Do you still miss FOB after LO is born?

[Blue_star]

I miss FOB alot sometimes I wonder will I still miss him alot or more once LO is born? or will I just kinda forget about missing him because of LO? He left a month ago and I haven't heard from him. Just his parents keep in touch because they still want to be involved with LO.

 

[jemmie1994]

No dont miss him at all even now he's come back, did have a wavering moment when i though i missed him but tbh think i just miss being in a relationship Evie definitly makes it easier am too happy with her to let much bother me

 

[Lissa3120]

No I don't miss FOB, I miss the company, and the relationship (or the idea of a relationship... the principle of having someone there at night, and to cuddle etc.) but as a person with the personality, no I don't miss FOB.
I do get sad that it didn't work out though, and I wonder what if... but when push comes to shove, I'm happier being just me and my kids
I wouldn't say that I forgot about FOB once I had LO, it made things feel a bit raw again, but in a way that helped because then I felt sure in the decision that I am okay with out him.

hope it all works out for you
LO won't make you forget, but it will make all of the pain, emotional and physical, seem worth it and less intense. Just stay strong and focused.

xx

 

[Dezireey]

Sometimes I think I miss him terribly but then I realise that it's the companionship and having a man around that I miss. I missed him less (in a sense) when LO was born, as I look at my little ittle babies face and think 'how can anyone not love you?' and that makes me mad. FOB is not stupid, he knows what an innocent little baby looks like, he knows that his son looks like that right now and needs him. So no, in it's true sense, I miss him as much as I miss a boil on my arse.

 

[Lemonflower]

100% what Dezireey said.

I think I only miss him in the sense that at first I thought we'd be the perfect happy little family.
I've accepted we didn't workout and he didn't want me but how can he ignore his little baby he "planned". This makes me hate him and not miss him.

xxx

 

[Kate&Lucas]

Now and then, but not in a relationship way, more of missing the family we should be, iykwim?
It's two years exactly (to the hour!) since I left him, so any 'loving' feelings for him are long gone, but it was much harder at first. I rebounded about a month after I left and I remember lying in bed with him crying my eyes out because he wasn't FOB Now the thought of lying in bed with FOB makes me queasy
I don't know if it's any easier after LO is born but I do know I couldn't gather the strength to properly leave until he was here so I imagine it is.

 

[Laura2919]

It's not FOB that I miss it's the idea of having someone to rely on sometimes because being a parent isn't easy and sometimes you need someone which I don't have but tbh I am thankful it isn't FOB because it wasn't like the dude was helpful at all in fact there isn't anything I can say he did to help me when I had a hard day.
I'm not sure what I am after yet though. IMO I was in a long nearly 7 year relationship with FOB, I want to find myself and establish a good upbringing for the girls before I get into it.

 

[Dezireey]

It's not FOB that I miss it's the idea of having someone to rely on sometimes because being a parent isn't easy and sometimes you need someone which I don't have but tbh I am thankful it isn't FOB because it wasn't like the dude was helpful at all in fact there isn't anything I can say he did to help me when I had a hard day.
I'm not sure what I am after yet though. IMO I was in a long nearly 7 year relationship with FOB, I want to find myself and establish a good upbringing for the girls before I get into it.

i was thinking this yesterday. What the hell am I missing out on anyway? my FOB hardly if ever bought presents for anyone and always forgot my birthday, he would rather spend 20 hrs of his day on his lap top and he is definitely the type of guy who would not have helped out with the baby one bit, as he sees that as womens work. Yup, not missing much really am I?