Hi Ladies,
Now I'm not to sure if I'm posting this in the right section so ill apologise in advance and also for this lengthy post.
My SIL is having a lot of trouble conceiving herself she's been told that there are a number of problems with her eggs and other things and that she is possibly infertile, now I have done a lot of research as I am thinking of donating my eggs to her I have not yet mentioned anything to her and I'm not even sure if its something they would consider.
I know that some will say its better coming from an annonomus donor as they wouldn't have any emotional ties to the child and seeing as I would be part of the child's life and also the aunt this has crossed my mind, how would I feel looking at that child and seeing a very strong resemblance to my own daughter? Knowing that I am biologically that child's mother? But then I think I know I could do this yes the egg has come from me but I am just giving her the equipment she needs in order to get something I know they so desparetly want and would complete their life, the child wouldn't be mine I haven't carried the baby I haven't bonded with the child I haven't raise the baby they will have done all things a parent does.
I know this is not as simple as I'm making it out please believe me I have not made this decision lightly I know the risks and what is involved I guess the one thing that scares me is that when that child turns 18 legally s/he would be intitled to know the truth about their journey into the world and I wonder how or if this would affect things?
Also as I have not mentioned this to my SIL yet how she would react to my offer? I would hate to offend her by offering and I don't know if me being part of the family might complicate things for her? I guess one of the only ways I would know is by speaking to the family, I know they have considered adoption, IVF and also surrogacy. Maybe this isn't a good idea and I shouldn't mention this to them at all? I just want to help them get the one thing I know they so desparetly want and if I can do something so little to help I am willing to do this.
I guess I'm just looking for some views opinions etc I'm also not expecting all positives just any kind of advise would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks for reading x
Now I'm not to sure if I'm posting this in the right section so ill apologise in advance and also for this lengthy post.
My SIL is having a lot of trouble conceiving herself she's been told that there are a number of problems with her eggs and other things and that she is possibly infertile, now I have done a lot of research as I am thinking of donating my eggs to her I have not yet mentioned anything to her and I'm not even sure if its something they would consider.
I know that some will say its better coming from an annonomus donor as they wouldn't have any emotional ties to the child and seeing as I would be part of the child's life and also the aunt this has crossed my mind, how would I feel looking at that child and seeing a very strong resemblance to my own daughter? Knowing that I am biologically that child's mother? But then I think I know I could do this yes the egg has come from me but I am just giving her the equipment she needs in order to get something I know they so desparetly want and would complete their life, the child wouldn't be mine I haven't carried the baby I haven't bonded with the child I haven't raise the baby they will have done all things a parent does.
I know this is not as simple as I'm making it out please believe me I have not made this decision lightly I know the risks and what is involved I guess the one thing that scares me is that when that child turns 18 legally s/he would be intitled to know the truth about their journey into the world and I wonder how or if this would affect things?
Also as I have not mentioned this to my SIL yet how she would react to my offer? I would hate to offend her by offering and I don't know if me being part of the family might complicate things for her? I guess one of the only ways I would know is by speaking to the family, I know they have considered adoption, IVF and also surrogacy. Maybe this isn't a good idea and I shouldn't mention this to them at all? I just want to help them get the one thing I know they so desparetly want and if I can do something so little to help I am willing to do this.
I guess I'm just looking for some views opinions etc I'm also not expecting all positives just any kind of advise would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks for reading x