Do you get nervous when your FOB takes your LO?

[amygwen]

Hi Ladies!

I'm not a single parent, so I shouldn't really be posting here, but I figured you of all people could relate to what I'm going through right now. My FOB/OH and I are having a bit of a rough time right now and although we're both technically still together, we're not if that makes sense. Anyways, he still sees his son everyday, which is fine with me because it's only his right as his parent. But, tonight he's taking him away from me for a couple hours to visit his parents. I could go, but I think it'd be best to start getting used to the idea that he will be taking him away from me 1 x a week or so to visit his family. I'm absolutely petrified and I don't know why. I mean, I'm afraid like what if they get in a car accident on the way over? Or what if he goes psycho and like steals him or something.

I probably sound SO overdramatic right now, but I'm just really sad and scared he's not going to be with me for a couple of hours. He's been alone with him before but he was at my house and even then I was scared to leave him in case he fell asleep with the LO and suffocated him or something.

Do you guys worry like this? Or am I going crazy? I feel really bad because it's his dad and I really want him to be around for him as much as possible, but I'm so scared of it!

 

[Serene123]

I live with my OH and I feel like that (plus mines 2 now and I still feel like that) It's a mama thing x

 

[Laura2919]

Well to be fair your baby isnt even 2 months old yet. I think anyone in that position would feel like that.
If you trust your FOB/OH then I dont see why it wouldnt be ok but if you really dont want him to take your baby away even for an hr then your well within your right to say no.

I wouldnt want my OH taking the girls anywhere on his own when they were 2 months old so I think its normal hun..

Do what you think is best, for you, Not OH/FOB!

 

[Aidedhoney]

My ex has never had Alex on his own not even when we were together xx

 

[ProzacQueen]

omg yes i totally do. but then i always have done when ive left her with anyone. its much much worst though when her dad takes her and its been like that since we split 6 months ago. i have really obscure worries too (which dont seem obscure at the time) like, what if his flat accidently burns down, or he crashes his car on the way home, or if he gets the train, what if there is a terrible train crash.

even today at work while she was at nursery, i was watching the news about that giant star and i suddenly had the thought...what if the world ends and im not with her to hold her hand??

god sorry i totally hijacked your thread. im sure it is a mama thing but sometimes i think my mind goes too far just to upset me

 

[amygwen]

omg yes i totally do. but then i always have done when ive left her with anyone. its much much worst though when her dad takes her and its been like that since we split 6 months ago. i have really obscure worries too (which dont seem obscure at the time) like, what if his flat accidently burns down, or he crashes his car on the way home, or if he gets the train, what if there is a terrible train crash.

even today at work while she was at nursery, i was watching the news about that giant star and i suddenly had the thought...what if the world ends and im not with her to hold her hand??

god sorry i totally hijacked your thread. im sure it is a mama thing but sometimes i think my mind goes too far just to upset me

Awww that's a horrible thought I never thought about that before!! Now that's going to worry me!! haha, I'm glad I'm not alone though and it's a mama thing hahha. He came to pick him up and I just cried the entire time I was like "please drive carefully" and "i don't want him home later then 9pm!!" haha! i feel like such a mom!

 

[Laura2919]

omg yes i totally do. but then i always have done when ive left her with anyone. its much much worst though when her dad takes her and its been like that since we split 6 months ago. i have really obscure worries too (which dont seem obscure at the time) like, what if his flat accidently burns down, or he crashes his car on the way home, or if he gets the train, what if there is a terrible train crash.

even today at work while she was at nursery, i was watching the news about that giant star and i suddenly had the thought...what if the world ends and im not with her to hold her hand??

god sorry i totally hijacked your thread. im sure it is a mama thing but sometimes i think my mind goes too far just to upset me

Awww that's a horrible thought I never thought about that before!! Now that's going to worry me!! haha, I'm glad I'm not alone though and it's a mama thing hahha. He came to pick him up and I just cried the entire time I was like "please drive carefully" and "i don't want him home later then 9pm!!" haha! i feel like such a mom!

The worrying never ever ends.. I dont think a day has gone by without me worrying about the twins..

 

[lily123]

I know how you feel hun Esmee's been away at her dads all day and i've just been watching the clock constantly! I think it's a mama thing lol, the worry will go away when.... oh wait, no it won't

So sorry you guys are going through a rough patch hun
xxx

 

[xJG30]

My ex hasn't had Tom on his own yet..

I'd trust my partner to have him but I still wouldn't stop worrying.

 

[bloodbinds]

When Bella was that age i didn't want to be away from her AT ALL, no matter who was taking her away!! I worried all the time about the wildest of things happening, i think that's normal, not just because it's your OH.

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

im the same Amy, allthough FOB doesn't see my daughter. I constantly worry when someone watches her for me whilst I nip out round the corner to the shop! I worry that no one will tuck her blanket in and it will end up over her face, I worry that if she cries they will shake her to make her be quiet It's all a part of being a mum though hun, We have every right to think these things Its natural instincts and all a part of motherhood. I think i'll be like it till she is 18. xxxx