Do You Let Your Baby Cry?

[taperjeangirl]

The age old question I suppose, I just can't let Daisy cry for even 2 minutes, I have to go to her, even if it is just the whinging thing that she seems to do all the time!

OH hates that I take her off him if she is crying but I just can't stand her being upset when I know I can stop it by cuddling her.

Am I doing the wrong thing here?? Maybe I should try the "tough love" approach and she will become more content to sit for longer than 20 minutes at a time?

I just don't know If I could though........

What do you do? Are you doing the controlled crying sleep thing? How do you deal with them crying?

 

[jen1604]

If shes properly crying then yep,I'll go to her immediatly.But if she's just whingeing at me then sometimes I'll just let her whinge for a couple of minutes
We've ended up doing cry it out at bedtimes.Not in the way that we put her in her room and ignore her but that we'll put her down and let her cry and go back every 5 minutes increasing to every 10 minutes etc. Its not for everyone but its worked really well for us and after a week of cry it out my little miss slept through in her own cot last night for the first time in about 4 months.
I wouldnt take Ophelia off my OH if she was crying because I think that sometimes babies need to get used to their daddy as the bond isnt as natural if that makes sense..If you keep taking her she wont get used to him.I think if you let your OH hold her and comfort her if she cries she'll eventually see your OH as just as much of a 'safe person' as she sees you,if that makes sense?
xxxxx

 

[1st_baby]

the longest i let my son cry was 10 min.. even now but only if i know hes fed, changed and not hurt

 

[alice&bump]

i let katie CIO when she goes tobed, but i cant stand it otherwise. OH goes mad cos when i put her down for a nap in the day i cant leave her to cry and i go get her. its just a mummy thing i think

 

[princess_bump]

i normally just go regardless honey! have never let maddi cio! i do leave her happily playing etc, but she's not a baby that cries much and i personally can't leave her x

 

[xHx]

I can actually tell if Liv will stop without me picking her up now! If she really goes for it I know there is no point attempting to leave her - and tbh if I pick her up she will 99% of the time stop immediately. I do worry that she knows she has got me wrapped around her litle finger but hey! x

 

[Serene123]

Even a moan and she gets a cuddle

 

[pinkmac85]

Oh I'm the same way! The minute LeeAnne makes a peep I'm up and checking on her and having to hold her. It's so hard to do the tough love thing, at least for me it is!

 

[nikky0907]

Lola rarely cries so when she does I really rush to her.

I mean, sometimes I wonder if thats good because maybe if I was able to let her cry she would actually be napping.

 

[ryder]

Jasmine is a very happy baby.. so if she cries at all its because she needs food or a nap... Other then that she doesn't really cry.

 

[BlackBerry25]

I can't let Helena even whine I am horrible. But I agree with Ryder, Helena rarely would cry unless something was wrong.

 

[Pyrrhic]

No, not really. The only time I will let her cry is if she is overtired and moaning rather than crying as she tries to get off to sleep. Other than that, she only cries if she needs something so I'd never let her cry.

 

[Smexi.Mommie]

i let kaidayn cry till he starts reallycrying and not whimpering its good to let them self soothe so i let him whimper and suck on his hands and sometimes he puts him self to sleep and others he just want mommy.

 

[Mervs Mum]

No I dont let her cry. My MIL once said 'it's no wonder she's so happy, you never let her cry......' erm....yeah!

 

[missjacey44]

When i know its a cry because he is hungry ect. Im there straight away doing what he wants. If its an attention cry i dont always go to him because i feel espeshically as a single parent looking after him on my own that he needs to learn he cant always have me there if you get what i mean? and usually within 2-5mins he has stopped the crying and hes happily back playing with whatever he was doing or dropped off to sleep. Sometimes im cooking, washing, doing household stuff and i cant always rush to him and he does need to learn that!

 

[babe2ooo]

if hes moaning i dont, if hes sleepy then yeah i let him cry, if hes crying for a reason i will cuddle, i think it helps to let them cry it out sometimes but u need to know when to do it. x

 

[lillysmum]

theres nothing wrong with either in my opinion (although some people will look at you like you are the most evil person in the world!) but as her parents you will know when she is just doing it to be held and if leaving her for a few minutes so long as she's safe etc is fine.

 

[vicwick]

No i can't let Alfie CIO it breaks my heart to hear him upset. If he's crying he always gets picked up as soon as i can.

 

[Tezzy]

with having two small kiddies i sometime have no choice but to leave ffion to cry whilst i sort rhys out (if hes on the toilet for example) ive started saying no when she whinges or screams in temper but thats only recently. if i put her down to bed and she starts whinging i ignore her in 10min sections, leaving her then going to her after 10min, turning her cot mobile back on and walking out again. weve been doing the bedtime thing since 9 weeks so ffion is really used to it and hardly ever cries.

only you will know if you really want to change things, if i only had one child and i had tonnes of time i would love to cuddle all day long!!!!

 

[jackiea85]

I tried CIO out once and it was awful, Joseph just got more and more upset and I ended up getting upset and he was so clingy afterwards. I'm sure it works great for some babies but I can't do it. So now I always go to him when he is crying, if he starts whinging I wait a min to see if he will calm down or start to cry, but as soon as the real crying starts i'm there! I'm definitely not strong enough to leave him crying! x