Do you co-sleep?

[isil]

I never co slept in the beginning but Alasdair has trouble settling after 5am so for probably half of his life, he's come in with me at 5am. Lately, he's been waking a hell of a lot in the night (at least every hr after midnight) so anywhere between 12pm and 5am, I bring him in with me. He just sleeps so much better and at the moment I'm not strong enough and don't have enough energy to tackle it.

 

[Alexas Mommy]

Sorry... I dont co-sleep. Jasmine has been in her crib since she was 1 week old. I dont think it is very safe for 1 and on top of that I believe in setting a good routine from the beginning. She is perfectly comfortable and happy in her bed, its her space and she has always been in there, she goes to bed at 7pm now and doesn't wake until 7am or so.

Babies spend such a short time waking through the night, She slept through before she was 2 months... so 2 months of waking in the night was hard, but I made it through.

Everyone is free to do as they wish though.

While I do agree with you about the routine (after struggling with setting one forever) I don't think co-sleeping is dangerous if the mother is aware of her child, and provides a safe area for the baby to sleep. I co-sleep, actually the nurse at the hospital showed me how to do it, and while a lot of doctor's and nurses do frown on it, I am sure it is more out of concern. I wouldn't co-sleep if I thought it was dangerous-though I can honestly say, that it does disrupt the schedule a baby should be on. While it is the easy thing to do in say the first 3-4 months, it becomes more challenging for the mother after that. Alexa can finally sleep on her own, in a bed-not a crib, because she hates cribs-but it took quite a while to teach her to fall asleep without me, and stay asleep... just my personal experience though.

 

[Nic-Flowers]

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[emma_27]

I co slept for the from about 3 weeks she was poorly with brochiolitis so i kicked my OH in to the spare bed and i made her a bed on my bed and she stayed there until she was about 3 months old and i put her back in the moses basket. She now gets in with me at about 6am if not some mornings later for a cuddle and a feed. They are only babies once before you know it they wont want to cuddle so im making the most of her being a baby. Benn still gets in with us in the morning for an hour whilst we all wake up.

 

[AC81]

I never thought I would, but when Erin had a cold when she was only a few weeks old, and not really knowing what to do, I brought her into bed with me. I have managed to get her back into her own cot though where she sleeps really well now, but she also has a good bedtime routine that we stick to. I will sometimes bring her into bed in the morning for a cuddle though.

 

[Chellebelle]

Simeon did sleep in our bed for the first couple of weeks, he would not go in his basket and I was getting no sleep at all trying all night to get him settled in his basket for the first few days.

I have gradually got him to go in his basket... but he has to have something underneith him so he is raised a little and can see me. He still comes into our bed when he wakes for his 5am feed... simply because I am still weaning him off sleeping in our bed through the whole night and if I try to put him down at 5am after his feed (which I do try very often) he cries alot and just wakes himself up even more. If he sleeps until daddy goes to work, he comes into bed with me and has a cuddle and I get a couple of extra hours

 

[caggimedicine]

I've voted "no", although during the first week when Harry was sleeping in his basinette in our room, I would feed him in our bed and I did once fall asleep. Well.... more just drifted off - not properly slept. I woke up about 5 minutes later and put him back in his basinette. I think they say that you shouldn't co-sleep if you are really tired, and during those first couple of weeks I was REALLY tired.

 

[nikky0907]

I've done it sometimes when I'd be too tired and she wouldn't fall back to sleep.

In fact up until 4 months she would always wake up once a night and then I'd bring her into bed with me, when she'd fall asleep I'd put her back (most times ).

Then at 4 months I moved her into her own room and the transition was really hard so I'd end up co-sleeping most nights but in about 3 weeks she got used to her own room and started sleeping through on her own.

 

[xXDonnaXx]

I don't co sleep all night. She has her feed about 4am, then goes back in her cot. Then when she wakes up about 8am I feed her again, (always feed her in my bed, so were both lied down) and I leave her in with me until we get up at 10 or 11am haha, she loves her sleep like her mummy.

 

[xelatib]

We did with my son, and while he is perfectly fine, I never slept well while he was in the bed. I was always half asleep on "alert". Therefore I was sure I would roll over on him b/c I was always aware of him. I don't think it is harmful for the child as long as you are not intoxicated, or so tired you would roll over it, however I would recommend getting the baby into her own bed sooner rather than later. My son is 2 1/2 and we just got him in his own bed. He's waking 2-3 times a night looking for me. I am STILL not getting any sleep!! Also, you might notice that we only just had enough privacy to consider baby #2. Whatever you decide, it's your choice. Don't let any one pressure you. Just keep in mind that you child will get used to this and prefer it and you may or may not enjoy co-sleeping in a year or 2.
Good luck

 

[clairebear]

i don't co sleep all night but if jack is hard to settle after 4 go the morning he naps in our bed but not every night x x

 

[brownhairedmom]

I cosleep in the day for naps & if its really cold in my room I take her to bed with me

 

[babe2ooo]

yeah i used to for the 1st few months

 

[freckleonear]

We didn't cosleep, we had Aaron in a carrycot right next to our bed. He didn't sleep through until he was 11 months old though, and I was really tempted to do it just to get some sleep! Now I'm glad I didn't as he sleeps so well in his own cot.

It's something we'll seriously consider doing next time for the first few months, as it makes breastfeeding during the night so much easier. I think it's safe if you follow all the guidelines. I really wanted a bedside cot for Aaron but we didn't get one in the end, I suppose that's the perfect answer for someone worried about safety.

 

[CamoQueen]

I do. It has helped me get a lot more sleep, because David hated his crib. I'm trying to get him back in his crib this month, though, now that he's 4 months...

 

[PitBullMommy]

The first two weeks of Char's life she slept on DH's chest in the recliner, but that's cause I was so sick and then I was back in the hospital with my seizures. After that she went into her crib, but then moved to our room in a bassinet...then back to her own crib. DH has sleep apnea and used to kick and punch in his sleep, so that wouldn't have been very safe, we also have 4 cats that sleep in bed with us so...that wouldn't have been great either.

 

[Wobbles]

The thought scares me - OH has co-slept with her though I hate it Im a nervous wrck!

x

 

[doumauk]

I co sleep and have from day one. Salim has his own covers tucked under him and the mattress and I have my own single duvet in our double bed. I wouldnt do it if i didnt think it was safe enough. I dont drink and I am a very light sleeper so I am aware of him. He has slept through pretty much since he was born and most nights now he sleeps from 8.30pm until 6.30am.

 

[mamalove]

We don't co-sleep except when she's ill,not because we don't want to but because we just can't! She kicks us and sleeps in a milion of positions so we just end up moving her to her bed

 

[BlackBerry25]

We co-slept the first while, because it was just easier and she slept better. Now she goes in her crib and then around 3:00 am she wakes up and OH pops her in the bed between us and we all sleep until morning. I get the worst sleep ever though, because Helena hogs the whole bed and I usually have to hang off the edge because I am paranoid of my pillow smothering her.

Works for us, I have no problem with it. It is the same thing as not falling out of the bed, you know your boundaries....somehow.