Don't know what to do

[Perdita]

My mum is essentially in a coma, the hospital don't know what's wrong and no-one can say what's going to happen. My dad and sister are with her but I'm snowed in and my sister keeps asking if I can get through but I jut don't feel I can risk travelling. Even if I did drive I wouldn't chance it on the roads as have no idea what they are like all the way across to the other side of scotland and the trains aren't running reliably either and would be four trains plus bus/taxi to get to the hospital. Even more snow has been falling in the past few hours.
I just don't want people to hate me for not going but the baby has to come first no matter how that makes other people feel or how awful I feel. Just feel lost and no idea what to do for the best.
Sorry, just not having a good time, just passed the first anniversary of losing Evie as well so has been stressful up to now as well.
xx

 

[hb1]

What would your mum want you to do? I think she would want you and her grandchild safely tucked away at home - she would understand as a mother and as your mother she would understand how worried you are.

She also isn't going to be aware that you aren't there right now.

While they don't know what's wrong they equally don't know what the prognosis is - she could be in a coma for a while - my mum ( before I was born ) was in a coma for 6 weeks ( she also says she didn't hear / know anything that went on around her while she was in the coma - one minute she was being hit by a car - the next she woke up in the hospital )

for Evie's anniversary

hx

 

[cupcakemomma]

I think you made the right choice. I've been hearing on the news about the terrible snowstorms you're getting over there. I agree with hb1, I'm sure your mother would want you and the baby safe at home. If you did travel out, and something happened, you would never forgive yourself (well, at least I wouldn't). Stay safe and warm over there! Btw, I think Evie is a beautiful name, I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[korrinalex]

I am so sorry to read your post...what a nightmare for you. I am in Glasgow (I take it that is where your mum is?) and most of the trains are not running, all schools are closed, etc... so things are not at all good for travelling. I understand the roads are passable (but treacherous), however, the minor roads are not cleared at all and there are people stuck everywhere in their cars.
You cannot change things by being there, so don't feel awful about it. Keep yourself and your wee baby safe and warm. Your family should understand and your mum would NEVER want you to risk it.
Mobile phones are a great thing in these circumstances. I hope you and your family can support each other over the phone until things get better. This bad time will pass. xx

 

[Perdita]

Thank you all, mum passed away early hours of yeterday morning - she didn't regain conciousness at any point. I might be able to get there to see my dad and sister soon but in the meantime there's really nothing I can do but wait for travel to be possible.
xx

 

[hb1]

So sorry

 

[Pretty Please]

I'm really sorry to hear you news - Warm wishes to you and your family.

Look after yourself and your little baby

 

[Jox]

aww im so so sorry thinking of you and all your family

xxx

 

[debgreasby]

 

[mislaww]

I'm so very sorry for your loss, Perdita. I wish there was something I could say. Big hugs.

 

[Pippin]

I'm so sorry I was going to say exactly what the ladies above said I hope you can get over to see your family soon. So sorry for your loss.