Does anyone else absolutely hate being pregnant?

[wahwah]

I've never been more miserable in my life. I hate being pregnant more than anything. I want a child but I find pregnancy disgusting and uncomfortable and odd. Having HG is the worst thing I've ever experienced. I am so miserable and just don't know how to deal with it.

I will never have another child. I just wish this had never happened to me. Im sick of being hospitalized. I haven't been out of the house or been able to look after myself in 9 weeks.

I just don't know what to do.

 

[Munchkin30]

Is this your first? I absolutely hated first tri with my dd but by about 16 weeks I felt fab and loved the rest of it. I hate first tri this time too it sounds like you've had a really hard time of it, but I promise once you meet your little tot it will all have been worth it. Just try to be kind to yourself and know that this will end! X

 

[xxleannexx]

I also have hg and I am hating my life right now. I constantly feel so ill, I can't do anything, constantly wondering whether I will get admitted to hospital again today. It's affecting my daughter quite a lot.

I can really relate to how your feeling, this is the worse thing I have ever been through in my life. I just want to feel normal again, although I can't remember what that feels like.

I've lost loads of weight, my bmi is now classed as underweight, I look horrendous. All I do is lie in bed all day and cry pretty much.

The only thing that is keeping me going is my daughter and this baby that I will soon have.

 

[hshucksmith]

I can sort of relate. I have had an eating disorder since I was 9 years old and I very much HAVE to be in control. With pregnancy I can't be in control of much, especially weight. I am petrified of weight gain (I am in 2nd tri tomorrow and have gained 2lbs so far) but I am disgusted with myself. I think when I get a 'proper' bump I won't be as down about it, because I will be recognizably pregnant and not just fat. Right now I feel horrible, an absolute mess, gross, fat, tearful all the time over weight. I know my body is going to be disgusting after birth too, and I am so scared I will resent my baby because of it.

 

[LPF]

I hate it too most of the time.

With ds I was so sick until 16 weeks, I cried every day and felt disgusting. From 16-30 weeks I felt fab and loved my bump but from then to birth I hated the heartburn, the uncomfortable feeling, lack of sleep etc. Even post birth I hated the leaky boobs, the pain, the scars ad then you're left with the stretch marks

I vowed I would never do it again and it took a while to get my head round it but here I am and tbh although I'm not as sick, I still hate it and just wish the year away!

I've come to terms with that I'm not a pregnancy and little baby person. I loved it once ds could do a bit more and is brilliant with every growing month. I can't wait to have a 18month old and ds at 4.5yrs - that's when it's going to be SO much fun and I can wave bye bye to all that is pregnancy and newborn!!

 

[Nikkilewis14]

Ladies i, too, was sick through my entire pregnancy, i threw up eceryday,my face broke out constantly, i cried almost daily because i gained about 50lbs, i looked like a whale( and had aneating disorder before falling pregnant! Oh the heartburn , the pains, pregnancy isnt easy for everyone!

But i will have to say...
Id do it again in a heartbeat!
I dealt and still do deal with post partum depression but i wouldnt trade my little girl for the world and cant wait for my next ( we are waiting at least 2-3 years though!) ... Dont feel guilty because ur pregnancy isnt sunshine and rainbows , its ok

 

[Nikkilewis14]

Oh and will add the minute u give birth the heartburn stops, no more vomiting, i lost all my baby weight (and do not have an eating disorder anymore, well at least i dont think about doing it), my face cleared up.... Allthe bad of pregnancy is now a distant memory!

 

[girlnboots]

I would tell you it gets better, but I'm just now almost 6 months, and it still sucks about half the time.

The worst for me is the nausea-inducing heartburn and the constantly body aches. And the exhaustion.....and then she kicks me, and suddenly I don't mind so much.

 

[medic9114fun]

I'm 6 weeks and totally not happy being pregnant I have a bit of a control issue as well and not being able to control this sucks!

Guess I'm just not one of those sunshine and rainbows pregnant women

I already told hubby that this one is it. I do t want to do it again

 

[LorraineMM]

I had a really horrendous few weeks just go by and I'm feeling better now but regardless of that I just wanted to say that... Everyone here on this forum is here to support you and yourll come through on the other side of all this suffering with a precious amazing baby! Keep strong ladies we're all here to help you through the difficult times. I'm sorry to see so many ladies suffering so much, hugs to you all xxxxx

 

[lola85]

I hate it so far HG has ruined it!

 

[xxleannexx]

I hate it so far HG has ruined it!

Yeh it's the hg that has ruined mine too.

With my first I had horrendous sickness until 24weeks (not hg tho) and still loved/enjoyed my pregnancy but its the hg this time that is making me hate it, I can deal with all the other symptoms pregnancy throws at me just can't deal with hg.

 

[bookworm0901]

I'm so sorry ladies.

I know it won't be this way for everyone but I didn't like my first pregnancy til 2nd tri and then it was great! I loved feeling my baby move and kick.

 

[ttc2003]

Hi ladies,
As I am reading through these threads, I am not understanding all of the abbreviations. What is HG?

 

[candyem]

I hated first tri with my little boy. The constant nausea and lack of energy made me miserable. When I got to about 14 weeks, everything changed and I loved it! Even though LO was two weeks late I was positive ad would tell everyone who would listen how much I loved my bump. I even missed being pregnant for a few mi the after my LO was born.

This time, 7 weeks in, I remember exactly why I hate first tri! Yuk! This time I also have guilt for my little boy mixed in with all of the other symptoms and quite often feel sorry for myself. Can't wait for the next few weeks to be over, really want to feel like me!!

I am right there with you girls, it doesn't last forever and hopefully we will pull each other through the tough times

 

[lola85]

HG is hyperemesis Gravidarum basically a severe form of 'morning' sickness

 

[Beautiful11]

I have had so many up and down days the last week or so! my hormones have been everywhere and i get so angry and frustrated at myself :/ i constantly feel sick havent been sick as of yet but always wish i was being sick to maybe feel better...heartburn is awful my mood swings oh dear seriously i hate myself at the moment im just hoping it all settles down soon im so horrible to the people i love most and im always crying for no reason!

 

[wahwah]

All I can do is literally try and sleep the day away. I wake up through the night vomiting too. My doctor has advised not to go through pregnancy again, because I have severe depression and anxiety, i just can't handle the HG as well. Being stuck inside for 8 weeks, the isolation has just got to me. I thank god that I have you baby and bump ladies, as I feel that no one else understands how debilitating HG truly is! IVe lost over 16kgs and I can't even shower anymore, I'm too weak and faint when standing for too long.

I just pray for it to be over. Some websites claim that it eases by 14-16 weeks with most HG ending by 20. I pray I don't have it the whole way through, and if I do, I hope my baby comes as soon as it's safe for it to do so.

THANK you so much for your support. You are angels and I'd be lost without your kindness. Xx

 

[Nikkilewis14]

If ur faint u really should go to hospital for fluids... I would be there if it got to the point that i cant get out of bed hun..

 

[wannabenewmum]

I can sort of relate. I have had an eating disorder since I was 9 years old and I very much HAVE to be in control. With pregnancy I can't be in control of much, especially weight. I am petrified of weight gain (I am in 2nd tri tomorrow and have gained 2lbs so far) but I am disgusted with myself. I think when I get a 'proper' bump I won't be as down about it, because I will be recognizably pregnant and not just fat. Right now I feel horrible, an absolute mess, gross, fat, tearful all the time over weight. I know my body is going to be disgusting after birth too, and I am so scared I will resent my baby because of it.

I know just how u feel,I never had a eating disorder( well not ur bulimia anorexia type but some wud say I have a disorder) I managed to get my self up to 25 st lost the weight and have manger to control it I was put on new meds which made me gain 3lb and I almost died, I am terrified I get huge ( still not tiny as it is 12st 10 at 5ft 7. ) I want this baby soo much but I watch everything that goes in too the point maybe just maybe I am over thinking it , thing is I am only 6 weeks so I ave bleeding ages to go (btw I got 4 lb off of the 3 lb I gained) :/