Does anyone worry they'll be the 'less liked' parent?

[xAmiixLouisex]

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[blamesydney]

My biggest fear is that I'll end up having to be the STRICT parent and scarlet will decide she doesn't want to stay with me anymore. You're not alone.

 

[Ceejay123]

Sweetie no matter what happens... Even if they enjoy gifts and attention from Daddy.. You're going to be the parent that they want when they're hurt or upset ! My Dad lives abroad and used to shower me with gifts when he saw me.. Bought my first car, spoiled me rotten. My Mum is still my number one parent, she is the one I can count on to be there for me.. x

 

[Kate&Lucas]

Every bloody day. His Dad doesn't say 'no' to him. He doesn't have to, he doesn't have to try getting him to sleep after 20 chocolate bars or have to deal with the consequences when he only wants ice cream for dinner everyday because his Dad lets him. So of course, when Lucas is upset and wants to do something I can't let him, he won't entertain me and cries for his Dad. I feel like good cop bad cop half the time.
So yeah, I do worry constantly that I'll be seen as the 'boring' parent and be less liked. I guess it's just something I have to go with. I just tell myself he only likes him because he doesn't know what a spineless knob he is

 

[mummy_ellie09]

I always feel like this! Josh's dad never tells him off(for want of better wording) so I feel like a meanie> God knows what has gone on before when Josh has been at his dads. WHo knows how spoilt they made him...

 

[tooyoung]

it's gonna get worse because I think when LO gets older they think being with the other parent is like being on vacation. They usually, from what I have observed with family and friends, will try to take advantage too; make the other parent feel guilty and therefore 'ask' (can't think of the right word) to be spoiled.
As someone else here said, in the end, it's the parent who sets the rules and is there through thick and thin that gets (or should get) the respect and love.
As long as you are a kind and loving parent, try not to worry about what the other 'parent' is doing. However, if you think the spoiling is really affecting LO at your place, mention it and ask him to cool it a bit!

 

[rockabillymom]

Lilly is attached to her daddy like crazy and of course I always feel like the bad guy because I am trying to teach her manners and when not.to do.something but he gives her everything her little heart desires. Whenever he comes around she doesn't want anything to do with me I'm afraid that now that we are split up and she sees him less that shell not want me. He was a shitty father the first 4 monthes and abondoned her and then decided to come around and be Mr amazing now. I hope she will know when she is older though who was always there for her

 

[Snowball]

Not at all. My ex made such a balls up of everything... Short of having all the kids brainwashed by a hypnotist, he's got no chance of being their favourite person when they grow up. Our 6 year old already hates him and tells him everytime he sees her.