dont know what to think?

[lushious09]

Well basicly i was with the babys father for about 4 years and we split 2months after finding out due to me discovering he was cheating...

Long story short it was a horrific emotional rollercoaster for first 3months then he seemed to become more acceptant and would talk 2 me about names asked to come to the scan and basicly became very civil... last thing he said to me before hes parents found out was that wed be ok and everything would be fine... literally a week after his rents found out he turned damn ryt nasty to me... i didnt even tell them!

Its been 2months since they found out and he told me that this month he would buy baby items and we would discuss terms... now hes claiming he dosnt wanna talk about it and its my fault his parents are angry he lied, he no longer has anyone, and hes lost his mates ... how is any of that my doing he has no one and lost his mates due to fucking me about! and as for his parents like they said to me if he had told them earlier it wouldnt have been so hard!

Ive txt and tried my damn hardest to discuss things for babys sake but all i get is i dont wanna discuss it ryt now im fed up... or just basic nastyness ive even asked him out straight if u dont wanna bother with this baby just say ... i get no response!!! and when i do he avoids answering it and just goes on bout summit else!!! i asked him at start if he wanted involvment and he said a part of him does ... i asked again n again through the months and i always had the same answer even after his parents found out "im not gonna wash my hands of this"...

... bt why not just tell me that then? why play games at mine and babys expense because your having a strop!!!... its pathetic... if he didnt want involvment all he has to do is txt me with no i dont!... it aint hard... its like he does wanna be involved he just dosnt wanna admit it and accept things aint that bad after all the fuss hes caused

just wanted to rant and see what other ppl thought... my mum says i should just wash my hands bt i dont want my baby not having his daddy there especially after he sat there thinking up names went to the scan and felt him kick. Not just that but he was with me for 4 bloody years im not just some back alley slag he knocked up!!! *sigh*

 

[billy2mm]

hun.

i would try one last time and make him realise that this is the last time you will try. say something like im going to look for a going home outfit and if you wanna come and be involved i will be at such and such a place at such and such a time if you are there good if not then fine we will both know where we stand and leave it at that.

you sound like you are doing everything you can and he is struggling with his guilt and taking it out on you which is totally not on!

 

[LittleMadam]

I agree with your Mum, wait for him to get back to you. I understand you want him to have contact with LO but he has to want it. Personally, I think you've more than done your part in terms of trying to get him involved. Now it is his turn. Only he can decide if he wants to be involved or not.

Stop letting him ruin your pregnancy. Just get on with your life with LO.

Best. xx

 

[lushious09]

yea i agree. It just annoys me how he has gone from been supportive and making an effort to suddenly talking to me like crap and treating me like ive done wrong!!!... His dad was lovely to me saying how he felt heartbroken for me and his son needs to grow up... but 2 weeks since speaking to his dad and were still dealing with childish behaviour... i just keep thinking if u dont want involvment just bloody say and its done problem over! i dont think he bloody knows what he wants

 

[lulu35]

i would take your mums advice, you'll be amazed at how quickly he will be the one running to you if he thinks you've just given up on him...hes using your emotions against you and playing very childish games prob for attention, he choose to cheat on you and he has to take responsability for that, youve done all you can and now i think its time you showed him your not willing to play anymore, there are many babies/children who thrive with just one parent even though two would be nice, but you have your mum and you baby has you