Donor IUI Success?

[Dani88]

Hi everyone,

I thought I would post this here to see if I could get any responses from ladies who are currently pregnant.

My DH and I have been trying to conceive for over two years. We found out in August 2015 that he had a count of zero sperm. We saw a specialist and tried everything we possibly could to change that and when nothing worked we booked a Micro TESE procedure to try to extract sperm for IVF (the Doctor told us this would be our only hope). The procedure did not go as we had hoped. Very few extremely immature and underdeveloped sperm were found and we were informed that in all likelihood they will not survive the thaw.

After a lot of heartache and grief for our biological children we probably won’t have, we decided to move on to using donor sperm and IUI. I went in Tuesday morning (CD15) for the IUI. Everything went well. I did an unmedicated cycle as they wanted to try that first as I don’t appear to have any fertility problems. I did the trigger shot (Ovidrel) on the Sunday night (CD13) at 8:55 PM and went in for 9 AM (IUI was at precisely 9:25 AM – I looked at my watch) on Tuesday morning – 36 and a half hours after the trigger. Before the IUI I went for an ultrasound at 8:30 AM and was told my egg just dropped and that it was perfect timing. Was also told my lining was 13.3mm triple line, which they said was really good. The Doctor who did the IUI even said that she could tell I was ready. They nurse said there was a lot of sperm (and she let me look at them under a microscope, which was cool), but I was never given a number or any stats on it.

So far I feel fine, other than feeling bloated. Tuesday night and Wednesday morning I had serious hot flashes and was feeling a little crampy, but probably just due to the trigger shot – I could definitely tell I ovulated… all my regular signs of ovulation were intensified. I started taking progesterone pills vaginally Tuesday night. I go in for my blood test Monday October 17th in the morning.

I was never told what my chances are and am trying to be cautiously optimistic. I am looking for stories from others who have gone through a similar journey and are pregnant or have a child. I am interested to know how many attempts it took and what you did differently the cycle that did work. I will also like to hear any tips for the two week wait.

Thanks!

 

[Moom7900]

I don't have any experience of IUI or donor sperm, etc, but I wanted to wish you good luck! I hope you get your BFP! Xxxxx

 

[2have4kids]

Hi Dani, you'd prob find many more responses on the assisted threads. But we had issues with me, being DOR I tried 6 IVF's and we were also on the adoption list as I kept mc-ing (turns out I also have immune issues too). Then we accidentally conceived our DD naturally while awaiting AF to come before our 7th IVF (3rd donor egg IVF). Now that we have her I just wanted siblings for her before she grew up too much AND before I had to go back to work from my year long maternity leave here in Canada. In case there was disappointment I didn't want to have to deal with it while at work. So I left baby with DH and hopped over to Czech Republic where I put back 2 donor embryos that match my DH and my profiles. I'm over having my own biological kids and I'm also over the $10K price tag everytime we try a fresh DE IVF. My utmost priority is to have another healthy baby to complete our family and most importantly a sibling for our DD. Well we lucked out and we're having twins! We're really looking forward to our family of 3 children under the age of 2 even though it'll be a handful. They'll all be very close to each other in socialization and possibly even in the same school year. I'll never forget when I was blubbering away in the car after my first IVF what DH said to comfort me...it's not about having our own biological kids, it's about having a family and being a mum and a dad. I could have just kissed him a thousand times right then and there for putting such a beautiful perspective on the matter and I try not to forget that each day. I do worry that the twins will look nothing like the three of us but in the end I will love them just the same and hey maybe they won't have to deal with the infertility issues and spaced teeth and arthritis that I did! There's always a silver lining to every situation.
There are so many questions and boundaries to greet with assisted conception, I hope you & DH are able to navigate without too much stress. One of the most important things to me are that my children understand just how badly we wanted to have them and how grateful we are to have them in our lives everyday. We also have done much research on the matter and would never ever think of lying to them about their roots. The truth will ALWAYS come out about donor anything and we view it as our job to navigate that topic in a way that they become proud of who they are, grow solid foundations, and trust us to always be truthful with them. Saying that, there's a way to do so that's age appropriate and when we do tell them we are also going to discuss the implications about revealing private information into the public realm. There's been so much damage done to families who've dealt with closed adoptions, parents who've not told the truth about childrens' roots ie donor or adoptive beginnings and it's my priority to never allow them to feel betrayed if I can possibly help it. And it's my job that if they wish to reveal their private information to their friends, that we coach them on how to deal with teasing and bullying, which a parent is responsible for anyway, no matter what the subject be.

Congratulations to you, I wish you all the best with however many children you wish to have!