to turn into a ball of mush when I got a bfp. But, I love him for his quiet strength and his level-headedness. He's like that all the time, regardless of pregnancy status, lol.

 

[josephine3]

It sounds like my boyfriend to a T! maybe they are long lost relations lol xx

 

[mOmOf3BoYsS]

Mine never behaves affected at all until whatever it is smacks him in the face (i.e. baby literally pops out)!

 

[josephine3]

thans girls once again bnb has made me feel less alone!!