Do you ever look at how many times someone has been thanked

[geordie_gal]

Not really, this did make me laugh though xx

 

[sojourn]

I have loads of thanks but I'm kind of an asshole, so the system doesn't always work, haha.

I'm with you! I feel like I have quite a few, but usually I get "thanked" when I say something that is kind of unpopular, or share some good ol' peer reviewed research when people are being critical of other people's choices.

 

[Larkspur]

I have loads of thanks but I'm kind of an asshole, so the system doesn't always work, haha.

I'm with you! I feel like I have quite a few, but usually I get "thanked" when I say something that is kind of unpopular, or share some good ol' peer reviewed research when people are being critical of other people's choices.

It's a tough job being the person who says what everyone else is quietly thinking, or who drags logic and reason into a hormonal discussion, but someone's gotta do it.

 

[WantingABubba]

It's not necessarily the nice people who get lots of thanks.

But I do look at it, yeah. Not discern anything about their niceness though.

 

[Celesse]

I've been "Thanked 3,377 times in 2,482 posts".

I like to look at the difference between how many times thanked in how many posts. If someone is pretty even then its probably cos they are a nice person.

If someone (like me) has a bit of a discrepancy its probably from getting too involved early on in big debate posts and saying controversial things which get a lot of support, for example: "All formula feeders are lazy"... "People who do CC should be put in jail for child abuse"..."if you get you kids ears pierced your a chav"..... that kind of thing but worded a bit more intelligently and a bit toned down. Or alternatively its from making cheap jokes about willies in circumcision threads.

ETA: I combi fed, did CC and haven't pierced my children's ears.... just examples not my actual views.

 

[Eternal]

I've been "Thanked 3,377 times in 2,482 posts".

I like to look at the difference between how many times thanked in how many posts. If someone is pretty even then its probably cos they are a nice person.

If someone (like me) has a bit of a discrepancy its probably from getting too involved early on in big debate posts and saying controversial things which get a lot of support, for example: "All formula feeders are lazy"... "People who do CC should be put in jail for child abuse"..."if you get you kids ears pierced your a chav"..... that kind of thing but worded a bit more intelligently and a bit toned down. Or alternatively its from making cheap jokes about willies in circumcision threads.

ETA: I combi fed, did CC and haven't pierced my children's ears.... just examples not my actual views.

Flip, saw you with those statements and thought, this thread is about to take a dramatic turn off course

 

[Larkspur]

If someone (like me) has a bit of a discrepancy its probably from getting too involved early on in big debate posts and saying controversial things which get a lot of support, for example: "All formula feeders are lazy"... "People who do CC should be put in jail for child abuse"..."if you get you kids ears pierced your a chav"..... that kind of thing but worded a bit more intelligently and a bit toned down. Or alternatively its from making cheap jokes about willies in circumcision threads.

Oh dear, I think I might have the biggest discrepancy on the forum but I would like to think it's not because I've ever said anything as jerky as that! I generally try to encourage more reasonableness, not less! (And not even any willy jokes, haha.)

 

[Celesse]

I should possibly have emphasised the worded more intelligently bit more!

If you did put: "All formula feeders are lazy" you'd probably get flamed. But I've seen a lot of thanks for people saying things worded like..."I don't understand why anyone would choose to formula feed when its so much more work than breastfeeding" and get a fair few likes for it.

Again....an example, not my view.

 

[Eternal]

Well my thanks are only slightly higher than my number of posts tanked in, what's that mean? Lol. I don't say anything like that!

I do like debate, but i don't know if it counts in the debate section as they are not added to our general post count, I do tend to get involved in lots of vaccination debates though, lol, but stay away from bf vs ff ... Mostly.

 

[Larkspur]

I should possibly have emphasised the worded more intelligently bit more!

If you did put: "All formula feeders are lazy" you'd probably get flamed. But I've seen a lot of thanks for people saying things worded like..."I don't understand why anyone would choose to formula feed when its so much more work than breastfeeding" and get a fair few likes for it.

Again....an example, not my view.

Haha, technically you'd be calling breastfeeders lazy in that example. But I see what you're saying. I think that by their nature forums attract different opinions and part of what makes them interesting is learning how to communicate a perspective honestly but in a way that doesn't label or judge someone holding a different perspective.

 

[sun]

Now I'm curious! Just posting to see what my thanks are at now If anything, this post will make me notice it a bit more.

 

[Leids]

I used to watch how many 'thanks' I had all of the time, now I don't care as much. I don't necessarily think it means that someone is nice per se, I tend to see the more controversial posters with a higher amount of thanks. As Larkspur said, those who have the balls to say something the rest of us don't want to that may stir the pot tend to get a lot of good and bad attention.

I generally use it as like myself, and I also thank everyone who posts in my threads (unless they're being jerks).