Dont know if ive done the right thing

[shiawase]

I have just told my ex that he can no longer see liam if he wants to he'll have to go through court. Im just fed up of the way he treats me for example i offered to pay for his train fare so he can see our boy 3/4 times a week before he goes full time and he said no because then i'll be getting my own way and im not calling the shots on this one he'd rather insult me then just take the offer i know i would as i cant bear to be away from him for more then a few hours theres alot more to the argument but im just tired of the way he treats me and all the name calling, when he is down to have liam he picks fights with me he doesnt play with him just sits there on his laptop with liam on his lap moaning hes had all week to do what he wants and he cant spare a few hours fully concetrated on liam, i havent had any money for weeks i said i'll go csa and all he said was ha enjoy your £8 week and u wont even get that because im only part time and it pisses me off, i feel bad for doing this and im proberbly being a bitch by doing it but theres only so much i can take. He isnt on the birth cert and liam has my second name so i dont know what will happen when he contacts whoever it is or how long it will take. sorry for the rant i have no one else to talk 2

 

[jenniferannex]

Hun I think you have done the right thing. He seems to be making no effort to see his son! Even though you shouldn't have to pay for his train fair to see his own son, you have offered and he has still said no. He's obviously more interested in having a go at you then seeing his son.
He sounds like he needs a sharp kick up the ass and has alot of growing up to do. Maybe you telling him this will make him realise he can't mess you or your son around as your not standing for it.
I can't believe he said that about CSA he should definatly not be laughing! He helped create your gorgeous little boy and it sounds to me he's making every excuse to not help pay for him, or see him.

I think you have done the right thing hun hope your ok xxx

 

[lou_w34]

Because he is not on the BC he technically has no more rights to your son then any man on the street has! So (if im remembering correctly) the court would first establish paternity before even thinking of deciding access, all very costly, not too mention it can take ages, in some cases years. So its up to your ex if he wants to pay... unless he is entitled to legal aid that is.

Its annoying that he wont take what you are offering, which in my opinion is more than fair, its bloody nice of you too offer to pay for him to get a train!! He should be jumping at the chance to see his son and thanking you for offering to pay! I know i wouldnt do it, my ex kept expecting me to take LO down to him, and i told him if he wants to see LO he needs to get off his arse and make the effort to see her. So yes i think you have done the right thing! By doing this you will soon see how much he wants to see LO



xx

 

[billy2mm]

i think you have done the right thing. if he isnt paying towards his son and isnt interacting with him then whats the point of him coming to see him?
deffo get on to the sca coz £8 a week is better than nothing!! nearly a big box of nappies after all that will last well over a week!!

 

[Laura2919]

I think you have done the right thing.. You have tried and there is only so much someone can take..
You may get more than £8 a week you may not but make a claim because its what he should be giving..
They always think they can just walk away and leave it all.. Idiots

 

[shiawase]

He's just so annoying, its always my fault apparently! He even just had the nerve to say he's proberbly not the father anyway!! How i stay so calm i dont know! It seems so easy for him tho, out of sight out of mind i suspose, i feel sorry for liam but at least i know he'll always have me and thats all he needs!