Dont know how to cope....

[natasja32]

After my son Bodhis funeral yesterday. MIL has had my two and half year old for a week now,we just got him bk today. I have missed him the week he has been at his nannas house. Was bath time for him earlier,and he was creaming and didnt want to get in bed. I ended up getting angry with him and burst into tears. I just cant cope with him at the moment....I feel bad and am just feeling crappy at doing most things now.....

 

[plumplump]

I am so sorry for your loss hun, you so need to give yourself a big break and allow yourself time to catch your breath and get your head and heart back together. you have been through a very traumatic experience and you can't expect to bounce back straight away it is going to take time. Go easy on yourself surely nobody expects you to be 100% already and will lend a hand when you need. Things will go back to normal in time but you have to grieve and it is perfectly natural and normal so don't get annoyed at yourself in the mean time. My heart goes out to you.
You are in my thoughts chicken big hug to you

 

[Csunshine013]

I am truly sorry for your loss. I am feeling very raw as well. We lost our baby Mar 9. We opted to not have a funeral. I guess it was because we were only 15w+5d. I know it is very hard some days to even get out of bed, but I do have a 10yr old daughter and she is just as affected. I know each day that I get up and make it through is another day closer to feeling at least normal. My best to you and yours. Hope tomorrow is a better day. One day at a time and maybe someday it will be better.

 

[sassy_k83]

I'm so sorry for you hun, I too have a young child and when I mc I think I vented some of my anger and pain on her and then judging myself very harshly. We know we shouldn't and that its not fair to them but we are human. Dont beat yourself up hun (i know thats easier said than done) give yourself time to grieve and let your hormones settle. We think because we are already moms we have to stay strong but everything you are feeling is normal and im positive no one will think bad of you. people will understand and things will get better.

Thinking of you.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[TheNewWife]

Natasja, I can't even image how you are coping at all. Losing a baby at full-term has to be one of the most awful things that can happen to anyone.

Let your family chip in as much as possible and help to shoulder the load so you can do what you need to come to terms with everything. I'm sure that no one minds your mood swings or tears - they are natural and you are perfectly entitled.

Hang in there, hon.

 

[Jkelmum]

Things take time sweetie plz do not judge yourself hardly i know as much as u want to be with your two and half year old you need time to get your head around whats happened also your body needs time to heal from givin birth to your angel ...execpt help where you can and take each day as it comes i am sorry there isnt anything we can say or do to help
hugs serina xxx

 

[Aidedhoney]

As said these things take time, each day you get through is a major achievement, its ok to cry its part of the process. You should perhaps get in touch with your local SANDS group. They can put you in touch with other people who are going through the same thing.
Every emotion your feeling is perfectly normal and understandable.
Big hugs to you and your family xxxx

 

[becky77]

so sorry for your loss, go easy on yourself , i think your doing wonderfully well to even get out of bed, remember children are very resilient and will not hold it against you so dont beat yourself up. take one day at a time and get family and friends to chip in if your having a tough day.
again so very sorry
xx

 

[jen35]

So sorry to read of your loss it must hurt terribly. I hope you find some peace soon hon. I just want to send you some hugs and know that we are here for you.

 

[Chilli]

It's really tough isn't it? I have a 2 year old who learnt what "sad" looks like in recent weeks and often looks at me and ask "Mummy sad?" which breaks my heart. I explained to her why Mummy was sad after my MC which helped a little as I told her that it was nothing to do with her but Mummy was going to be a bit sad for a while because she lost the baby. Her response was to go and get me her baby and give it to me with a hug!!!
But I think it helped her to realise that it wasn't her fault and it helped me not to feel guilty the times that I couldn't hold it in any more when she was around. Like a friend of mine said to me, your child knows your a good Mummy most of the time and that you're having a hard time for the moment, but you are still his good Mummy! He's lucky to have you even though you're not 100% at the moment! Good luck with it all, it's so hard I know but you're in my thoughts

 

[mama2connor]

Firstly i just want to say how sorry i am for your loss. I lost my identical twin boys at just over 16 weeks gestation and the pain i felt was unbearable, and still to this day i find it hard so i can only imagine the pain you felt when you lost your precious boy. It's completely normal to feel the way you are, i felt the same with my 4 year old son after i lost my twins. It will get a little easier with time and while i know you are hurting, and feel you can't cope, you have a little boy who will help you get through this hard time and you need to try and remain strong around him. If you need anymore help from friends and family do not be afraid to ask for that help. What your going through right now is something that no mother should ever have to go through. My sympathy and love is with you, and if you ever feel you need to talk to someone, feel free to message me! xxx

 

[maddiwatts19]

i am so sorry for your loss

 

[Cupcake Queen]

Hi
Thoughts and prayers are with you - hope you are feeling ok today.
Take care
Cupcake Queen