Dont know what to do

[lilysmum]

Ive got a 4 week old baby daughter Lily and me and her dad decided to go our seperate ways (2 b honest we were never really 2gether) when i was about 5 months pregnant and at 1st he was totally fine about seeing Lily and being there for in fact he surprised me of his reaction and I was really proud he was seeming to take such an interest.

However 2 weeks ago he gets back with an x girlfriend (who lost his baby and went mental when she find out he had a new baby) and then suddenly he starts demanding to see our daughter for more than a few hours at the weekend and wants to take her on her own without me or anyone else being there. I tried to explain that I didnt think this was a good idea because hes a stranger to her as hes only ever bothered to see her for about 4 hours in total since she was born and could we not just keep the visits the way they were for a few weeks more till she gets used to him and to prove he will take time to visit her as on previous occasions hes ignored visits to go to the football.

Anyways he turns round and says hes gonna take me to court and get access that way, i told him that was fine by me as I have never said he couldnt have visits as I wanted him to be part of her life. I asked for name and address of his lawyer so mines could get in touch as I wanted all this sorted straight away, after about 10 mins of me textin him for name and address he replies its best for everyone if he just cuts all ties with our daughter

So now im totally confused, should i still seek legal advice on the off chance hes just tryin to put me off contacting my lawyer or just face facts he wants nothing to do with our daughter. His name is also on the birth certificate which means he has PR but I dont think this is fair if hes saying he doesnt wanna know her, can I do anything about this?

Thanks for taking the time to read thisv and for any help u can offer.
I apologise for such a long post but i really dont know what to do or who to turn to

 

[navarababe]

Hey hun, i didnt wanna read and run. I think maybe you should still seek legal advise just incase he is trying to distract u by saying that. ALthough his name on the birth certificate, really he hasnt got a leg to stand on if he takes u to court and he'd be wasting his time and yours. You have offered him to see his daughter, and that isnt good enough for him.He does understand that you are her mum and you worry about her. Hope everything gets sorted out hun.

 

[Sarah88]

I'd keep the msgs and also seek legal advice. Good luck hun xox

 

[Stardancer]

I would seek legal advice, and make a note of the conversation - date and time and what he said regarding cutting ties. Keeping records of conversations like that will help if he does decide to pursue it through the courts.

I know you want him to be involved with your Daughter, but if he's one of those let-you-down kinda dads he might do more harm than good, and it seems to me that his girlfriend might be behind this pushing for more access thing, which is a worry given that she lost a baby - some people go a bit koo-koo.

You're job is to pretect your daughter, so do what you have to sweetie, and don't take any sh*t.